I think you need to step out of the situation and look at it from a different perspective.

Did he tell you up front while writing with you that he got involved in another relationship?

Are you his go to person when things don't work out? (Will this be a pattern?)

Was he emotionally involved with you when in the other relationship?

What was the true reason for moving to WI? Why is he moving back?

Look at everything as unemotional as possible before you decide to take anything further.

Best wishes.

Yeah he told me ahead of time that see was seeing someone but still telling me that he wanted to be with me but I told him we couldn't be involved because it wouldn't be fair to the other girl. No he has other friends he goes to besides me. The reason he moved to Wisconsin was because he got a better job opportunity. He moving back because he's upset with his situation there and wants to come back to his friends and family.

ok so this guy i met at work over a year ago and i were hitting it off but before we made things offical he had to move to wisconsin, we tried to work things out but the distance thing just didnt work, so we stayed friends writing back and forth, then later on he found someone new and they dated, moved in together...then they started fighting and now they have called it quits and he is now moving back to cali, what i want to know is it wrong of me to feel happy about this, and also what should i expect when he comes back, should i go for it?

wrong to feel happy? Good Grief! Do cartwheels woman! It doesn't mean u are glad he experienced pain in a relationship, but heck it's always great to see an old friend!

ok so newest update on the situation... we had a long conversation yesterday, he wants to meet up when he gets back and he wants a relationship but he needs time, but also doesn't want me to wait around for him, so on one hand it seems like he does want to be with me but is not wanting to hold me back or on the other hand it could be an excuse to hang out/ hook up but not be tied down soooo who knows, im just excited to see him again!

Ok. Let me give you the play by play on how this will all go down. You two meet up. You are looking hot, and dude begins to say to himself, "Self....I soooo wanna hit that.". And you, seeing how good he looks say to yourself, "Self.....that dude is gonna get rocked by me tonight.". A nice dinner, some talk, and then you go and shag. He then decides that he does not need time, so he wants to kick it with you.

Ok, so it might not actually go this way, but I liked it.

it would be nice. however....

if he was really really really into you in the first place he would
have stayed in Cali, found a job near you, kept dating you, not
dated anyone else...

i'm not saying it can't work out and i'm not saying it won't work out...but i am saying take it slowly - especially in a rebound
situation.

all the best!