Are there things you would give up for the person you cared about if they asked?

My mom asked dad to quit hunting. He did, it wasn't a big deal to him.

anything they asked except "being me"

It would depend. I've given up a lot for myself. I'm not sure if there's much else I'm willing to give up at this time.

For Mac I'd give up

pork rinds
the left side of the bed
sleeping with the tele or radio on
mud masks

he hates all of these but never asked me to give em up

beyond these

I give up nothing else!!!

depends on what it is... if you did these when you got together, why is a big deal after you are together? it sounds to me like a "i love you but" type thing...

Why would he hate mud masks? You don't force HIM to wear them do you? Shame on you!

Haha. He does need one the poor guy.

funny you should bring this up, I have been thinking of posting this same subject. And for the right lady yes I would, but then again it depends on what she wanted me to give up. A few years ago one wanted me to give up my dog if it was to go any farther. NO WAY was I going to do that just because she had a kid. I felt at the time I was ready to take THEM in to my life what more can they ask for?

It depends on what it was.....

I gave up my Job that i loved because he didn't like me working there, 3 months later he broke up with me.

So i would never give up my job again!!

I use the mantra “take me as is or not at all” and I also use that voice when I date someone.

If a mental list starts to form of “things I wish he didn’t do” then I know he is not for me. I will never ask someone to change. I certainly wouldn’t be with anyone who asked me to change.

Compromise is important in a relationship; however, compromise is not about habits, behaviors or hobbies. Compromise is more about time management and respect for each other, ie, COOPERATION. For example, if one person of the couple needs the car for work, the other might have to give up going to the gym after work and make other arrangements.

Asking someone to change – or being asked to change – is a recipe for failure as these are not realistic expectations.

I look for someone who can blend their life harmoniously with me - as they are - warts and all.

Melody is a smart lady! I agree with what she's said here.

Well, I'm sure it'll come up sooner or later, but I'd have to comprimise with them on these things:

One side of the bed

A little room under the bathroom sink

A toothbrush slot

Split time with the remote

Most women won't deal with my "no house pets" policy

A few drawers of the dresser





I'm sure I'm forgetting something.

I'd think it would be how fast you discussed it. For my folks it was on the second date. Mom explained atheism to dad (he didn't care) and her issues with hunting. And that was a part of "if this is to continue...". He hadn't grown up with it as a way of life but did it as something to do. He was also one who did the no animals in the house except for emergencies but he mellowed pretty quick on that.

Now I could certainly see it being a problem if you had known it for some time and then suddenly wanted it stopped.

What do you mean they won't deal with your no house pets policy? Do you expect women to give up their pets for you? Do you bring up that policy in the very beginning of dating?

no I wouldn't. If I give up something then it's because I want to

Due to the popular demand, of many would-be girlfriends, I gave up dating and the hope that I'd ever find a woman.

I also gave up smoking because a woman asked me to. (And because of some other reasons, too.)

I also gave up my religion for a woman.

I gave up seven Monopoly games, three world cup soccer games, and five chess games, because women asked.

Wow, that was rude. I'm sorry, I was raised on a farm and taught that animals belong outside the house. I'm sure you've never carried a value taught to you by your folks into your adult life. I'm still learning to cope, and I try to be cordial. Of course, I usually don't bring up living arrangements on a first date. I guess I should then?

Split time with the remote? Meaning? You share the remote with her, she handles it half the time, and you the other time, or she has to share your time with the remote, you handle the remote half the time, and you handle her the other half?

Confusing.

Basically it means that I get it on Sunday when there is football, and when she's not home.

I would think, in a really close relationship (& why would anyone give up anything for anyone if they weren't REALLY close) if something bothers the other person (& if you actually care about them you DO notice even when they don't say anything) in love, you might OFFER to give it up .. not have to be asked to.



IMHO