How do I find out which members are no longer online? I emailed some members who are listed as not on line in over 30 days. How do I know if they are gone for good?

This is a very valid question. I too have been wondering why Mingle2 does not have a system by which those wanting to sign out can do so, and if others are not too active, some sort of a warning is sent out that they will be delisted.

This continuing to have members on display for years does lower the site's credibility.

I'm beginning to think this is a dead site! No one even views me! So many of the members I reply to never get back to me. I wonder truly how many of them are really active users?

Welcome to Mingle...this isn't a dead site, but I do know that in the three years I have been on here, it seems that people don't feel they NEED to answer an email if they aren't attracted to the sender.

This site does work, I am one of quite a few success stories who post in the forums.... I did check your profile (I am in stealth mode so you can't tell I did ) but I see you are in the dreaded vortex of Illinois. We hear that no one lives in that state ... ~~Long running joke on here~~

Good luck to you!!

Sorry to hear your experience has not been good thus far, quiterightlyso. You can check most profiles to see the last time they logged on (Last seen within the last day, etc.). The exceptions are those accounts which are in stealth mode.

klc, what you are inquiring about is the default setting we've always employed. The accounts at the top of anybody's Search have the most recent activity.

Finally, as eileena9 wrote, some areas are simply going to have more members than others. Also, some sites just work better for certain people person, without any specific advantages or disadvantages. There's a degree of luck involved.

I'm only seeing three profiles in your Search at this time, klc. Your Search settings are quite narrow, though, so perhaps you've been adjusting them.

Also, "Sir Charles" makes me .

Thank you for your insightful response. I replied to every wink or response I ever got on any site regardless of distance, incompatibility, or lack of attraction. What gets me is that in all the messages I sent, I was polite, respectful, and above all, appropriate. That is the way I am. Maybe if I was rude and crude, I'd have more luck. I wouldn't compromise my values, however. I wonder if women have the same problem when they respond to men's profiles. I am more concerned about all those dead profiles. There are just so many of them. So many of the people I would like to meet haven't been online in 30 days.

Dear charles,
What is stealth mode, and how do I use it. I am a novice at this.

Hi quiterightlyso,

Stealth mode allows you to view profiles, without the person knowing that you peeked. Some people prefer stealth mode, while others do not. You can turn that feature on or off, by clicking the 'My account' Tab, and select settings. You will not be able to send or receive instant messages in stealth.

Welcome aboard!

Thank you, Markecephus!

I do not have the power to fix this issue, I'm afraid. It would have to be taken care of by a programmer at a later time. If you see that the list is out of order in the future, just let me know (here or via email).

just so you know, try using the forums in here, it's the best way to let people "get to know you". i have seen more emails and flirts since i started posting on here. just pick a topic that you like, and give your .02 cents worth ..it will help you out.

I am glad Mingle does not purge inactive members. I take time off the site for months at a time. I have been here for 3.5 years and would have had to create a new account numerous times because of my inactivity.

I saw one replier to my topic make reference to the Illinois Vortex. What is it? Also, I have seen in many profiles "doesn't play games", "not a game player," etc. I have a good idea as to what gameplaying is, but I would like to see what other people think constitutes gameplaying. How can you detect if someone is "playing games?"

Hi quiterightlyso,

There is some great advice in here. You might want to pose that last question in the Dating forums. You will get a lot of feedback.

Just create new topics.

Welcome to the forums,

Kim

I heard once that stars we see now may have burned out a long time ago, but because of how far they were away from Earth, it took until now for their light to reach us. Could it be possible that some of the inactive users of this sight might actually be dead and their profiles still show up like those burned out stars? If that were the case, then those of us who messaged some of the users labelled "last seen over a month ago" may have actually emailed a ghost! lol!!!