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Catty: Punishing everyone until they agree with you is not very wise. And perhaps motivated by not being 'Mom's favorite.' You could have Mom over while you look for a way to cool her down. There are many city agencies that cover things like this for free, PARTICULARLY right now as the heat can cause older folks to succumb. You might try that instead of wasting all your energy on getting even. Im not trying to get even. I just dont understand how someone can be so uncaring, and if you could see the place that my Mom lives you would understand. We have plans for her to move to my place, but she refuses to move right now. she doesnt want to move until she cant take care of herself. seems you should both do what you can and not assume what the other should be doing,,,,,be caring daughters and caring sisters ,, you only get one family |
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Jess642
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Thu 08/26/10 01:10 PM
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Ok...to be fair...you asked what would I do...in your opening line...
If my mum absolutely hated where she lived, I would move her to where she wanted...if she liked the area but the dwelling was substandard...I would look at renting/buying a new one for her. My sister could blow it out her arse as to what happens to the mobile home after Mum's gone...see her in court. that's what I would do. I am confused as to affordability...you say you've offered to buy Mum a new mobile home...but you can't afford a repair job, or a new air con for her? |
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Ok...to be fair...you asked what would I do...in your opening line... If my mum absolutely hated where she lived, I would move her to where she wanted...if she liked the area but the dwelling was substandard...I would look at renting/buying a new one for her. My sister could blow it out her arse as to what happens to the mobile home after Mum's gone...see her in court. that's what I would do. I am confused as to affordability...you say you've offered to buy Mum a new mobile home...but you can't afford a repair job, or a new air con for her? that was a few years ago, and now I have just bought a new house. My money is tight from buying this new house. The plan is for me to build her a apartment behind my house in the next couple of years, just cant do it right now. |
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Does your Mum hate it there?...How old is she?...Is she physically or mentally incapacitated?...Does she live independently?...Does she care that the house leaks is old and crumbly? she likes the property, just not the moble home, she is 66 and is in poor health. she doesnt drive anymore, and she stays in and out of the hospital. we have talked many times about her moving in with me, but she doesnt want to yet. I have to respect that, plus she has 3 dogs, a horse, a pot belly pig, a goat, and a bird, so its not like I can just pack her up and move her. I moved closer to take care of her. She has asked my sister and her husband to fix the leaks or to let me buy her another moble home but they told her that if I did that and put it on their property, that when something happened to her, that the moble home would be theirs, so she told me not to buy her one. there is alot more going on then you know, and I dont have the time to go into it all. But I do have a right to feel the way that I do. You point out that they told HER (your mom) that if you bought her a new mobile home and put it on their property that they would own it. First, that's NOT how contract law and ownership works. They may own the PROPERTY, but unless you sign it over to them, they DON'T own the new mobile home. Besides, why even worry about putting it on their property? If there's a KOA or other mobile home park in the area, you could have it delivered there after you buy it and move your mom to the new location and her new home. Worth considering ... |
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Honesty is the best policy! Let her know! If it is your house, you have rights! Tell mom, she can see her all she wants, just not at your home. Unfortunately, it is not easy! Sometimes, in life we all have to do things, we do not like!
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Does your Mum hate it there?...How old is she?...Is she physically or mentally incapacitated?...Does she live independently?...Does she care that the house leaks is old and crumbly? she likes the property, just not the moble home, she is 66 and is in poor health. she doesnt drive anymore, and she stays in and out of the hospital. we have talked many times about her moving in with me, but she doesnt want to yet. I have to respect that, plus she has 3 dogs, a horse, a pot belly pig, a goat, and a bird, so its not like I can just pack her up and move her. I moved closer to take care of her. She has asked my sister and her husband to fix the leaks or to let me buy her another moble home but they told her that if I did that and put it on their property, that when something happened to her, that the moble home would be theirs, so she told me not to buy her one. there is alot more going on then you know, and I dont have the time to go into it all. But I do have a right to feel the way that I do. You point out that they told HER (your mom) that if you bought her a new mobile home and put it on their property that they would own it. First, that's NOT how contract law and ownership works. They may own the PROPERTY, but unless you sign it over to them, they DON'T own the new mobile home. Besides, why even worry about putting it on their property? If there's a KOA or other mobile home park in the area, you could have it delivered there after you buy it and move your mom to the new location and her new home. Worth considering ... I would do that if she didnt have all of her animals. I cant take a horse, goat and a pig to a moble home park. LOL |
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Honesty is the best policy! Let her know! If it is your house, you have rights! Tell mom, she can see her all she wants, just not at your home. Unfortunately, it is not easy! Sometimes, in life we all have to do things, we do not like!
Your right about having to do things you dont like. 
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Does your Mum hate it there?...How old is she?...Is she physically or mentally incapacitated?...Does she live independently?...Does she care that the house leaks is old and crumbly? she likes the property, just not the moble home, she is 66 and is in poor health. she doesnt drive anymore, and she stays in and out of the hospital. we have talked many times about her moving in with me, but she doesnt want to yet. I have to respect that, plus she has 3 dogs, a horse, a pot belly pig, a goat, and a bird, so its not like I can just pack her up and move her. I moved closer to take care of her. She has asked my sister and her husband to fix the leaks or to let me buy her another moble home but they told her that if I did that and put it on their property, that when something happened to her, that the moble home would be theirs, so she told me not to buy her one. there is alot more going on then you know, and I dont have the time to go into it all. But I do have a right to feel the way that I do. You point out that they told HER (your mom) that if you bought her a new mobile home and put it on their property that they would own it. First, that's NOT how contract law and ownership works. They may own the PROPERTY, but unless you sign it over to them, they DON'T own the new mobile home. Besides, why even worry about putting it on their property? If there's a KOA or other mobile home park in the area, you could have it delivered there after you buy it and move your mom to the new location and her new home. Worth considering ... I would do that if she didnt have all of her animals. I cant take a horse, goat and a pig to a moble home park. LOL In that case, then, some of the animals would need to go ... but, that may not be possible, so you're back where you began ... |
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Does your Mum hate it there?...How old is she?...Is she physically or mentally incapacitated?...Does she live independently?...Does she care that the house leaks is old and crumbly? she likes the property, just not the moble home, she is 66 and is in poor health. she doesnt drive anymore, and she stays in and out of the hospital. we have talked many times about her moving in with me, but she doesnt want to yet. I have to respect that, plus she has 3 dogs, a horse, a pot belly pig, a goat, and a bird, so its not like I can just pack her up and move her. I moved closer to take care of her. She has asked my sister and her husband to fix the leaks or to let me buy her another moble home but they told her that if I did that and put it on their property, that when something happened to her, that the moble home would be theirs, so she told me not to buy her one. there is alot more going on then you know, and I dont have the time to go into it all. But I do have a right to feel the way that I do. You point out that they told HER (your mom) that if you bought her a new mobile home and put it on their property that they would own it. First, that's NOT how contract law and ownership works. They may own the PROPERTY, but unless you sign it over to them, they DON'T own the new mobile home. Besides, why even worry about putting it on their property? If there's a KOA or other mobile home park in the area, you could have it delivered there after you buy it and move your mom to the new location and her new home. Worth considering ... I would do that if she didnt have all of her animals. I cant take a horse, goat and a pig to a moble home park. LOL In that case, then, some of the animals would need to go ... but, that may not be possible, so you're back where you began ... trust me I have been down that road with her a few times, she is very hard headed |
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