When you get bored in a relationship, what do you do?

Not advice-wise.

What do YOU actually do?

take a brake, for a brief

Story of my life.

Get involved with someone, they get boring, I move on.

Next one gets boring, I move on.

And so on and so on and so on....

Maybe I wouldn't get so bored if they didn't try to turn me into a goat. Not that goats are boring -- I love goats. I just don't want to be turned into one.

But it's also true that the only ex I ever had who NEVER got boring was also the only one who didn't try to goatify me.

That just happened to us!

We took a little break

did our own thing for a little while

talked a little bit here and there

till we decided it was time to rob another bank!!

I've always thought of a good relationship sort of like having a partner in crime. The break thing has never worked out for me, though.

Have you tried playing Scrabble with them, Lex?

Take a break and then do something adventurous together. Like gossipmpm says roba bank!!

try to figure out what to do to put the "spice" back into it, then I take a break, usually a long and permanent one. I can e bored by myself, don't need any boring help in the matter

I don't know. I've never been in a relationship long enough to get bored.

It's not good times, totage. It'll happen, though.


Usually stuff gets set on fire.

Most of them were far too illiterate to even make the attempt. Several of them thought "Scrabble" was something you do to an egg.

I went sport fishing up the river by myself and refected on what it was like when it was not so boring. Time out is good too. Sometimes we get too comfortable and spontineity disappears.
I usually found ways to change the situation.

Silent reflection, then? I can dig it. Can't hurt.

Haha. Time out is the most popular option so far.

Lex - set stuff on fire! Nobody believes me but it really works.

That never works for me. They just think I'm trying to cook something again.

You ever tried dating a writer, Lex? Or someone whose first language wasn't English?

I'd love to date a writer, but writers tend to have a lot of unresolved issues and they don't make good relationship partners. Uh, except for me, I mean. Yup.

True story: I dated a girl from another site who was a columnist for her local small-town newspaper. The upshot was that she wanted me to w rite her column for her -- no pay, no byline, no credit, plus I knew absolutely nothing about her town, so it would have been a little awkward.

I dated another one who was a magazine writer but she had unresolved issues (see above) and it didn't work out.

As for the English thing, I suppose "hillbilly" is a sort of derivation of English, more or less, so all I can tell you is that most of them spoke and wrote AS IF their first (or second, or third) language wasn't English. That's kind of a sore spot for me.

Haha. Damned writers and their unresolved issues. Not us, but the other ones.

I dated a girl whose first language was German for a year or two. She was a photographer and that actually went pretty well. There was never the whole literacy problem because she spoke two languages fluently, and used to write me notes in German all the time.

Actually... all of the relationships that I've had have been bridged because the girl knew at least one foreign language. None of them have been writers.

See, I think -- at least hypothetically -- that I could do very well with another writer. (Provided she was lacking the "I-Need-To-Turn-This-Guy-Into-A-Goat gene). I've always been drawn to the creative types -- the ones who held my attention for more than 90 days were always the ones who were involved in music or art or photography or writing or something creative along those lines....

But I don't run into a lot of writers in real life -- hell, I never meet ANYBODY in real life, living in this dank Hadean den of pestilence and repugnant grammatical deconstructions -- so the opportunity just never arises....

Well, man, you do live in Indiana. No offense, but I'm pretty sure that if The Divine Comedy were written today Indiana would fall somewhere in there.

I don't think there's a very good chance of an extremely creative person having a lasting relationship with someone who isn't. Given, it doesn't need to be the same craft, but if they at least appreciate that creativity is important to you things tend to go way smoother.

You ever tried poetry readings?

Indianastan was originally intended to be the Seventh Level of Hell but Dante couldn't get the rights or something.

I can attest that creative types DO have problems finding someone suitable to get involved with. This, on top of my 417 other rules, standards, and deal-breakers, make it extremely difficult to achieve any sort of compatibility with anyone who isn't eccentric enough to be diagnosed as clinically insane, which probably isn't even a clinical diagnosis anymore but it sounds good.

Still, an insane girlfriend would be better than one of the boring, vapid "long walks on the bleach" airhead fluffballs I so regularly attracted back in my musical days.

As for poetry readings: you know, I really don't get poetry, to be honest. I'll take the occasional ill-advised stab at it every now and then, just to see what all the hoopla is about (aside from the fact that I'm swinging a knife around for no apparent reason) but to just sit around and listen to someone recite 1048 lines about their fluffy pillow, I don't know.

It's more about the venue. Poetry readings are usually at coffee shops or something and there are a lot of women who go for open mics regarding music.

You get girls who are into photography, writing, music, generally being insane... and it's not a bar so if they're acting retarded it's probably a 24 hour thing.

It's the best luck I've had so far in terms of pre-planned networking.