Hi, thanks for the deep insight. I already have found a place here that will take me for 60 days. They are booked up and I am waiting for a bed. So yes, I'm on the ball. And to anothers question, YES I depend on him totally because of this crap wtih SSI. It's very hard. I would of left years ago if I had the money to do so. He's been waiting around for MY money to come in to reap the bennifits. Sadly for all the wrong reasons. There's nothing wrong with wanting more out of life. I'm not a taker. I just rembmber something my mom said years ago... "You can fall in love with a rich man just as you can fall in love with a poor man." I think in my little girl thinking I felt she was being the gold digger, but in hindsite now I havd a 21 year old daughter and I understand what she meant. We don't hsve to suffer because we think we are worth less. We measure our worth by what we have to give. I give it all, I want it all. Bless you all and let's march on with good faith. I have been ready to leave this relationship for over 4 years but have no way out. He goes in spurts of abuse. Has not struck me physically in 1 year and 3 times before that. He threatens more often. I call the police every time. I won't stand and take it. So the part about me just being a victim is not valid, I'm ready open and willing to make this change NOW! Thanks for all your remarks, good and bad... Cindy Jean P.S. I DON'T NEED RICH... BUT FINANCIALLY SOUND WOULD BE NICE...