So I have been talking to someone who I have known for the past few years. We met on here actually. But at the time, he was with someone else. Now he is divorced. So we have been getting to know each other better, or I have been trying anyway.

The problem is, he is one of those people who, when chatting with, he will suddenly sign off and I wont hear from him until the next day. I haven't spoken to him on the phone yet as he doesn't have minutes on his phone right now. We have just been chatting on Yahoo and Facebook. I am really getting sick of the disappearances tho. It seems all my relationships end that way. They just stop talking or coming around or whatever.

When we are talking, he seems very interested in whatever I have to say, but it seems like he just signs off at the most random times. And the next day, he just says "Oh, sorry, my bad."
Can we say mixed signals?

Do you think it is worth putting forth the effort to get to know someone like this? Personally, I am getting ready to just say f*** it and move on.

NEXT!

theres 4 types you meet on dating sites

the chatters
the fakes
the for reals
the teases

i have that problem with women on here all the time.email back & forth for awhile and then suddenly i never hear from them again

Sorry, Suzanne. Only you can tell when you have had enough. For me, those sudden disappearing acts would concern me.

We do things for a reason and if I suddenly log off it might be due to a power outage, company showing up, or some other legitimate reason.

However, if it happens too often, I would begin to think that there might be something he's hiding from me.

Perhaps you can try telling him that you need this behavior to be altered or you just can't pursue a relationship with him. Surely, one would think, there would be a common ground somewhere if both parties are truly ready for a relationship.

Anyways, enough of my ramblings...

Good luck, Miss.

Yep! You nailed it! Seems like I meet a lot of fakes and teases...and the for reals are only interested in friendship.

I quit the email a long time ago on here. I only email friends now. I will send a courteous response to people but I don't take them seriously.

Thanks. I agree, I will try to talk to him about it and see if I can get a serious response out of him.

And your "ramblings" are always very helpful.

i have a friend who does that too, but i've come to know that's just...him. and believe it or not, we've both fallen asleep on the phone with each other we are a lively pair.

I do that with "just friends" sometimes too. But I think if you are trying to get involved with a person, you should be courteous enough to tell them..at least at first, so they know what to expect.

maybe you should offer him sex lol

agreed. and a simple...i gtg... isn't asking much.

^^Right?..simple courtesy


Speaking of which..I think I'm gonna call it a night...see you all later

Typically when a man tells me this as a solution, I respond with, "Well, tell ya' what. You offer him sex first. After that, I MIGHT THINK ABOUT offering him sex."

So, what do ya' say, Mike744? You gonna' offer him sex?

Look for another man here.

I always get up and walk away I have kids and I never say anything bcs they get out of control and have to move quick....just me or I. Fall asleep and don't realize and am just out...but that's just me.....

I agree 100%

the real oneS stick out........

If that was happening to me....no questions.....no threads about it

to the curb with his ***........Pronto!!!!

If there's a legitimate reason, he would pay you the courtesy of explaining. If not, there's something going on that he doesn't want you to know.

Yea, if the problem only happened while chatting online I might agree with internet trouble. But as it happens when we are texting, I don't see a reason for it to happen all the time. A simple "brb" would suffice...or "bbl"

Hummmm my first thoughts is maybe he is not really divorced or there is someone in his life which is why he signs off the way he does.... Looks like a red flag to me think I would watch out for that one....