Basically Erica and I have been together for 7 months now, or close enough to 7 months. I love her to death, but like any relationship there are the pitfalls and the pendulums. It's how we rebound from the pitfalls that is so very very hard. I love her very very much, but I keep feeling that I'm somehow not adequate emotionally for her. I always do the best I can for her, but in the back of my mind, somehow I know it's never enough. Oh well, I just want her to know that I love her dearly, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I love you, Erica!

We all have ups and downs in a relationship, as long as there are more ups than downs U will do fine together!!!

Hello Mikey

after hanging on mingle for a bit, and reading your posts over time - you seem to be a person who is rather in touch with their feelings, and you also seem to be able to communicate them well (at least, in the forums)... I remember the posts from both of you when you found each other, and have read over time how things have been going. It's been a positive story - one that others may find comforting in the fact that it can happen to them as well. Have you spent time trying to answer the questions you bring up for yourself? Perhaps some introspection on why you are feeling like you are not emotionally adequate for her? It is difficult sometimes to put aside our self pride and instinct to push back and leave yourself to be vunerable to someone else, escpecially emotionally... I think you already know that it is worth it, and good things can come your way if you do...

From what I have read of you, you are the kind of person who can...

Good luck to you both... keep talking (and doing the fun things as well)....

$.02

Sweetie, I am not new at this, but I will tell you that relationships are hard. There are times that I just want to walk away, but I don't. Trust me, things will get better, and Mikey is right...It is when you have more up's than down's that matter. In the back of everyone's mind is that thought that I am not giving my other what he/ she needs. The main point is that she knows that you love her and she loves you. Everything will work out.

Hey my dear sweet friend !! We go back to the old JSH and have been staples on what made Mingle!! Soo good to see U and that U are Happy!!

relationships are very hard, you may love her very much but it kind of sounds like she can be emotionally draining. Dont let it wear down your spirits. you are a person too. She needs to maybe be sensitive to your efforts and perhaps show you some appreciation, if all your love and sensitivity is not enough then maybe she should seek some professional help. Do you think maybe she could be BP or MD???