the other night my daughter (6 years old), ask me why my bf wasnt coming around no more, i told her that we broke up.. and she ask me why did i want to date someone anyway.. she said "mom.. why cant it just be me and you, we are fun, we do stuff, do we really need someone else??? " and honestly i dont even know wat to say to her, i am sure i come up with an answer to pacify her enough for that night, but i want a good reason to give to her.. and i dont know how to explain it to a child.. anyone that can help and put it in words that a child can understand i would appreciate it..

Mommy needs a friend who is stronger than her to lift all the heavy stuff around and fix the laundry machine or the windows sill and also a good friend who's gonna protect us from the nasty people out there.

simply just answer " baby your young enough to know this, in time when you grow up you may get the best asnwers to your questions. for now mommy just want to have matured friends who understand her feelings, someone who is there to cry on...."
hope it helps

lol.. its been me and her for so long now, she has seen that i dont actually "need" a man around, but i really liked your answer.. it bout made me cry.. coz deep down thats exactly what i want.. but becoz of lack of that very thing, i have evolved not to require it to survive..

My child didn't understand why I wanted to date either. I explained how my child liked to play with kids their age and how they wouldn't like to be around grown ups all of the time. I explained how I like to be around people my own age sometimes too.

That sounds like a really good explanation for a young one. Did she get it?

There is no easy answer here.Not for a six year old.But she needs one.Good Luck on how you answer it.

Thanks. Yes, my child understood it. Mom needed to play with kids her own age. lol It didn't mean that I loved my child any less just like my child didn't love me less because they were playing with kids their own age.

im digging this answer.. thanks.. now if only she dont ask why it has to be a boy.. and not just hanging out with the girls.. lol

Maybe you should tell her:

there's never going to be anyone more important to me in this whole wide world then you, even if mommy has a 100 different friends you'll always be my number one.

maybe she'll like that

Your lucky. My daughter has my cell phone printed out and when I take her out she goes up and hands it to various women telling them her dads lonley and needs a date. I could ring her little neck.

thats soo sweet.. my girl is the exact opposite, she is kinda weary of men who approach me, she told one that if i would have liked him, i would have said hello first.. lol.. i cant win for losing.. lol

It's not dweet, it's embarassing!

yea.. i can see where its embarassing to you now.. but one day... way down the road.. it may seem sweet to you.. lol.. but prolly not..

Nope, makes me look desperate :(

Seems my Mom said something to the effect of:

Mommy loves you and enjoys spending time with you too. But sometimes you're in school, and sometimes you're playing with your friends. So Mommy needs to have friends of her own around for when you aren't able to be with Mommy.

It was something like that, but that was also 35 years ago, so I can't recall word for word.

I never could find the right way to explain any of it to my boys..or to the men so I just bagged it all for about 10 years.
Got to be where none of it was worth the hassle anyway...

My child didn't understand why I wanted to date either. I explained how my child liked to play with kids their age and how they wouldn't like to be around grown ups all of the time. I explained how I like to be around people my own age sometimes too.


This sounds like a really sane answer. I have yet to face this problem with my little ones. But it is good to be prepared for what may lie ahead.

Well, she needs friends, and Mommy does too..


It doesnt require a big long complicated, and awkward rebuttle.

perhaps your child was right? at least for now.....

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