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Topic: the gift....
newarkjw's photo
Fri 08/27/10 12:56 AM

that keeps on giving.....any one else have an ex that wont leave you alone? any tips on how to get them to leave you alone? I left him in april and it is the best thing i have ever done. i didnt realize how unhappy i was until got out. and since then, he will not leave me alone. randomly texting or calling, going from nice i just wanted to see how you were to really mean things like telling me that he cheated on me how ever many times and with who and that it was my fault it didnt work and whatever else. bottom line...i am seeing someone else, and i am very happy with where im at and where im going. and i jsut want him to move on and leave me alone. telling him to leave me alone doesnt work.....im out of ideas..yawn


Have you tried asking him "Would you leave me f!cking alone, Please"........smokin

yellowrose10's photo
Fri 08/27/10 05:06 AM
now why on earth should she involve the new boyfriend in drama. Doing that would just cause more problems and make the old guy mad. No telling what would happen then.

It's best to just put a stop to it than to create more problems

yellowrose10's photo
Fri 08/27/10 05:38 AM
supporting each other is one thing....pushing more buttons is another. This ex doesn't sound too stable at the moment. It's like throwing gas on the fire.

It's better to stop it as best you can. The new guy and the old guy might decide to fight it out. Not good for any involved. Someone will get hurt, possibly charged with assault....many things.

It's better to just move on and end it without stirring up more trouble

hmlover's photo
Fri 08/27/10 05:47 AM
Edited by hmlover on Fri 08/27/10 05:49 AM

yellowrose10's photo
Fri 08/27/10 05:51 AM
don't get me wrong....dreaming of those things can be entertaining laugh Oh the ex dreams I have had laugh

soufiehere's photo
Fri 08/27/10 06:16 AM
He sounds like the kind of feller that would
do real well on Mingle.
All talk.
Mean when ruffled.
Sounds like my next ex.
PLEASE introduce us.

yellowrose10's photo
Fri 08/27/10 06:18 AM
sounds like several of my exes too (I can really pick them huh?) laugh

That's why I know it's best to make them go POOF. Keeps you sane too laugh

Seakolony's photo
Fri 08/27/10 07:20 AM

i could change my number....only problem with that is that i have literally had the same cell number for 11 years, and really kind alike having the same one- makes it easier to connect with old friends

Call your cellular company and have his number blocked from calling you.

no photo
Fri 08/27/10 02:03 PM


now why on earth should she involve the new boyfriend in drama. Doing that would just cause more problems and make the old guy mad. No telling what would happen then.

It's best to just put a stop to it than to create more problems


If Im not misunderstanding the situation, the old guy is already mad. And if memory serves from previous posting, the new boyfriend is an 'old friend' so likely already knows this fella.

Putting a stop to it is exactly the problem. He's not going away. And if 'new guy' is concerned for her, as he should be, then he is already involved.

I think they could act as a couple, support each other, and doing so could be the show of strength this 'old guy' may need to see.




the new guys is fully aware of the situation....and he is a cop an he is bigger than the ex....they've never met, but when i was dating my ex he pretty much tried to cut me off from everyone. i've already got enough to get him charged with intimidation, not trying to do that though, hes good enough at screwing up his own life without me adding to it!

Atlantis75's photo
Fri 08/27/10 03:11 PM

Change your phone number perhaps?


Indeed. Most phone companies will change your phone number for request also. It might take 2 business days, but your number will change over to a new one.

Also, for tips, start hanging out with guys, even if you don't date them, big strong dudes....military background also helps, and take picture shots with them and send it over with message. "It's him, who picks up the phone for now on."

no photo
Fri 08/27/10 09:37 PM




now why on earth should she involve the new boyfriend in drama. Doing that would just cause more problems and make the old guy mad. No telling what would happen then.

It's best to just put a stop to it than to create more problems


If Im not misunderstanding the situation, the old guy is already mad. And if memory serves from previous posting, the new boyfriend is an 'old friend' so likely already knows this fella.

Putting a stop to it is exactly the problem. He's not going away. And if 'new guy' is concerned for her, as he should be, then he is already involved.

I think they could act as a couple, support each other, and doing so could be the show of strength this 'old guy' may need to see.




the new guys is fully aware of the situation....and he is a cop an he is bigger than the ex....they've never met, but when i was dating my ex he pretty much tried to cut me off from everyone. i've already got enough to get him charged with intimidation, not trying to do that though, hes good enough at screwing up his own life without me adding to it!


Wow, is intimidation illegal?


in Indiana it is....a misdemeanor, d felony if threatened with a weapon. Also have enough for stalking and harassment. stalking is a d felony, unless there are other conditions that are met (which in case there are) and that would be a c felony. harassment is a b misdemeanor.....so yea. he forgets that i work for attorneys and im not only friends with a few police officers, im dating one.

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