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Stay thirsty my friends!
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It's a dating site ! like a job interview. People have the right to explore their options.
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It's a dating site ! like a job interview. People have the right to explore their options. I'm trying to figure out what this has to do with the topic... Back to the topic.. I think one has to put their self in the other person's shoes.. If one wouldn't want to be cheated on then of course one shouldn't be involved in the cheating (on either side)... You're right it is hard to know when you meet someone... But if you're careful, move slowly and ask questions it's not hard to find out the truth or if they're hiding something... Moving too fast one will always miss the signs.. |
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Joy,
I agree. I (personally) don't have issues with those that don't know about the other relationship. They could have been lied to or just trusted the person and didn't notice. My issue is with those that continue, knowing about it. But that is just me. I prefer honesty. Whether I like the truth or not, I can deal with it. Hard to deal with a lie and I don't like being a part of a lie. But that is just me and my word is law |
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It's a dating site ! like a job interview. People have the right to explore their options. I'm trying to figure out what this has to do with the topic... Back to the topic.. I think one has to put their self in the other person's shoes.. If one wouldn't want to be cheated on then of course one shouldn't be involved in the cheating (on either side)... You're right it is hard to know when you meet someone... But if you're careful, move slowly and ask questions it's not hard to find out the truth or if they're hiding something... Moving too fast one will always miss the signs.. true....but it seems this is not how most people do things, especially lately... |
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now I have that Kenny Rogers song "Daytime friends and night time lovers" stuck in my head
thanks guys |
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ohhhh you poor thing...i don't think i would be thanking anyone though if it were me.
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ohhhh you poor thing...i don't think i would be thanking anyone though if it were me. sarcasm is a great thing huh? |
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For me it's wrong to make a person believe you'll never lie or cheat. we've all heard that one. but I no longer put that pressure on men to be committed and faithful, why you ask? cause we want what we can't have. If you allow a person their freedom and play your role at best, less time will be wasted and less hearts will be broken. However humans invented cheating, we think it's possible to not lust for others and thats totally contrary. I hope to one day find a man who wants to be "open" with me & who does not want children, cause they suffer the most from break ups. You know, that's really close to what I believe (about cheating, the part about not having kids because you might break up was just silly). I'm not foolish enough to believe that anybody is automatically a sinner or saint, that is just an easy way out of using your head when getting to know somebody or not. In fact I will never lie or cheat, there's no need, it's who and what I am and really only matters to me, so yeah I'll never say it, and it should be obvious. But I am not the one that matters. I am not every guy. The every guy is the attractive man that's trying really hard to hook up with the ladys. The every guy that the played puts high expectations on as if their dream guy dream just came true. I just have this feeling that there is alot more types of guys out there than you have been meeting. Attraction is nice, but next time maybe make them work a little harder, it will be worth it. |
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in my eyes if you know he is cheating.. and is in a relationship.. well you are just as much a part of that cheating... if he is cheating with you dont you think it takes you to make that happen? .. rather you did not know at first is not the point what is happening today and your knowledge of it.. makes you just as guilty.. but then if you dont care if he did it to you then it doesnt matter... seriously.. your painting your own picture here.. of your beliefs and morals.. its all about respect for others and for yourself.. if you do not respect yourself how do you expect others to respect you? cheating takes 2 parties... and when both know about it both are guilty of it.. JMO
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if i had u cheating would be the last thing to come to my mine your every thing i ever dream of a woman your eyes there so beautifull word cant explain.
i would like to talk to you |
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Everybody gets to choose for themselves as far as their 'relationships', who their boinking.....far be it for me to judge, live and let live.
For me personally, I wouldn't want to be in a 'secret' relationship...if there is something to hide it can never really flourish into much more than a secret booty call. If that's what works for ya, have at it..wouldn't work for me. |
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i don,t know how anyone that cheats can look at themselves in the mirror.
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So my story began about 3 and a half weeks ago... I met this man at the gym, I was so close to rejecting him but his sex appeal was too hard to resist. We started talking & the rest is history, recently learning he is in a relationship. Futhermore I realized that we are all at risk when we meet someone new for the first time, people just are not telling the truth. I wanted to get some feed back, what would you do if you were turned on by a person who could never really be yours? Affairs are all too common but do people really think its wrong, or is it only wrong when your being cheated on? Yes, it's wrong. Break it off. And, key his car if you think you can get away with it. Okay....not the last part. |
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I have a life policy: I dont get involved with men that are involved. Period. Why would I want to complicate my life that way?
Besides while you are wasting your life chalking up bad karma...you will miss out on the right guy when he comes by...foolish...foolish |
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For me it's wrong to make a person believe you'll never lie or cheat. we've all heard that one. but I no longer put that pressure on men to be committed and faithful, why you ask? cause we want what we can't have. If you allow a person their freedom and play your role at best, less time will be wasted and less hearts will be broken. However humans invented cheating, we think it's possible to not lust for others and thats totally contrary. I hope to one day find a man who wants to be "open" with me & who does not want children, cause they suffer the most from break ups. You know, that's really close to what I believe (about cheating, the part about not having kids because you might break up was just silly). I'm not foolish enough to believe that anybody is automatically a sinner or saint, that is just an easy way out of using your head when getting to know somebody or not. In fact I will never lie or cheat, there's no need, it's who and what I am and really only matters to me, so yeah I'll never say it, and it should be obvious. But I am not the one that matters. I am not every guy. The every guy is the attractive man that's trying really hard to hook up with the ladys. The every guy that the played puts high expectations on as if their dream guy dream just came true. I just have this feeling that there is alot more types of guys out there than you have been meeting. Attraction is nice, but next time maybe make them work a little harder, it will be worth it. the longer I am on here the more I wish you really WERE every man, Monier. I agree, again. It's not that I am high and mighty or anything. But dating an attached man is just asking for too much drama, and it's not the best way to start - always second guessing ur guilt feelings. I really think that's why these relationships don't usually work. At some point the both of them look at each other and say, geez, this whole sleazy mess is wrong and he/she is just a constant reminder. |
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Treat others as you would like to be treated
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Treat others as you would like to be treated |
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So my story began about 3 and a half weeks ago... I met this man at the gym, I was so close to rejecting him but his sex appeal was too hard to resist. We started talking & the rest is history, recently learning he is in a relationship. Futhermore I realized that we are all at risk when we meet someone new for the first time, people just are not telling the truth. I wanted to get some feed back, what would you do if you were turned on by a person who could never really be yours? Affairs are all too common but do people really think its wrong, or is it only wrong when your being cheated on? When you started talking was your opportunity to ask what his current status was. Now if he lied; that's another story. I cannot be with someone if they "belong" to another (and I know about it). I don't share a man, much less 2nd choice for anyone! |
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Edited by
Riding_Dubz
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Tue 08/31/10 06:35 PM
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life isn't perfect...world is corrupt dunno why people act like there perfect ...look at tiger woods..
i read the paper every day and there are twice as many divorces as marriages what his wife don't know won't hurt her im a realist don't hate on me just keeping it real |
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