How many of you have been married and divorced and now have kids and find it hard to find a date?

zeeeerooooos accross the board here!

(sort of)

Not me.. My only problem is 'is the girl dating me or my damn son'..

I want the kids...but not the being married thing.

Ok......I'm not scared to post that I'm a single mom. I have two kids. It probably does scare most men off........of course I don't introduce my kids to men. Hell I don't know.

Been Married.

Am Divorced.

Have 5 kids.

Have never had a problem getting a date .. go figure

Agreed on the not introducing

Agreed on the not introducing.

*Some people lie about having children on dates.

ok i have to explain this.....

i raised one (a boy) that wasn't mine for nine years...i love that kid more than anything and i fought for a year and a half for the right to see him after his mom and i split up.

he will always be a part of my life because he is a part of me.

i spend as much time with him as i can now and couldnt imagine not having him around.

(ok i feel better now)

I don't care, I like kids..I don't have any. What I don't like is the moms introducing me to her kid I never knew about at 1am in her apartment, butt naked.

I do.. Because it will determine whether i want to mess with the girl or not.. I truthfully & honestly don't want a girl who does not want to be bothered with my son..

Are you serious???!! What kind of mom does that??!!!

ok i have to explain this.....

i raised one (a boy) that wasn't mine for nine years...i love that kid more than anything and i fought for a year and a half for the right to see him after his mom and i split up.

he will always be a part of my life because he is a part of me.

i spend as much time with him as i can now and couldnt imagine not having him around.

(ok i feel better now)

*Well you care for your kid. That is an awesome thing and never lose that.

yeah...it does happen

I had both of my kids while I was in high school and spent 8 years with their father. I have no idea if it would be easier to date without kids or not since I have never experienced that. I will say however that I have chosen not to introduce my kids into any relationship until it's serious. I know too many women and men that have exposed their kids to their short term relationships and it has caused too much pain and heartache for the kids. Kids get attached easily and if the relationship don't work out, you are not the only one to get hurt.....the kids do too.

I actually find it hard to date because most of the men I know want to have kids and I don't want to have anymore. I will definitely date a single father but will not date a man who wants to have more kids.

I don't understand it!!! I mean my kids are the most important thing in my life and i tend to talk about my kids too much, not mentioning that you have kids is the dumbest thing i ever heard..like springing that on someone is going to make them accept them??!! Some people!!

I agree, I got my tubes tied for that exact reason!!

I agree but like KC said -

well for some people, their needs come first and i really don't think they consider the children or the guy....priorities of the moment!

i NEVER will...