Is it wrong to fantasise about someone that has molested you?

Not wrong but it shows someone needs intense counseling

I don't think it's healthy. I know i would never want to relive what happened to me.

Not if she is Hot

it's not rape if ur willing.

What if counseling & therapy don't help?

Then you really are a big mess.

I'm always interested when people say other people have issues because they deal with things differently.

If you don't have a problem with it, don't worry about it. If it is an issue that is hindering your life, analyze it and see what can be done about it. Honestly...don't listen to people tell you that you have issues or that it isn't healthy. Health is relative to the observer, much like time.

Yikes! I'd "fantasize" about putting their sorry arse through so much torture!


IMO; anyone that fantasizes about their molester needs some serious therapy!

Only if you didn't enjoy it ...

True! I guess it depends if the word molest was used figuratively or literally........

If it was a willing molestation......

otherwise ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

It may take many years of therapy, and not an "overnight" recovery.

I'm sure it can't be something you totally recover from, but you learn to love/accept things/live again.....(???)

Well, molestations are said to have often been quite pleasurable, even in violation ...

So, the animal centers get harnessed to the "first hit" ...

It is also said that this is one of the biggest inner conflicts for those molested as children ...

It often times, for many, felt good/great - all the while simultaneously violating trust and innocence ...

I'd venture to guess that it takes much more than awareness and great therapy, which would be key, agreed ...

I would think that there needs to be a series of romantic/sexual/intimate encounters that can top those first hard wired memories ...

Replacing desire triggers ...

Therein would lie the trickiest part of recovery ...

I also believe it is a very common problem, much more than would be guessed ...

And that? MANY are molested "pre-memory" ages ... Yet, the desire trigger programming remains!

Similarly, I've lost count how many men have revealed to me that they lost their virginity as boys to another boy in sexual experimentation ... SO common!!!

Every single one of them claimed to have great struggle w/ some latent wiring to that experience being the MOST satisfying sex they'd ever had - yet being completely heterosexual otherwise ...

The animal lust, beast in us, is such a tricky and mysterious area ... Like our very own ocean below!

Deep and deep seated stuff ...

Sometimes y' just can't be 'molested' enough ... GOT to be by a lady, tho' ...

None of that 'introduction to homosexuality 101' stuff ... I'll never be that 'openminded' ...