Hi,
There has recently been a lot of guys with kids that I have been attracted to and they have tried to get me to go out with them. But whats it like dating a guy with a stay at home kid and another that he's trying to get custody of? Please help...

Remember that the kids ALWAYS come first and they already have a MOTHER, be a friend....Best wishes to you!

If its meant to be it will...Dont rush judgement or feelings if you can..Let it take its course..

dating people with children isnt hard your working on getting to know one another and if your open to a relationship then its all just part of a package deal

i was dating a guy with a 7yr old that was hard cus my kid's r 21 and 15 it was like starting over but if you like the guy you can make it work

Yea,I feel like it would be fun. I would always have a reason to go see the cartoons or kids movies in the theater! I like kids once they are past the diaper stage to be honest so I don't think it would be an issue. Thanks for the feedback!

go with the flow, tell him you have reservations and he will appreciate your honesty, take it slow and give him a chance just
in case, you might be thankful you did...

if you take it slow, you won't devestate him or yourself if you
learn you do not love him...remember__you can't find out if you
love someone in the bedroom... take it slow, if he is worthy of
you and visa versa, you will stay together, if not you move on..

he know that is how it goes...

Thank You...

im a single father my son is 16 yrs old , im self employed it is hard to find time to date and seems it scars off most women from dating you, i dont understand that, and they dont seem to understand that i will not bring anyone home to stay the night, with my son there, i work a great deal, this may sound like a women talking, but having to work, clean house , do wash, run him everywhere, keep up with him, cook, and everything else who has time to date. i would love to find a lady that will date me and my son, hahahahhaha

Im a single dad of two girls aged 4 and 6 and that does seem to scare off many potential dates, Its tough as you need to fins a babysitter every time you want to go out. And for obvious reasons the girl is not comfortable coming over to my house on the first few dates :) But as already stated the kids are part of the package deal and once you get past the initial "getting to know them" stage it can actually be lots of fun.
Younger kids tend to accept a girlfriend/boyfriend fairly easy and if your around enough enjoy the company (at least my girls do). I can understand the dipper stage as that an even more difficult but once over that usually around age 3 to 4 it much less of an issue.

Hahahaha you do sound like a woman...

But seriously Pink, take your time. It's not going to be easy, I will not lie to you. My fiancee has (wow) that many kids, ( meaning more than 2). You can't force them to love, accept, and even trust you. But once you get past that meeting and trying to bond stage, it is totally worth it. I can go on for hours on this since I have been through this stage of the relationship. If you need to chat, just send me an e-mail and we can go from there. (If you really want to know how many he has,read his profile. On my friend's list, name's Pachelabaro). Best decision I have ever made.

I am here for you sweetie every step of the way.

but you make a good point that the guy above you (aptly named "Lost") doesn't seem to realize - in the begining for your new woman to feel that she is special to you (and trust we all want to feel that) you do need to be willing to get a sitter.

The relationship between a man and a woman takes time and privacy to develop. And it has nothing to do with the children either has. Once you are on your way...there will be plenty of time to enjoy the children and develop another side to your relationship around them.

Adults are parents though because they are adults, setting the priorities. That should not be the job of children in the household. An adult love relationship cannot work if both partners cannot put each other first. This why so many second time around relationships fail. It's a must but mosr do not understand that

It's alot of work to be with a man in the process of getting custody of kids, keeping kids at home...caring for them and providing for them.

The truth is that you have to decide...are willing to hang in there, and are you willing to share your time, your heart with this man, his responsibilities, and his family.?????

This type of relationship is one that I would not play with lightly. If you love him, and believe he is the right person for you...go for it! If you have any doubts...whatsover....it may be best to remain friends.

Hummm one can find others that are willing to date those with teenagers but not if that parent is not willing to let them even met them and want to keep them hidden....

You even admit here they would not be allowed to come to your home so how can they date you and your son if they are not even allowed around them??????

It is kind of hard to expect a woman to understand if she is only a booty call and never allowed to be a part of your and your sons life...

One has to be willing to give a little before they can receive....

What I have read is that having dates meet the kid(s) before the relationship is somewhat developed can mess up the kids.
I can't say from experience because I have not done it yet.
It seems to me that having guests over and around the kids can be a positive experience for the kids as well, provided that the adult behavior is respectful and sets a good example.

yeah. if your cool with the kids then it will all be ok. be a mother figure. my dad just got out of a marriage with a woman with kids and our families didnt mix because she came in and basicly said this is my house now get out and tried to let her kids move in . safe to say no one left but her and her family. single fathers have pretty much their kids. if the kids love you so will the guy.