I've been in a relationship with a wonderful girl for about 3 years now and I know that as ppl grow they change. Well she's been basically cooped up in the house for most of her life (strict parents), not rlly letting her go ne where. But now that she's about to go to college, she's now old enough to pretty much do whatever she wants and recently she went to a party and basically went stupid. Now she wants to go out all the time w/ her friends, which is ok w/ me cuz I feel dat after being cooped up so long she needs to go out. But she wants to be a party girl tho, like get piss drunk, run in the street but naked, go to clubs and all that other stuff. She's loyal so her cheating isn't an issue it's just that I feel that ever since she's got a taste of that "night life" it feels like recently she's been distant. She once proposed that we separate for a while (it was just a thought) b/c she was afraid dat she mite do something to hurt me. I told her that as long as she's having "legal" fun and not cheating on me then it's all good but she wants to grow up and be somebody and if she goes out and does all dat crazy stuff, it won't really look good on her morality record. I love her to death and I dont wanna separate from her. wat do u guys think?

Hey there. She needs this time to find herself. She hasn't done a whole lot and needs to discover what else is out there. I say give her space and some time to find out who she is without her parents and if its meant to be she will come back to you.

I've been there,man.

Nearly 7 years, I supported her in school for 4 for her College. We lived 2gether 4 1 1/2 years.
After she graduated she confessed to cheating during her exams,blamed it on "stress"

We loved each other, and we were engaged.

Let this be a warning to you. Freedom and alcohol are a bad mix.
Stress and booze can cause bad judgement.

Suffice to say, we are seperated now. There are no words for how I feel about it. But, trust me, you don't want to be where I was 4 months ago...

you have already lost her, now it's time to let her go. if you don't you will be hurt much more deeply than you have been. cheating will happen, given the new found interest in the night life. all it is going to take is the right guy at the right time.

doesnt matter what anyone says when ur drunk u tend to do stupid things like u seriously half the time dont know what ur doing. Your better off just letting her do her own thing!! at least for a little while until she realizes she dont want to do it anymore. Trust me ive been there done that!!! Except when he gave me my space i wanted to go back and it didnt happen!!!!!

i am a guy, and she is definately telling you that she will no longer be loyal to you. let her go. don't wait for her to come back. she's not for you

Take it from me you do not want a party girl. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Find a nice girl (if that is still possable in this day and age).My ex partyed the last 5 years of our marrage and did drugs, now she is on the streets.

Good Luck

Wile she is finding herself go find yourself someone else.

that is a heartbreaking story. I trust you will find someone who deserves u and be happy again

yes OP, you may need to find someone who has already sown her "wild oats"

u cannot control what this young lady does, but u can control what you do for ur own well being

It is highly likely that she will cheat on you dude. You need to cut ties, let her run wild, and when she comes back to you saying "I know you are the man for me", if you want her back then take her back. Bottom line. If you stay, she will more than likely break your heart while she goes through this phase.

if u dona wanna b'lieve me take it fro ma guy - he speaks well

lock her in the basement and hide the liquor

She's been locked up for so long, She's gonna be a little wild for a while.
To save yourself heartache, cut her loose now.

She's been locked up for so long...now free as a bird but living it up dangerously...whether you with her or not her living it up is going to end up in some kind of trouble.

lol i've considered it

Yea but it contradicts what she wants to be though, she wants to be this high powered and respected person in her field and I think that if you have a "party" background, dat crap comes back to bite u. but idk

Dude. You can party all you want, and still be high powered. Trust me. I have seen it happen.

bill clinton

let her be and hope she comes back to you. if she does...it was meant to be....if not you will be hurt either way.