i have dated and found that alot of ladies are i dont know how to say it but they are attracted to form of abuise or accept certain amount do any ladys belive giving it your all and enjoy each others world loving the whole package good and bad inside and out and not being afraid of you faults to just give it your all win or lose.

I'm sure there are a lot of women and men that thrive on a some kind of abusive relationship but there are far more that do not... I think that our watching it or surmising the abuse can be subjective as well...

I think it is just that we are more willing to put up with a lot for the sake of "love" before we finally scream uncle and run away extremely fast.

yes of course you have to let it comming to you

Maybe not abuse but I can understand what you are saying. It's that "good boy" vs "bad boy" dilemna...

people, as part of human nature, are attracted to the familiar which is wh yyou see men and women both, often repeating relationship mistakes - abusive or neglectful partners

amazing, I freely admit, that which my ex boyfriend and my ex husband had in common...

usually people have to make a concious effort to break a cycle of choosing the wrong kinds of mn/women for them - sometimes with counseling

I doubt anyone looks to be abused on purpose - there's a whole lotta love out there. me? Ima gonna find some & when I do - my "all": is all I have to give, so ya - I always do whatever it takes when it's important

now where did 24 go?

She's right

we like the familiar

myself??

Would never put up with it!!

Have always been surrounded by love and kindness

that's what I want. That's what I demand!!!

I've been in both types.

I've been the mat and other times been the boots.

I finally figured out, to attract the type for woman good for me, I had to be that the type that attracted them.

It can happen.

Real love, as I understand, is that being able to be in the same room and not have to entertain or be entertained. Just be there.

That comes after all the excitement, anxiety, new relation lust.

Really tough to explain.

If ya' ain't gettin' what ya' want, look inside to find out why and work to change it.

Then it will find you.

I thought of this song while I was doin' this.

Percy Sledge
Take Time to Know Her

I found a woman
I felt a true love
She was everything
I'd ever been dreaming of

But she was bad, I didn't know it
Her pretty smile never did show it
All I knew is what I could see
And I knew I wanted her for me

Took her home to mama
Mama, wanna see my future bride
Well she looked at us both
Then she called me to her side

She said, "son, take time to know her
It's not an overnight thing
Take time to know her
Please don't go rushin to do your thing

But I didn't listen to my mama
I went straight to the church
I just couldn't wait for that little girl of mine
When I got off from work
The preacher was there
So was my future bride
He looked at us both and he called me to his side

Take time to know her
Not an overnight fling
Take time to know her
Don't go rushin to do your thing

But it looks like every thing's gonna turn out all right
But then I came home from work a little early one night
And there she was kissin on another man
Now I know what mama meant when she took me by the hand
She said, take time to know her
Not an overnight fling
Take time to know her
Don't go rushin to do your thing
She said, take time to know her
Not an overnight fling
Take time to know her
Don't go rushin to do your thing
Take time to know her

Your right though!!

Just being in the same room and feeling satisfied!!!


Ohhhh I love that!!

When you look at the other and all you can do is just let that little breath out with a satisfied grown.

All this is just....

Making me all warm inside....

We all know love is out there right!!

So let's open up and let it in to fill our souls!!!

Lick face everyone!!!!

Feel my love!!!!



Oops sorry---one of those nights!

Next time I do that, I'll have to remember wash the dust off the monitor!

i agree its the good guy vs the bad but i think it s more for a sense of security thinking a nice guy wont protect them when its the abuisive men that think only about there self gain and are cowards. i have ofteh had to repair Quote the vices and controls a coward placed in them i dont mind doing it, but when abuise is there form of love its so hard to open them up because they trust no one and emotionall abuise is invisible so its harder to find and heal im a down man but i dont have to put my guard up and act tuff i just pour in love and she how much she grows..the more time you spend on one another loving the whole body and soul and taking on life as one..

Real love exists, I believe I have had it before with my first marriage(up until it fell apart)

unfortunately , that makes me kind of specific about the 'romantic abandon' I want to feel and have in a relationship, something that older and 'experienced' adults arent as good at as young men and women with all the hope and potential and life still in front of them

if I found the right guy, I could have that abandon again. But in honesty, I have had too many dead end relationships at this point to motivate me to put in the effort and energy again and I know this is wrong on a conscious level, so I have to work on that before I will probably 'give my all' to anyone again.

He would have to be a pretty amazing and patient guy though,,,,

I've met and dated (although not for long after it became obvious) a few 'ladies' who indicated by either word or deed that they were not only used to abuse being part of a relationship, but that they expected it as part of being shown 'love'. Umm - NO.

I can think of many ways to show love 'n respect that aren't abusive. Besides, if they considered abuse part of a 'normal' relationship, how long would it take before they thought I'd like it, too? Homey don't wait around to find out stuff like that. I also don't need them callin' the sheriff's office to file false charges of 'abuse' against me 'cuz I won't hit 'em.

If there's gonna be 'abuse' of any kind in my relationship with a lady, we can agree beforehand to take out our mutual frustrations on each other's 'pink bits' ... with lube. Now THAT's 'abuse' I can git into, seemsayin' ...

Did I mention I have lube ... ?

you see you need sexual gratifacation to feel better .talking about the truth must be hard you think with your inch brain . it takes alot of time and effort to love. sex aint love are you lost or have a big hole in your heart. you dont need to touch to love and people enable them selfs to fill one hole another gets left empty when in fact love should be sacared because its the heart that makes who you are. not the memories that hold you down. sorry people for his blindness. love light and growth to all.. he just dont live with enough love in his heart.........

Percy Sledge; The Ultimate Collection, I have that on cassette and it's always been my go to music when my heart is hurting. Guess it's time I it find on CD somewhere