I've now had two relationships ended via texting. Why does it hurt each time that it does? This time I sensed the relationship was ending when I hadn't even seen him in so long, and haven't really heard from him at all... And then getting a text to end it, why does it hurt? Can anyone explain this to me, because I certainly can't understand why anyone would end anything with a text message...

Welcome to the 21st. Century.

Women are now called .jpeg-s guys are jpeg viewers, and while you have a steaming hot relationship on facebook and send kisses via text messages, expect to be dumped by a text message.

Why does it hurt? B/c you cared or b/c you weren't ready for it to end or b/c you didn't end it... It's hard to tell with so little info...

Why do they end it by text message? Either b/c it's only been a date or 3 or they're chicken chit and don't have the guts to do it in person or on the phone...

technology in motion. it lets people be something they are not. doing anything in person requires effort, and the possibility of losing control of the situation is there. texting puts you in the driver seat and you don't even need a responce. that said, i'm sorry things aren't working out for you. but don't focus on the past, they ended things and so should you. move on to a new and better relationship. have you tried just having guy friends?

It's all the new rage!

Think about this though ...
Did you all have a txt msg relationship? was your relationship heavily based on texting more than anything?

Was it a short relationship, couple weeks? While still rude it might have been a lower blow to your feelings if it was still in the early stages.

Maybe they couldn't get a hold of you any other way?? Hey at least they broke it off and not left you with no word for them at all. Something is better than nothing chica!


plus -- left him with not hearing your response and maybe whining afterwards? he didn't have to do much explaining just could say see ya its over and badaboom

Still chicken chit if is over the phone Prncs

We were together for 4 months before this. We texted a bit here and there during breaks at work, but for the most part we talked over the phone or we went out together. And then silence, and then the text he sent me. I know it wasn't a long relationship, and I did sense the end coming, I didn't sense the whole text message break up. It doesn't hurt less after the first time, it hurts more... Sometimes I hate technology.

I hate to say it, but he probably has someone else already, otherwise he is a coward anyway for breaking up via text. Text him back: You are a coward, you wouldn't even face me to tell me this". Trust me,it will make you feel better.

If it's a significant amount of time I agree... 1-4 dates then not a big deal.. 4 mos like she said that is chicken chit...

if you feel the need to confront him. we could ride over and you could tell him off from the back of my bike. (i'm sure he would listen to you) JK

Thanks. I don't think it'd be so nice of me to do that though. And yet he hopes to be friends, which is very unlikely to happen. I know I deserve better than that. My cats are better than that by far, but then again they are family and no matter what will love me unconditionally.

My thought is that texting is very impersonal. Someone who ends a relationship with a text, dear john letter or phone call is just not honest. Hey I've been separated well over a year, still won't go out and find a new life with another woman, my "wife" has been making a new life since she left, in fact she is tonight. It will continue to hurt me until we are final.

That blows but yes it is common. That's one of the reasons I don't do the whole long distance relationship anymore. Feels fake, I need someone to hold, hug, kiss. Especially with how our society is.

I agree, its one thing to be long distance acquaintances but to foster feelings, well, how can one have feelings for someone who is not tangible? BTW, I do not text, rarely use a cell phone. I like to see the eyes, the window.

well its the new age and with the new technology comes ways to keep in touch and communicate. now there are those who use it and those that dont.

in one way the technology helps everyone keep in touch in new ways (texting, emails...etc). and there are those that use the technology to keep in touch with eachother.

it's true that being in a long distance relationship is hard and isnt for everyone...but there are those that can handle a long distance relationship. i myself have been in one and yeah it did end and it hurt but i wouldnt change a thing because i had my share of good and great times and was often happy to get a call or text.

again this is just me. breakups hurt regardless of the way it ends ...and all you can do is do your best to heal the hurt heart and move on with the belief that there is someone out there for you.

sorry to hear about what you have been through.

there was a guy that i met on here over a yr ago
and we had been together for about 7months but only saw him about 5times out of that. for he would give me excuses he didnt know how to brake up with me and he gave me nothing but a run around and i was waiting for him to say something which he did. and that when i sent him a brake up email

this is the poem i sent him.. which is very trur


a man should be a man and not a wimp when it comes to relationships, when to express there feelings on where the relationship is standing, instead of making excuess, and stating that he had ran out of things to say. if the world of men felt that then there would be no dating sites, and no men would have a woman in there life..
men can be chicken and many have proved it.... that can state part of the reasons why this world cheats for lack of honesty

Honestly, texting is just a new form of a "breakup device" that has taken the place of the written letter. You ever get a breakup letter in high school before? Many have, and I have even delivered such letters to people and that sucks too.

And, you don't have to be in an LDR to do a text break up. Ever seen the Sprint commercial where the guy and girl are sitting at the table and she breaks up with him via text and email? Yeah, it's funny but it is also true about our society. Men and women know it exists and so they use it. Is it right? Nope. Is it gonna change? Nope.

But feel good though. At least you never have suffered a break up via morse code or smoke signal. Man. Those are biatchs to deal with.

I like to write break up letters, then attach them to a rock, and throw it through one of their windows.

i guess theres unwritten rules to how your suppose to break-up with someone,doesn't mean everyone is gonna follow them

I only do that when it is a "Will you go out with me? Check YES or NO" letter.