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| Topic: "Good Enough/Not Good Enough" | |
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rejection is personal, serious business lex!! their bubble has burst, their balloon deflated...and daggone it, they need answers!! after all, they need something to do while waiting for replies on the 50 other mindless emails they sent out. i agree, it's about compatability, but for some it's just a wicked imagination of prepostrous proportions, otherwise known as clueless. i recently got an email saying 'my sister has been trying to training me. but i am a wild horse and can't be trained'. clearly this person was too good for me....  Next time this happens I think I'll just write back and say "No, the truth is, I'm not good enough for you." I mean, if their existence depends so heavily on validation from a total stranger, maybe they need every bit of help they can get. I still think they should read the damn profile, though. |
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my profile is crappy and I like it that way. I am not here for LTR or anything. YES I would like to date from time to time but I try to be vague.
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my profile is crappy and I like it that way. I am not here for LTR or anything. YES I would like to date from time to time but I try to be vague. Nothing wrong with being vague if you want to do it that way. But I'm not sure it makes any difference in the long run. My profile is about as specific as it can be, short of going to people's houses and writing graffiti on their walls, and they STILL don't get it. Or they do, but they're convinced they can change my mind. |
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I guess for some people they get mislead and think when they join an online dating that means instadating. Which to be honest I have seem to come across this quite often.
They don't care about what your preferences are they see one thing that is in common and think he/she is my one. Then when they get rejected they take it too personally and think that you are too good for them or they are not good enough for you. It's like someone hearing the word compatibility and thinking "what is that?" or "you really think about that?". I personally cannot stand the guy who email me solely based on my appearance. It drives me nuts. I have met a few friends on here and that is more than what I ever expected. |
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It clearly states in article 7-C section X subsection 42 that he does not care for children. It is clear as day there on his profile. I don't get them either lex.
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It clearly states in article 7-C section X subsection 42 that he does not care for children. It is clear as day there on his profile. I don't get them either lex. I even used the internationally-recognized symbol of a stick figure of a baby with a red line through it. I don't really know what else to do at this point! |
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Ohhh I just love the ones that after they finally understand that they are not what your looking for. Then they want to know if you can introduce them to your kids or your friends...
 
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I guess for some people they get mislead and think when they join an online dating that means instadating. Which to be honest I have seem to come across this quite often. Yeah, I've seen a lot of that, too. It really doesn't make much sense -- I suppose, in theory, you could click with someone fairly quickly, but how often does that actually happen? They don't care about what your preferences are they see one thing that is in common and think he/she is my one. Then when they get rejected they take it too personally and think that you are too good for them or they are not good enough for you. It's like someone hearing the word compatibility and thinking "what is that?" or "you really think about that?". It's the whole idea of them being so presumptuous as to think they could possible know better than I do about what's "best" for me. I'm not saying I have a perfect 100% handle on it myself, but I think I must have a better read on it than a total stranger. And if someone is obviously not compatible, who benefits from pretending otherwise? I personally cannot stand the guy who email me solely based on my appearance. It drives me nuts. I have met a few friends on here and that is more than what I ever expected. Agreed, there a lot of truly amazing people here! |
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Some people also must have missed the line up when they were handing out common sense for free!
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So eklectek, So ed that mean I shouldn't have thrown myslef at you?
BTW watch out for the scammers too. I've had quite a few start with me. and when I tel ltehm I;m a cop, they tend to cool off real quick. I figured I've made friends so its all good. |
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Something I've noticed about people on dating sites, and this seems to be pretty consistent with almost every site I've tried: For some reason, the typical person who contacts me on a dating site is a 48-year-old women with 3 kids and who likes to drink. They send me e-mails along the lines of "I think we'd make a real good match!" and so on. So, I write back, thank them for their interest, and explain that I don't get involved with anyone who has kids or who drinks. Inevitably, I get a message back, and it says one of two things: "What, I'm not good enough for you?" or "What, you think you're too good for me?" But it isn't about "good" at all -- it's about simple compatibility. Why do people feel the need to fabricate a value judgment out of a plain statement of preference? I'm sure these women are perfectly good people, and if they find someone who is OK with kids and alcohol, that's great. But that's not me, and it's never going to be me. It would be nice if people would a.) take the time to read a profile before they sent a message expressing interest in someone who CLEARLY is not going to reciprocate, and b.) would stop taking it personally -- people DO have preferences. It doesn't reflect AT ALL on whether a person is "good enough" -- it reflects solely on compatibility.... so - what is it? Im not good enuff for ya ta get neked with or what?>   
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my profile is crappy and I like it that way. I am not here for LTR or anything. YES I would like to date from time to time but I try to be vague. ya vague is good -keeps options open |
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I've done the "I'm not good enough for you" with tons of sarcasm. Gimme a break. No means no, not interested means not interested, not compatible means not compatible. Duh!
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