u can blame anyone for anything but to drag up past garbage does a relationship no good, and when one partner does that regularly, it usually means the beginning of the end

nonetheless, if it was me, and I saw stuff happening that he "promised" wouldn't happen..again that were past issues - prolly wouldn't bring it up but I'd most likely leave if it happened more than once or twice, so ya, I'd be alert for it

Sometimes when someone blames you for their past, they're the one who screwed up!!!!

sometimes, but most likely not.

Someone who has an issue with their partner has to be able to raise those comfortably. I (for example), am not going to raise an issue and risk a rift in my relationship unless there's no other option for me.

When someone raises an issue with you, it is a way of saying , hey, I want this relationship but we need to talk about some things so that I can stay happy in it.

Most people will not get irate with you unless they feel backed into a corner or threatened. Or, if you are unresponsive, won't listen, play games, or otherwise are not taking her feelings seriously.

I am way past the irate stage myself - I just leave

And men are raised not to be communicative about their feelings - like it's a weakness. So as a man, it can be a challenge

i have been hurt in many many ways by my last2 ex,s so i know what may happen but with this one i know it wont, but i now know all the hallmarks that come with it and my GF knows about what they did same as i know what hers have done but we are both are moving onwards and upwards and enjoying the ride

that's awesome

you have a lot of spirit to go for it again - usually the rewards are worth it

at a certain point we've all been hurt somewhere along the line & don't want to pass that on to anyone or experience it again

it's great u guys had that talk