Topic: so when is the right time?
buttons's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:16 PM

I think remembering the good is important.. It doesn't matter that they didn't work out, what matters is how you felt and what you experienced during those meaningful relationships... Usually it's those relationships that show us some of the things we desire and require in a person...
lol joy!!!!!!!!!! i so agree! i learned a lot of what i like from them.. and actually much less of what i did not like.. however learned different things from each.. oh except that one! lol!laugh :wink:

TheShadow's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:21 PM

i can never seem to hit it... do guys just like the chase? once a gal bites its over? i dont get it! ive done everything.. i guess wrong i show no interest for a week to 8 weeks.. nothing in there seems to be right... what is the right time? or is there one?


if I have to chase someone to keep them interested. the it's a wast of my time. I can see a little bit of it being it's the net. But some don't know their limits.

The other thing I have to look at is and say to myself. I'm the one that picks the person i'm interested in. So if things are not working out. What is it that I'm attracted to that keeps me gong through the same things and try to change it.

davidben1's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:22 PM
Edited by davidben1 on Wed 12/22/10 11:38 PM
nothing can be in control of it's own fate, and destiny, which is nothing more than the reality of what SELF creates TO EXIST, unless it speaks what it wants, when it wants it.

trying to "play it", by configuring how to work out what SELF WANTS IN ADVANCE, will but return disapointment time and again.

say what YOU WANT, when YOU want it.

to try to figure out how to keep a guy WANTING, or interested, will never ever work with the wished results.

IT DON'T FUCCKING MATTER WHAT HE WANTS.

you say what you want, when you want it, and take that as long as HE WANTS TO GIVE IT.

who says it is supposed to LAST FOREVER.

perhaps one is SUPPOSED TO LEARN, or get more wise, FROM EACH ALONG THE PATH OF LIFE.

there is NO WORD OR ACTION A WOMEN CAN DO "EVER", TO MAKE A MAN "LOVE HER"...

say what you want, and the man that keeps wanting WHAT YOU WANT, loves you.


buttons's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:24 PM


i can never seem to hit it... do guys just like the chase? once a gal bites its over? i dont get it! ive done everything.. i guess wrong i show no interest for a week to 8 weeks.. nothing in there seems to be right... what is the right time? or is there one?

you have had no luck, are u kiddin??????
now i really doubt my own luck (which hasnt been good) sheeesh
oh i have made my own choices in the past... my issues.. i have learned a lot i guess it takes way more time is all... and i am taking that time...:wink:

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:24 PM


I think remembering the good is important.. It doesn't matter that they didn't work out, what matters is how you felt and what you experienced during those meaningful relationships... Usually it's those relationships that show us some of the things we desire and require in a person...
lol joy!!!!!!!!!! i so agree! i learned a lot of what i like from them.. and actually much less of what i did not like.. however learned different things from each.. oh except that one! lol!laugh :wink:


Which you learned something from b/c you know what you didn't learn :wink:

kc0003's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:25 PM
Yes people couple all of the time, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are at the same place in the relationship.

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:27 PM
Edited by IndnPrncs on Wed 12/22/10 11:29 PM

Yes people couple all of the time, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are at the same place in the relationship.


That's true but if it's obvious, then the one that is in the more committed place should probably rethink it.. What I'm talking about is when the two people are in the same place at the same time.. If they're not then really they have nothing so the "clicking" is moot...

buttons's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:28 PM


i can never seem to hit it... do guys just like the chase? once a gal bites its over? i dont get it! ive done everything.. i guess wrong i show no interest for a week to 8 weeks.. nothing in there seems to be right... what is the right time? or is there one?


if I have to chase someone to keep them interested. the it's a wast of my time. I can see a little bit of it being it's the net. But some don't know their limits.

The other thing I have to look at is and say to myself. I'm the one that picks the person i'm interested in. So if things are not working out. What is it that I'm attracted to that keeps me gong through the same things and try to change it.
yea but i read too somewhere.. to not make yourself so available... not that i have done that intentionally... but read that i give too much.. and it wasnt that.. it was i really wasnt ready to give my all.. i wonder when that time is right? or is it ever? i dont really know.. i know i am a giver... and do gove too much too fast when i want to... the times i wasnt ready i may have missed out really.. but like joy said and kc when the time is right maybe it will all come together?

kc0003's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:31 PM


Yes people couple all of the time, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are at the same place in the relationship.


