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Topic: Understanding = Test
EquusDancer's photo
Sat 10/09/10 11:58 AM
Okay so an online friend and I have been attempting to finally meet for about 2 months now. We've know each other online for about 2 yrs. Work stuff at his end kept coming up so plans haven't panned out.

Now, I live on the family farm. Cattle, horses, goats, pigs, chickens etc. Someone has to take care of them. I do most of the work since its my hobby and they're mostly my animals. I definitely get them when dad goes out of town/state on jobs. He will take care of them for me when I grab a break/weekend. Works great.

The folks were gone last week on a mini-vacation. Dad is gone for 3 weeks starting Sunday.

This friend has been texting and calling this past week on when can we get together. I've told him every single time that Nov 1 will be when I am free again. He doesn't seem to get the concept.

Why?! Is it a test of some sort? Does he hope to wear me down and I will suddenly be free?

Because all he is doing is seriously pissing me off.

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Sat 10/09/10 01:32 PM
maybe his wife is on vacation and he NEEDS to see you before she gets back. maybe his work finally allows for a break and he may not get this opportunity for awhile. maybe the planets and stars in his sign are aligned. maybe he lost a bet. maybe he knows you can't get away and he is going to throw this in your face at a later date. maybe he finally got up enough nerve to see you. maybe...

mightymoe's photo
Sat 10/09/10 01:38 PM

Okay so an online friend and I have been attempting to finally meet for about 2 months now. We've know each other online for about 2 yrs. Work stuff at his end kept coming up so plans haven't panned out.

Now, I live on the family farm. Cattle, horses, goats, pigs, chickens etc. Someone has to take care of them. I do most of the work since its my hobby and they're mostly my animals. I definitely get them when dad goes out of town/state on jobs. He will take care of them for me when I grab a break/weekend. Works great.

The folks were gone last week on a mini-vacation. Dad is gone for 3 weeks starting Sunday.

This friend has been texting and calling this past week on when can we get together. I've told him every single time that Nov 1 will be when I am free again. He doesn't seem to get the concept.

Why?! Is it a test of some sort? Does he hope to wear me down and I will suddenly be free?

Because all he is doing is seriously pissing me off.

he pluggin for more info...he wants to know whats REALLY going on with you

soufiehere's photo
Sat 10/09/10 03:46 PM
Boy, EQ, the only thing I can think of is that
he is not remembering. Send a calendar link or
something visual?

KevinHecka's photo
Sat 10/09/10 04:51 PM
No disrespect Horse Dancer but maybe the 'other' ain't all that and a bag of chips?

If it quacks like a duck, swims like a duck...you know the rest.

???

K.

EquusDancer's photo
Sat 10/09/10 05:02 PM

Boy, EQ, the only thing I can think of is that
he is not remembering. Send a calendar link or
something visual?


Isn't a text message visual enough?!

Sigh...

EquusDancer's photo
Sat 10/09/10 05:04 PM

No disrespect Horse Dancer but maybe the 'other' ain't all that and a bag of chips?

If it quacks like a duck, swims like a duck...you know the rest.

???

K.


Yeh, unfortunately, I've come to that conclusion too. frown

EquusDancer's photo
Sat 10/09/10 05:07 PM
Edited by EquusDancer on Sat 10/09/10 05:10 PM
Mutters

EquusDancer's photo
Sat 10/09/10 05:09 PM


Okay so an online friend and I have been attempting to finally meet for about 2 months now. We've know each other online for about 2 yrs. Work stuff at his end kept coming up so plans haven't panned out.

Now, I live on the family farm. Cattle, horses, goats, pigs, chickens etc. Someone has to take care of them. I do most of the work since its my hobby and they're mostly my animals. I definitely get them when dad goes out of town/state on jobs. He will take care of them for me when I grab a break/weekend. Works great.

The folks were gone last week on a mini-vacation. Dad is gone for 3 weeks starting Sunday.

This friend has been texting and calling this past week on when can we get together. I've told him every single time that Nov 1 will be when I am free again. He doesn't seem to get the concept.

Why?! Is it a test of some sort? Does he hope to wear me down and I will suddenly be free?

