I'd like to poll the women of this site: is my beard attractive?

I've only gotten a few in-person comments on it, and it never lead anywhere (although there was one case where a woman did compliment me on it and I was so oblivious to her because I was going through the checkout line at the library that I didn't follow up on her compliment, so chalk that one up to my own stupidity).

I'm rather fond of my beard because I haven't shaved in seven years and all that I have is a goatee a few inches long (I do trim my moustache occasionally). I would have to be seriously interested in a woman to shave for her, but I would hope that a woman who was serious about me wouldn't ask me to shave.

Your thoughts on this matter and the rest of my profile will be appreciated.

Elijah.

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Tammy

I know that you want to keep it-but you really did ask for an opinion here...
Keep the moustache but I'm afraid I'm going to vote for loosing the beard....

Best wishes

sorry dude.

Just a thought though, if you shaved it, you might find a higher quality woman. At the very least you might have more to choose from.

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I don’t know why you care about the opinions of people you will never meet. Break away from the crowd and be your own thinker.

You should wear clothing and your style because you like it – and not worry about others.

Since you asked, I don’t think it’s attractive. The thought of kissing someone with a straggly beard is not sexy. It looks unsanitary regardless of how clean a person keeps their beard. If food or lint gets caught in the hair it’s just gross. It's the same theory if someone has bad teeth. They MIGHT be clean but if they are discolored or missing - you don't want to kiss their mouth.

In terms of facial hair, I dislike 70's/80’s looks: goatees and mustaches. I can’t believe some people still wear those looks since it is 2010 but I digress. I’ve never liked beards. I think a soul patch is sexy as well as a Comanche. I do like some funky facial hair styles like chops that fade into a soul patch.

I revisit the idea that you shouldn’t worry about what other people think. Rock your look and own it!

ohhh well i am older.. so styles may differ a bit.. but too long if you ask me.. i see you are a dishwasher do you cover it at work? to me that makes it more unappealing since i found a hair under my pancakes once <looked like pubic>and i threw up... ill never go back to that restaurant again ill tell you! i did not make it outta there before i did get sick... made it to the bathroom thank gawd!im thinking.. thank gawd it was under the pancake and not in my mouth! or on my fork!

Dam, I was half expecting this post to be from a girl....

It gets pretty cold in Alaska. I say, keep the beard...

That looks sick. Shave for a while then you can grow a mans beard.

If you can get it to this point, then I approve:

Hello all,

looks like the majority so far is a no-go on the beard.

Melody, I ask because after having lived a somewhat isolated life there are many social norms that I am unaware of. I'm just trying to understand people around me better. I am going to keep the beard for now.

I can understand if a girl wouldn't want to kiss a bearded guy; after all, skin-on-skin contact is more sensual than skin-on-hair contact. If I find a girl that I like well enough to kiss then I'll offer to shave.

To be continued.

Frankly, if a woman wouldn't want to date me solely because of my beard, then I probably wouldn't want to date her. On the other hand, if I go another year or two without a girlfriend, I might change my mind.

Buttons, no I don't cover my beard at work. However, I've been at this restaurant for about 10 months and have received no complaints about beard hair. I have overheard a few complaints about long hairs that must have come from one of the waitresses. About the only time when my face is positioned over food is when I'm doing prep work, which means that I'm not very busy at the moment and I'm looking right at the food that I'm preparing.

On another subject about my profile:

Should I tell people in my profile that I only recently came out of a strict Christian family and am clueless as to the world of dating? Does that scare you away? When I meet someone in person I can carry on a fairly normal conversation without mentioning my past, so should I act normal first and only later tell women about how I got here?

Elijah.

You seem to have a great, positive attitude.

Just be yourself. When you are around a girl that makes you feel comfortable, you will do just fine and the conversation will flow naturally. You will know when to bring up your "sheltered" beginnings.

I think you would look better without a beard but at the very minimum I would trim it about 2 inches up. My bf has a beard and mustache so Im not opposed to facial hair. Just like anything else..wear it well.

What you have listed on your profile is enough regarding your raising in religion, in my eyes.

Best thing to do...be yourself, be genuine, but most of all have fun!