That's true but if it's obvious then the one that is in the more committed place should probably rethink it.. What I'm talking about is when the two people are in the same place at the same time.. If they're not then really they have nothing so the "clicking" is moot...


but the question wasn't about that. if that were the case this thread would not be here.

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:32 PM



Yes people couple all of the time, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are at the same place in the relationship.


That's true but if it's obvious then the one that is in the more committed place should probably rethink it.. What I'm talking about is when the two people are in the same place at the same time.. If they're not then really they have nothing so the "clicking" is moot...


but the question wasn't about that. if that were the case this thread would not be here.


Damn, I guess I changed the OP.. sorry Buttons, sorry KC... I'll go to my corner now with my Nyquil...

kc0003's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:35 PM
no, no, you keep posting and we will archive them so you can use them later when that topic comes around next week.

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:36 PM
laugh laugh laugh laugh hey obviously I have something to say and you're right it will be relevant at some point... I just hope someone will be so kind as to copy and paste for me...

kc0003's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:37 PM
done!

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:39 PM
I knew I could count on you Boo... flowers

buttons's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:39 PM
damn my post poof disappeared!

buttons's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:40 PM
no i like all the input!

buttons's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:41 PM
ha ha kc! well i dont know i havent been on here for a while i missed the posts i did not mean to repost...

buttons's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:41 PM

nothing can be in control of it's own fate, and destiny, which is nothing more than the reality of what SELF creates TO EXIST, unless it speaks what it wants, when it wants it.

trying to "play it", by configuring how to work out what SELF WANTS IN ADVANCE, will but return disapointment time and again.

say what YOU WANT, when YOU want it.

to try to figure out how to keep a guy WANTING, or interested, will never ever work with the wished results.

IT DON'T FUCCKING MATTER WHAT HE WANTS.

you say what you want, when you want it, and take that as long as HE WANTS TO GIVE IT.

who says it is supposed to LAST FOREVER.

perhaps one is SUPPOSED TO LEARN, or get more wise, FROM EACH ALONG THE PATH OF LIFE.

there is NO WORD OR ACTION A WOMEN CAN DO "EVER", TO MAKE A MAN "LOVE HER"...

say what you want, and the man that keeps wanting WHAT YOU WANT, loves you.



IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:42 PM
I may have gotten on my own train of thought but you knew what station Buttons... :wink:

buttons's photo
Wed 12/22/10 11:52 PM

nothing can be in control of it's own fate, and destiny, which is nothing more than the reality of what SELF creates TO EXIST, unless it speaks what it wants, when it wants it.

trying to "play it", by configuring how to work out what SELF WANTS IN ADVANCE, will but return disapointment time and again.

say what YOU WANT, when YOU want it.

to try to figure out how to keep a guy WANTING, or interested, will never ever work with the wished results.

IT DON'T FUCCKING MATTER WHAT HE WANTS.

you say what you want, when you want it, and take that as long as HE WANTS TO GIVE IT.

who says it is supposed to LAST FOREVER.

perhaps one is SUPPOSED TO LEARN, or get more wise, FROM EACH ALONG THE PATH OF LIFE.

there is NO WORD OR ACTION A WOMEN CAN DO "EVER", TO MAKE A MAN "LOVE HER"...

say what you want, and the man that keeps wanting WHAT YOU WANT, loves you.


ill try this once more...i do not want to create what has been a negative thing in my past.. for this is why i made this post.. am i perfect NOOOOO! have i created past mistakes YES! do i try to better myself YES! and by gosh i have!
self wants..yes we all do want to have what we want.. but gosh reality is.. sit back and watch if they cant give what u want . move on!
i myself dont try to figure out what a guy wants.. if they dont have to give what i dont want.. i move on... however i do let them know! i do not play games. i have learned what i want.. and i do still learn more.. as i age.no one says it it will last forever .. for everything in life is a chance... but what you learn from each experience is what counts..
i dont want to "make" a man love me.. i would however like a man to love me for who i am.. as i would like to love them for. you can not change anyone.. nor do i wish to do so..
i am me.. if i am not for them so be it.. but dont want to be stringed along... :smile: