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BBmelody Joined Thu 10/07/10 Posts: 8	Fri 10/08/10 01:54 AM
Can it be unconditional in this age and time?

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 10/08/10 01:57 AM
as far as being in a relationship? I think there are conditions. If someone cheats on me....then bye. there are plenty of other things, as well. As for my son....I will love him regardless. I may not approve of somethings, but I will always love him. Oh btw....welcome to the forums

leveller1 Joined Thu 07/29/10 Posts: 78	Fri 10/08/10 02:18 AM
Think that love for your kids, love for your family and even 'love' for your close friends are rather different animals than love for a partner. In my experience many people appear to confuse 'love' for that natural and often intense feeling we all experience during the early stages of a full on relationship. This is a part of the bonding process and usually - but not always I admit - before I get jumped upon by any random 'love bug' perusing these forums - tones down somewhat as the relationship matures. For those who seem addicted to this early stages rush of feeling and emotional need, once things begin to settle down: (and he or she realizes that mr or ms perfect does indeed have imperfections and might indeed actually occasionally do things that really pee you off) then 'love' has began to die. Actually - for me at least - love is still wanting to be with that person, even when you do know all those annoying habits, even when there are times when you feel he or she is acting like a d**k. Love for our kids most certainly is - or should be - unconditional. Love for a partner simply takes time to grow and mature - unless you fall really lucky. For what it's worth - in my world at least - don't be too keen to say those words (I love you) until you are really sure.That way you can avoid a whole lot of heartache.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Fri 10/08/10 05:32 AM
Can it be unconditional in this age and time? unconditional love would mean one is willing to do anything for love.....even kill ....that's called obsession

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Fri 10/08/10 06:56 AM
Can it be unconditional in this age and time? unconditional love would mean one is willing to do anything for love.....even kill ....that's called obsession i think it's the opposite. unconditional love doesn't depend on what you are willing to do or not do. it's more of what the other person does or doesn't do, but you continue to love them regardless.

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Fri 10/08/10 07:05 AM
Well my eyes were opened.No there is no such thing except for victims

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Fri 10/08/10 08:53 AM
Can it be unconditional in this age and time? unconditional love would mean one is willing to do anything for love.....even kill ....that's called obsession i think it's the opposite. unconditional love doesn't depend on what you are willing to do or not do. it's more of what the other person does or doesn't do, but you continue to love them regardless. Love is supposedly feelings spread equally among two participates...if it's all about what the other person does or doesn't do then you are no longer in the equation and that's not love...that's obsession and/or addiction

Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Fri 10/08/10 09:01 AM
I set no conditions...... nor do I expect any!!!!!

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Fri 10/08/10 09:10 AM
Can it be unconditional in this age and time? I can love you unconditionally because we aren't in a relationship. Relationship love always include expectations and conditions.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Fri 10/08/10 11:27 AM
Love can be unconditional. An intimate relationship doesn't have to be.

Th3Friend Joined Sat 10/25/08 Posts: 88	Fri 10/08/10 12:11 PM
Unconditional love only exists when all conditions for love are met.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Fri 10/08/10 12:24 PM
Can it be unconditional in this age and time? The only love that is real is unconditional.....love would never ask the things we ask of each other, we put conditions on it in our human-ness. Stipulations, promises, wanting guarantees...no such thing. Real love knows this, we just don't.

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Fri 10/08/10 12:28 PM
Think that love for your kids, love for your family and even 'love' for your close friends are rather different animals than love for a partner. In my experience many people appear to confuse 'love' for that natural and often intense feeling we all experience during the early stages of a full on relationship. This is a part of the bonding process and usually - but not always I admit - before I get jumped upon by any random 'love bug' perusing these forums - tones down somewhat as the relationship matures. For those who seem addicted to this early stages rush of feeling and emotional need, once things begin to settle down: (and he or she realizes that mr or ms perfect does indeed have imperfections and might indeed actually occasionally do things that really pee you off) then 'love' has began to die. Actually - for me at least - love is still wanting to be with that person, even when you do know all those annoying habits, even when there are times when you feel he or she is acting like a d**k. Love for our kids most certainly is - or should be - unconditional. Love for a partner simply takes time to grow and mature - unless you fall really lucky. For what it's worth - in my world at least - don't be too keen to say those words (I love you) until you are really sure.That way you can avoid a whole lot of heartache. I agree with this.......