Because all he is doing is seriously pissing me off.

he pluggin for more info...he wants to know whats REALLY going on with you


Convienently, he isn't volunteering to come down and I will show him. I've got an old wood shed that I'm tearing down right now, along with removing the temporary fence I had up. I'd put him to work showing him exactly what I am doing.


KevinHecka's photo
Sat 10/09/10 05:14 PM
Maybe he's like a fellow that used to work with me. We nick-named him 'Blister' because he always showed up when the work was done!


Good luck lady,

K.

EquusDancer's photo
Sat 10/09/10 05:17 PM

Maybe he's like a fellow that used to work with me. We nick-named him 'Blister' because he always showed up when the work was done!


Good luck lady,

K.


LMAO! I know many like that. Irritating as all get out.

Thanks, K. G'luck to you as well!

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Sat 10/09/10 05:40 PM
Edited by lil_bit on Sat 10/09/10 05:46 PM
Ummm, I'm thinking that you are being played and manipulated if it has taken two years to actually meet this guy. There is more to the story than he is letting on and you need to be very suspicious. protect yourself honey!

EquusDancer's photo
Sat 10/09/10 07:07 PM

Ummm, I'm thinking that you are being played and manipulated if it has taken two years to actually meet this guy. There is more to the story than he is letting on and you need to be very suspicious. protect yourself honey!


Oh wait let me clarify. We are on an group email list together. I've been on it 2 yrs and known him that long with bike related and general goofiness and chatter. Haven't met him though as I haven't been able to make the group Gatherings.

He was supposed to come down with a group he rides with, the first time, and us actually meet then. Work related issues botched that up. Then he was trying it again and had the same issue.

I'm not upset or anything over that, but I am peeved when I have to say it won't happen and he keeps questioning me on it. I don't like the questioning my motives like he seems to think its not as big a thing for me.

He is divorced and there was enough list chatter for me to buy it.


Atlantis75's photo
Sat 10/09/10 09:17 PM

Okay so an online friend and I have been attempting to finally meet for about 2 months now. We've know each other online for about 2 yrs. Work stuff at his end kept coming up so plans haven't panned out.

Now, I live on the family farm. Cattle, horses, goats, pigs, chickens etc. Someone has to take care of them. I do most of the work since its my hobby and they're mostly my animals. I definitely get them when dad goes out of town/state on jobs. He will take care of them for me when I grab a break/weekend. Works great.

The folks were gone last week on a mini-vacation. Dad is gone for 3 weeks starting Sunday.

This friend has been texting and calling this past week on when can we get together. I've told him every single time that Nov 1 will be when I am free again. He doesn't seem to get the concept.

Why?! Is it a test of some sort? Does he hope to wear me down and I will suddenly be free?

Because all he is doing is seriously pissing me off.



Invite him.

When he shows up, say "Hi! I told you I'm busy, so while you here grab the shovel and get the sh.t out of the horse barn. If you get thirsty, there is water in the faucet."
Make sure that you are armed with something..like a pitchfork or a bullwhip if he tries anything funny.

EquusDancer's photo
Sun 10/10/10 07:56 AM
Yeah, I can't seem to get any of the guys to go for that, Atlantis. Lol. Must be the mention of the cattle prod or something.

tinker0090's photo
Sun 10/10/10 08:36 AM
maybe you need to stop and take a few days off and go over there if he or she don't live that fare have a friend or family watch the animals

EquusDancer's photo
Sun 10/10/10 08:45 AM

maybe you need to stop and take a few days off and go over there if he or she don't live that fare have a friend or family watch the animals


Hmmm. You've missed the point. I cannot take the time off because there are no family or friends to take care of the animals. He refuses to understand that. When dad gets back, THEN I am free to take the time. This will be in 3 wks.

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Sun 10/10/10 09:13 PM
so if some guy wanted to take you out, he should ask in three weeks?

AdventureBegins's photo
Sun 10/10/10 09:25 PM
So...

Guy just needs to show up with a picnic basket at sunrise.

Roll up his sleeves and help you get your chores done.

Then treat you to a nice lunch.

(better than waiting 3 more weeks)


EquusDancer's photo
Mon 10/11/10 05:03 AM

so if some guy wanted to take you out, he should ask in three weeks?


With regards to an entire weekend away, yes.

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