100% FREE ONLINE DATING
sponsored links
Previous
| Topic: Being upfront | |
|---|---|
|
|
|
'up front'....as far as what? Hidden agenda? Being honest? Yes and yes. Oh!! I took "upfront" to mean when a person asks for an opinion they are offended by either the truth or another person's opinion. Ignore my preceding reply. 
I agree the people are less than candid and truthful. I suppose some of my previous reply still applies to this meaning also. People don’t tell the truth and are usually not prepared for the truth. Skating around the truth; avoiding confrontation to keep from getting caught; or avoiding the truth as to not hurt someone’s feelings (cowardliness). It’s all there. Your previous reply was fine, as well as this one. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Thanks everyone else for your replies as well!
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I am always upfront with people. I will always tell the person the truth. Whether it hurts them or not. I don't believe in sugar coating anything. Or tickling the ears. If they want to hang with me. They better be able to handle my bluntness. I am the type that says what I mean. And mean what I say. I don't sway from that. If ya don't like it. Oh, well. If you decide that you don't want to be my friend because of it. Oh, well. I wasn't put here on earth for a popularity contest. And I am the first to tell people if they even don't like the way I look. Oh, well. I wasn't put on this earth for a beauty contest. So. I AM a no holding back, straight forward kinda man. Mike
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I was chatting with a friend earlier about how most people are not upfront about things. Unfortunately, I'm finding that to be true more often than not lately. What about you guys? Do you find that most people you know are upfront about things? Are you upfront even if it's not going to make someone happy? ALWAYS. Wins me many disgruntled, uncomfortable 'ex friends', and in online situations such as this, many suspensions. I could play 'nice'...however, wtf for?..To be less than who I am? I think not. I find that by being upfront, by being clear, concise, and at times, allegedly brutally honest I have more self respect, and much more respect for those of a similar ilk. No second guessing the dialogue, not having to be disappointed by discovering what someone says, and what they really think are often two VERY different things. Insipid opaque vague nicities leave me colder than Siberia...tell me straight, tell me plainly, and most times the esteem I have for that person is elevated. Perhaps it's a cultural thing? I suspect Aussies are reknowned for their 'upfrontedness'.. 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Always tell the truth, that way you don't have to remember what you said. - advice from Grandpa
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I'm finding that to be fairly common too. But sometimes their coming across as not being upfront and truthful to themselves.
The ex went on and on about wanting to do the whole self-sufficiency thing, farm, gardens, etc. Then he turns around and decides he wants a quarter acre on the lake and a fishing boat. Ummm, hello?! Where's the self-sufficiency in that and where are the animals going to go?! |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
'up front'....as far as what? Hidden agenda? Being honest?   
guess it a matter of perception |
|
|
|
|