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Fri 10/08/10 01:07 PM Edited by Jess642 on Fri 10/08/10 01:08 PM
Think that love for your kids, love for your family and even 'love' for your close friends are rather different animals than love for a partner. In my experience many people appear to confuse 'love' for that natural and often intense feeling we all experience during the early stages of a full on relationship. This is a part of the bonding process and usually - but not always I admit - before I get jumped upon by any random 'love bug' perusing these forums - tones down somewhat as the relationship matures. For those who seem addicted to this early stages rush of feeling and emotional need, once things begin to settle down: (and he or she realizes that mr or ms perfect does indeed have imperfections and might indeed actually occasionally do things that really pee you off) then 'love' has began to die. Actually - for me at least - love is still wanting to be with that person, even when you do know all those annoying habits, even when there are times when you feel he or she is acting like a d**k. Love for our kids most certainly is - or should be - unconditional. Love for a partner simply takes time to grow and mature - unless you fall really lucky. For what it's worth - in my world at least - don't be too keen to say those words (I love you) until you are really sure.That way you can avoid a whole lot of heartache. Hmmm...why does love for a partner have to be any different to the love you have for your children, your parents/family/friends/country/pets? Love without condition is as natural as breathing. Love WITH conditions is something that requires practise, and diligent monitoring.... I'm really lazy...it's easier to just love, than to try and remember all the conditions, sub-clauses, retractions, agendas, and stuff. oh...and by the way....I LOVE the Who of you. (is that something that evokes the 'creepy factor' straight away?...then that's YOUR conditions popping up)

leveller1 Joined Thu 07/29/10 Posts: 78	Fri 10/08/10 01:43 PM Edited by leveller1 on Fri 10/08/10 01:46 PM
Think that love for your kids, love for your family and even 'love' for your close friends are rather different animals than love for a partner. In my experience many people appear to confuse 'love' for that natural and often intense feeling we all experience during the early stages of a full on relationship. This is a part of the bonding process and usually - but not always I admit - before I get jumped upon by any random 'love bug' perusing these forums - tones down somewhat as the relationship matures. For those who seem addicted to this early stages rush of feeling and emotional need, once things begin to settle down: (and he or she realizes that mr or ms perfect does indeed have imperfections and might indeed actually occasionally do things that really pee you off) then 'love' has began to die. Actually - for me at least - love is still wanting to be with that person, even when you do know all those annoying habits, even when there are times when you feel he or she is acting like a d**k. Love for our kids most certainly is - or should be - unconditional. Love for a partner simply takes time to grow and mature - unless you fall really lucky. For what it's worth - in my world at least - don't be too keen to say those words (I love you) until you are really sure.That way you can avoid a whole lot of heartache. Hmmm...why does love for a partner have to be any different to the love you have for your children, your parents/family/friends/country/pets? Love without condition is as natural as breathing. Love WITH conditions is something that requires practise, and diligent monitoring.... I'm really lazy...it's easier to just love, than to try and remember all the conditions, sub-clauses, retractions, agendas, and stuff. oh...and by the way....I LOVE the Who of you. (is that something that evokes the 'creepy factor' straight away?...then that's YOUR conditions popping up) Check list ..... black socks, sock suspenders, brief case, bowler hat,

