I'm a new member, but not new on the singles scene. I've had no luck on the relationship front since my divorce 3 years ago, and really have no idea what I am doing wrong. The only people that want to get with me are my exes, which is weird... but I guess that says something about my character, right?

My friend's all seem to say I'm a great catch, but I don't know... starting to feel like I'm the damn Elephant Man or something. Now don't get me wrong, I'm the eternal optimist, and always try to find the positive side of things, but there is only so much a person can take.

So, really... is it just me? Should I just throw in the towel now and become a monk or something?

Hi! I don't know whats wrong....the single scene can be so weird. Your picture shows that you are cute, so I don't think looks are a problem. I wouldn't give up yet, probably just need to make the right connection with the right one. Wait on the Monk thing, you have a lot more years before considering that route.

Welcome to Mingle!

He looks very young. Wait to he gets to his 50's. He still has time to smell the roses and go after what is there. Just jump in and be positive(words and actions). That will make your quest much easier and perhaps bring that person to you.

Well, thanks y'all for the kind words. Honestly, I had a few drinks taht night and woke up ther next day think "Oh crap, what the heck did I do now?" Seriously, I thought I would get a whole bunch of "Quit your whining" or "Yeah, You probably should... cause your ugly *** is never gonna find someone." I was actually afraid of even checking to see if anybody had responded until now.

Trying to stay positive and keep my head up. Most people think I do a pretty good job too. Take care of my kids, work two jobs, fix any problem I am dealt, all with a smile on my face because I see a beauty in life that most other people don't. Didn't mean to sound like a cry baby or nothing... but I just can't help feeling a sense that I'm missing something, or someone, in my life. I look past it most of the time, but the other night it just really got to me.

And trust me, I'm not as young as I look. I'm not in my 50's yet... but them 40's are coming up pretty darn quick. Not to mention I'm a single dad raising three daughters... two of them teenagers. I've got mileage, but I don't let the road wear me down. After all, tomorrow may just be the best day I've ever had :-)

You could crash and burn,(but why?) Youth and vitality make the best out of anything or any situation. Keep on keepin' on and chart your own path through life.

Good luck in your search . Nothing wrong with asking opinions of others. I didnt take any of that as whining. I believe a lot of people can relate to your situation.