Why do people tend to be shy when it comes to talking on a date? Where is the personality?

Because they cant handle the pressure.

It's called Anxiety meeting someone for the first time and they shut down and become shy in fear they will be judged....In my case I was always shy

It is true. First dates can put you under pressure. If you want your date to feel comfortable and not shy, maybe make outing less "date like".

I for one can say it is not a choice.I am shy at first.It probably is because of the pressure,like Mayhem said.For me, it is mostly being centered out.It makes me feel awkward.I get the same way when being photographed.lol.Believe me when I say it's more painful for me than you lol.It would be a dream to change it and feel at ease.Give the person some time, they will warm up and you can see the great personality shine through.

I'm not exactly shy. I do have high anxiety though and it takes me a while to process things and "read" people.

I have never ever been known to be shy on a first date, or any other date.

I feel good in my skin and operate accordingly

I'll bechta I can.......just saying.

You might get that tingling sensation.

I for one can say it is not a choice.I am shy at first.It probably is because of the pressure,like Mayhem said.For me, it is mostly being centered out.It makes me feel awkward.I get the same way when being photographed.lol.Believe me when I say it's more painful for me than you lol.It would be a dream to change it and feel at ease.Give the person some time, they will warm up and you can see the great personality shine through.

*I believe this is harder for some to deal with than others. But I believe once people start talking it breaks the ice.

I'll bechta I can.......just saying.

*For some reason I believe her.

You should see my first dates. OMG.....I totally either have people rolling or they freak out, stab themselves in the eye with a fork, and then the EMT's come...date over. But that only happened one time....I swear!

I lost my tingle in my divorce.

If a first date's "pressure" they shouldn't be on it

Bet I could find it for ya.

Are you qualified to find thingies?

Very much so...

If a first date's "pressure" they shouldn't be on it

*so true just leave.

YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!










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