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Fri 10/08/10 01:55 PM
Think that love for your kids, love for your family and even 'love' for your close friends are rather different animals than love for a partner. In my experience many people appear to confuse 'love' for that natural and often intense feeling we all experience during the early stages of a full on relationship. This is a part of the bonding process and usually - but not always I admit - before I get jumped upon by any random 'love bug' perusing these forums - tones down somewhat as the relationship matures. For those who seem addicted to this early stages rush of feeling and emotional need, once things begin to settle down: (and he or she realizes that mr or ms perfect does indeed have imperfections and might indeed actually occasionally do things that really pee you off) then 'love' has began to die. Actually - for me at least - love is still wanting to be with that person, even when you do know all those annoying habits, even when there are times when you feel he or she is acting like a d**k. Love for our kids most certainly is - or should be - unconditional. Love for a partner simply takes time to grow and mature - unless you fall really lucky. For what it's worth - in my world at least - don't be too keen to say those words (I love you) until you are really sure.That way you can avoid a whole lot of heartache. Hmmm...why does love for a partner have to be any different to the love you have for your children, your parents/family/friends/country/pets? Love without condition is as natural as breathing. Love WITH conditions is something that requires practise, and diligent monitoring.... I'm really lazy...it's easier to just love, than to try and remember all the conditions, sub-clauses, retractions, agendas, and stuff. oh...and by the way....I LOVE the Who of you. (is that something that evokes the 'creepy factor' straight away?...then that's YOUR conditions popping up) Check list ..... black socks, sock suspenders, brief case, bowler hat, BASTARDO!!!

pmarco41 Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 2163	Fri 10/08/10 04:42 PM
Can it be unconditional in this age and time? I can love you unconditionally because we aren't in a relationship. Relationship love always include expectations and conditions. what the gentileman in the hat said...

Teditis Joined Sun 03/07/10 Posts: 3597	Fri 10/08/10 05:08 PM Edited by Teditis on Fri 10/08/10 05:10 PM
Can it be unconditional in this age and time? unconditional love would mean one is willing to do anything for love.....even kill ....that's called obsession i think it's the opposite. unconditional love doesn't depend on what you are willing to do or not do. it's more of what the other person does or doesn't do, but you continue to love them regardless. Love is supposedly feelings spread equally among two participates...if it's all about what the other person does or doesn't do then you are no longer in the equation and that's not love...that's obsession and/or addiction grow up... love is a choice. if it's all about feelings to ya' then you're just a kid...

bigojockey Joined Fri 06/25/10 Posts: 72	Fri 10/08/10 05:51 PM
Can it be unconditional in this age and time? The only love that is real is unconditional.....love would never ask the things we ask of each other, we put conditions on it in our human-ness. Stipulations, promises, wanting guarantees...no such thing. Real love knows this, we just don't. i agree 100 percent.thats why i think its funny for someone to say, i don,t love you anymore.my only thought is you never did then.i had a friend of mine make the comment to me,just think you used to love her too when refering to my ex.all i said was ,still do and always will.true love never dies and very few people that i,ve met are able to grasp the concept.by the way, noone ever said they don,t love me anymore to me since the only one that ever said she did won,t admit that she doesn,t and in my opinion never did.anyway regading the original question,i don,t think that this age and time has anything to do with it.p.s. i find it very difficult to get my thoughts across intelligently while typing but i don,t have time to rephrase it.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 10/09/10 09:58 AM
Can it be unconditional in this age and time? unconditional love would mean one is willing to do anything for love.....even kill ....that's called obsession i think it's the opposite. unconditional love doesn't depend on what you are willing to do or not do. it's more of what the other person does or doesn't do, but you continue to love them regardless. Love is supposedly feelings spread equally among two participates...if it's all about what the other person does or doesn't do then you are no longer in the equation and that's not love...that's obsession and/or addiction grow up... love is a choice. if it's all about feelings to ya' then you're just a kid... yep "Teditis".. that is how love is suppose to work...it's all about feelings ...and if love is a choice as you say ..then would you mind sharing how many times that you told someone that you loved them but didn't have any feelings for them ....