I tried speed dating this past weekend for the first time and feel a lot better about whom I decided to remain in contact with. It feels like a it might actually work out instead of the it was not what I expected but I will go with it anyways kind of feeling with online dating.

I met my last ex on-line (AOL) and we were together for 10 years. My current bf I met on POF and we have been together for over a year.

I think Mingle is great but then again I am not looking for anyone... just on here to mingle and talk to different people. The forums are a great way to get a feel for someone's personality though. Takes me back to the chat room days on AOL...I really miss those!

Since I've been a member of mingle zero dates not even returned emails.. lol I guess I have better luck in real life, but then they've all approached me. Maybe I should upload some pics but I'm just not sure...

so far this year 12

3 DATES AND NONE WAS GOOD

I met a girl on line and we imed and emailed for a couple of months. She said she was a tall blonde and I would not be dissapointed when we met live. She was a nurse and lived about 200 miles away and we set up a meet at a casino about half way between us. I was really excited to meet her and took a day off work. It took me along time to get ready, and I felt like a little school boy, I wanted to make a good first impression. She was alittle younger than me but not much. I had been married for 22 years and divorced for a year so this was all new to me. I couldn't wait to meet this girl I had laughed and flirted with for what seemed like forever, and the chemistry was definately there. How fortunate I was to be meeting my possible soulmate. I planned the day in my head about how we would have dinner and maybe gamble abit while we would talk. I got in my truck and headed out into the bright sunny day to count the miles between us as I drove. About half way to the casino I stopped in a small town and bought some carnations at the florist.
I got there alittle early because I am always on time and sat by the entrance we had agreed on then stood for awhile because I was nervous. The hostess and a few passerbys kiddingly asked if the flowers were for them to break the ice. It seemed like the women around me all wanted to know what the occasion was and while blushing I told them what was about to happen.
As people walked up to the entrance I looked at everyone to see if they might be her and it was not and after a while the thought of being stood up started to creep in, but I dismissed it because it was still abit early and there was still time. At a distance I saw bright blonde hair on someone tall walking up behind a group of people and as the group got closer I realized it was a SHE and I stood up trying not to smile to hard. I could see the hostess and a few others that had been milling around turn their heads to see what was going to happen and then she started walking directly toward me. This had to be a coincidence, this woman of 330 pounds with three chins was wearing the same color shirt that my date was going to wear. I turned and looked for some place to run but there was none. Standing there like a deer in the headlights grasping an arrangement of flowers I stood there in disbelief. Surely this could not be her, and then I heard my name. "Greg??"
Instinct kicked in and I said "Stephany??" politely. I was angry inside now and wanted to be mean because I was hurt, but I could not do that. I was brought up to be a gentleman, and no matter how much I had been decieved I felt more sorry for her than angry. The thought that she might have believed that if I got to know her before we met might somehow negate the weight that she was carrying around suddeny entered my mind. I remembered times when I had felt not perfect and so I wanted to let her off the hook. I handed her the flowers and took her to a secluded hall way with some funiture where we sat down. I had to tell her that I was sorry but this was not going to work and quietly left her there.
That was a few years ago and I have not had an online meet since, and of course I am very weary now about it happening again and so now I hold back. I read the forums and check out profiles here and there, and occasionally email a compliment or two. Sometimes I tease women about something silly they may have said in the forums or in their profile. Its all in fun, some are guarded, and some tease me back, but I haven't even come close to setting up a meet on here or anywhere since.
I do meet women in real life...lol <<<kidding about the real life thing...but I am still hanging on to the idea that I am going to meet her somewhere...

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