Not to worry babe .. I knew it was for the Goof. Whyyyyyy would anyone want to push ME out of a car

I was a little uncomfortable with it when I first started seeing someone...I wasn't used to it. My ex's would go through the door and then let it slam in my face or leave me standing in the rain waiting on them to unlock my car door so I could get in...so I was kinda used to that! It is nice though once you get used to it. Very respectful!

I find that to be very sweet when a man does so, afterall what woman doesn't like a gentlemen. :)

Actually, I am a bit uncomfortable with it and kinda suspicious about it. If the guy is only doing it to impress me and it's not part of his usual make-up, then I don't find it flattering at all. Some guys do those things only for the sake of others witnessing them and thinkin he's such a great guy, but in truth he's a horses' behind. I would rather open my own doors and pull out my own seat and have you treat me nice all the time and because you want to, not just to get into my britches or to impress others.

I've been wondering when a reply like that would come along... for me, it's just the way I was brought up, I do it for my Mom, my sister, and any lady I happen to be with... How do you know if he's just being nice or not? I'll admit, I have had hostile reactions to it a time or two and I really didn't understand why...

Well, I wouldn't say I'm hostile, just suspicious. Some of the sweetest guys I know never did/do any of these things, while some real jerks I've known, did. So, while it might out of respect...it's a false impression if isn't sincere.

You know if he's just being nice or not if it doesn't continue over time, if it stops then it was all just for show.

Eh... I think that those are things you should do if you intend to keep doing them. If you're only doing it because you know it's right and don't give a damn then I say don't do it at all.

A sincere act of carelessness is infinitely more respectable than an insincere act of generosity.

I always open doors for women though. In a way... it's a little weird. Kinda like saying, "Hey, you go first in case there's something horrible inside."

I've never dated someone who actually got out of the car, walked around and opened the door for me to get out. I might think it's a little weird if that actually happened, because I wouldn't be expecting it. I don't expect to have my chair pushed in at a restaurant, either. I do think men can be gentlemen without having to do those things, though, so it's definitely not expected or required.

^^^^ What she said...

I hope you don't mean by paying for everything on the first date. While it is the kind thing to do, it adds up fast.

Where did I say I expect men to pay? I just meant that those things that were specifically mentioned in the OP do not make someone a gentleman. As others have said, it's going to depend on the person. Are they always like that? Are they just like that because they're trying to impress us? Just opening a car door or pushing in a chair does not automatically make someone a gentleman. And not doing those things does not disqualify them from being gentlemen.

If someone holds doors open for me...that's great. A lot of guys around here do that. But if they don't....no worries. Not a big deal for me either way.

But see, the moment a dude forgets to open the door for his girl, she gives him crap about. Saying stuff like, "Oh. You don't love me like you used to." Or, "I see how it is. You courted me and now you have me, so now all the sweet stuff is done and over with." UGH!!!

Well, I do think of it to be a sweet gesture but I wouldn't be one to jump to the conclusion that he thinks any less just because he forgot. I am definitely capable of holding the door for him once in awhile. :D

Ahhhhh! So you would hold the door open for your dude eh? So sweet, but I wonder. Once he began to sit down in the vehicle, would you slam the door on his leg?

Hey. Some girls out there can be mean ol' witches. Just sayin. Not saying YOU would do that. Would you?

Ya like that new remote deal huh ?

Why is showing some consideration considered "old fashioned"? I understand that when a better way of doing things comes along, the previous way of doing it is considered old fashioned. So if opening a door for a female is considered old fashioned, what is the new style better way? If your vehicle is equiped with power door locks, does that mean you open your door first, then hit the button to unlock the other side? Maybe that is one other reason for me to stick to motorcycles, no door to open.