I am very pessimistic about the existence of romantism, people today tend to do things in a very classical way. I am so romantic so you can feel my concern. Do you believe in romantism?

i do beleive in it but i dont think it is anything like it used to be. times change and i think that romance did too.

In books & movies ............yes

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Uh...how does anyone here know you are romantic and thus share your concern?

Didn't romanticism refer moreso to literature and art, not so much to the people?

In that case, yes, it is dead. Trust me, I'm a writer, we are very much dead.

honestly... sadly i think guys have made it soo that it is dead. ur gorgeous half the time just means im trying to get into ur pants... trust me if u consider urself to be into romance keep it that way that lucky girl u end up will appreciate it since its so rare now and days :( haha off to kiss idk how many more frogs to see if maybe one turns into a prince!!! wish me luck lol.

Guys have made it so that it is dead? Now, going by this thought of yours, guys have single handidly killed romance. Guys. Only guys. And I am guessing that women who use men for their money, or to get them out of a bad situation have no effect on romance huh?

See, I love it when some women blame guys for this, or that. Let me ask this? What kind of guy do you choose to date? Is it the geek who really would like to date you, but you ignore because he won't approach you? Or he has approached you and you shot him down because he didn't have the looks? Or how about the guy who has all the confidence, spoke to you, charmed you and he has the looks. So of course you date him only to find out he wanted to get laid and left you after he tired of you.

I will agree that some guys do only want one thing. But to blame men for lack of romance? Come on. Romance does exist, but the problem is keeping that romance alive (in a relationship). Romance does require effort, which means it requires work on both parts. If anything, laziness has killed romance. People just don't wanna put the effort into it anymore. Sad really.

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No it wasn't laziness. It has more to do with materialism and what the people are taught/(indoctrinated?) to believe what is love and relationship and how to behave and conduct ourselves.

Above all I blame Hollywood with their brainwashing educations (because that's what it is) how not to behave and how not to make relationships. We are apes and we imitate what we see, like the kids want to be imaginary spider-man or want to act like a mafia boss and similar. Adults also see all these idiotic and fake "love" stories as an example and of course it becomes nothing but acting and faking it and eventually the stupid crap gets accepted as the norm and everyone wonder why all the divorces and the lack of expressions of true feelings or at least being realistic and not copying something seen in a movie.

How about a combination of the two Atlantis? I do see your point. Materialism is a big issue in relationships. We buy things and think that they buy us favor with our partner. Or, we buy something to fill a need of lonliness, buy a gift to impress our mate, and we think that these gifts will fix things or make our lives better. Had an argument? Go buy her a ring and apologize and all is well. But how about you talk to her/him, and don't waste the money on the gift? If you think the gift is the "key", then your relationship is doomed.

Laziness exists though because people just do not want to exert the extra effort. In our minds, love is always supposed to be so damn awesome. And it is. But there are times when you have to work at it. And when those times happen, people would rather look away in the hopes that it will just disappear. Yeah. That always works.

Whats wrong with frogs the way they are ?

They have to be prettier...**** all, does anyone but me see the complete illogical aspect of this entire argument or am I really the only one?

I think that romance is what you make of it. For both people. I'm a very traditional women I like to be romanced with things that don't cost any money. Little love notes, walks together, him making dinner for a change and remembering the small little details of a relationship. But it is what you make of it. If you don't put any effort forth then you won't get it in reuturn. I do believe that as a society both men and women have become lazy when it comes to making a relationship work. At least from what I have observed. It's easier to just move on then to fix what is falling apart. I don't say that because I am a little bitter still but when the statistics are 1/2 of marriages work.. that sums it up.

I think that romance has changed in the minds of some of the people out in the world today but.... I truly disbelieve that romance has changed at all or even what it is meant to mean. Romance is Romance and it will always be the same.Romance is meant to show feeling and to be symbolic of some kind of love whether it is true or puppy love. I think that the main thing that has truly been forgotten in romance today is chivalry. It went out the door and down the road and has been there for a long time. I just think that now a days people tend to fail to look in there hearts and actually take a look at how someone should be treated such as a lady.However then again I am still one that believes in the moonlit nights with a candle lit dinner and music when greeted with roses to start the night.

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Yes I think it is,its not the way it was when I was growing up.some ppl are in to much of a rush these days,they don't want to take the time to get to REALLY know u.Whats the rush anyway?What ever happened to dating anyway? To many ppl just want to jump your bones right away.Give me back the romance and the getting to know a person.

I'm finding it very difficult to put into words what I'm thinking here, but I absolutely don't believe it's dead at all. For those who do believe that, I feel sorry for you, as romance is about all the magic one gets in life. If you can't feel that magic anymore because you've convinced yourself that it's dead and gone, then what bleak existence awaits you in the future? Romance, love, and attraction exists only between the people involved, and may not even be recognizable to someone who's outside that interaction. It simply cannot be covered by blanket statements like "Romance is dead and gone in the modern world". BS - that's only true if that's what you believe.

I'm an eternal romantic and I need, want one who still believes in romance.