Is it immoral to want a true relationship with someon yet contue to settle for sex with multiple partners. I feel like I want nothing more than to fined that special someone but while searching I end up fineding more women that atract me in only a sexual mannor. So I do and still feel that longing, Im not sure if thies actions are holding me back or not. What do you think?

well if it is, i'll start saying my hail mary's right now. but no, i don't think that's immoral, you just haven't found the person that quenches the desires of the mind, body and soul yet.

if you are asking its probably because your conscious is bothering you about your behavior..no matter how many superficial sexual encounters you have it wont fill the void for that something that has greater meaning in your life..

well I know it wont fill my void so to say buuttt....

hmmm...to each their own...best of luck there bud

I like the way you think bastet. That made me feel a bit better.

Immoral is if you catch a STD and knowingly pass it on to others because of random flings. Other then that, not really.

However, self-control might be better if you are seeking your one true love and you don't want to have to explain why you have screwed 50 women, as an example.

50, that was just in college jk or am i

Backs away... Lol.

is there even 50 std's out there?

its a punchline people

From a medical perspective, you are playing Russian Roulette because you are increasing your chance of contracting an STD.

As for the issue of morality . . .

How are you supposed to know if something is immoral unless you have a standard that you use to determine morality by?

People here have different standards. How do you know which person's standard is the correct one?

perhaps you are simply human? examine why you are feeling guilty - and take action to remove the guilt from your life...

you have to look yourself in the mirror every day - not at us. you must judge yourself by your own life standards, and be happy with it... if you are not happy with your actions, work to change them toward what you find to be morality...

good luck to you!

$.02

Immoral? If you are looking for that ONE person then yes you have to meet new people and try to find that person...but running through girls because you are sexually attracted to them is kind of wierd. I could see these actions holding you back for many reasons. It will make it ten times harder to meet a girl seriously if she thinks you are running through girls like 90. It's all about the messages you send. Running through girls usually illustrates a major lack of commitment or direction. Now that doesn't mean dont mess around sometimes, but maybe decide if that person is the "one" before you start taking your pants off haha.

and i still don't find it immoral, but all the great minds on mingle have given good advice also. be careful and make sure you're not defeating your own 'long term' desire by creating a unflattering image in the eyes of others. to thine own self be true.

That's a great common ground :) just be careful and think before you get naked lol

Immorality? The only one that can answer that question is you. If it is bothering you conscious, then yes it's immoral by your standards. The opinions of others do not influence your morals as much as your own inner compass.


From what you say, you need to effect some change in your behavior. Show some self restraint. Women aren't just playthings and you apparently realize this, try looking for something deeper first and heavy grade sex later. This isn't rocket science, you just have to have the discipline to set your goal and follow through with it. It's called personal responsibility.

Immoral? No. It just sounds like you haven't met the right person yet.

Is anything immoral?


And whose morals are we supposed to use as a bench mark...

You want to 'play' then do what you do....and my only thoughts are make sure the women know they are not exclusive with you.

Makes me laugh....if a woman wrote this as a fella she was dating....the posters would have reamed him a new one!

pre-marrital sex is immoral at its core...

With that said... if you go without, you will make bad decision on who you think is the one for you.

Being that the users of this website have different standards for judging morality, what good does it do to ask a morality question here on this particular discussion board?