ok so i met this chick thru my best friends wife, when i met her she was
engaged. the guy my best friend explained to me treats her like ****.
but this girl has blonde hair and blue eyes, two things that do nothing
for me. anyways as the week progresses i relized that i had fallen for
this girl, well i find out from my buddies wife that her friend likes me
too, so we keep in touch while im out to sea for two weeks. when i pull
in she suprises me by being on her way to see me. at the end of her
stay she tells me that shes in love with me. then everything is gravy
for about 2 mos then all of a suddenly everything is great between her
and her man and im left in the dark and cold what do i do

Learn! What have you learned?

im still madly in love with this girl shes everything that i have spent
23 yrs looking for

I hate to be harsh, dude...but, get over it!

You had done to you what guys have done to women for ever...you were
there to get her everything she wasn't getting at home. (the old my
"wife" doesn't understand me)

She got her egp boost and now things are all better at home!

Live and learn! Sorry, dude...I know it hurts!

Let her go...move on!

PUNT!

she told you everything was great between her and her MAN? what was she
doing trying you on for size? think about it

i think ur a jerk im sorry but i see u as the man who stold my wife, she
had fult to but if thir wasnt a guy like u , we would still be living
toghther w/ our daughter as a happy familly

jc you need to proof read what you post, and you may not believe this
but not everything revolves around you, get some help

i know that. read my intro 1st thing i said was i cant spell, i didnt
want to say anything in this post , but i just had to.

if things were good

you would still be together

it takes two to make it work

but if one wants a different person it will happen

ya need to move on with yer life

as long as you let what happened upset you

that is a part of you that the other has control of

countryboy move on

she wanted a last fling (last yeah right)

b4 taking the plunge

Honestly you have to just move on...you can't hold on to what isn't
there...the longer you try to hold on to it..the longer you're unhappy.
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think about this...do you really wanna be with someone who cheasts/ Why
didn't she break it off with the other guy all together before she
started seeing you....once a cheater..always one darlin'

what u said makes sence n when i tell u this will make more she cheeted
on me didnt break it up w/ that guy until after she was w/ me was with
me for two years after that n cheeted on me w/ another guy, and now she
is with someone else u ur right n i think cuz i realize that i been
feeling a lil happier wierd but that how i been feeling for the past 3
days since i broke my cell phone my only contact with her

ok in response to all the ppl that have gave me a piece of the mind,
this girl still has feelings for me, her best friend that shes been
friends with for 15 yrs says to me that she still has feelings for me
and that everytime i walk into the room her face lights up i didnt
believe it til i saw it for myself

Country - if that's the case, then she has to decide for herself how to
proceed. You should not in any way influence her. She HAS to take the
first steps out of one relationship and new steps toward becoming
herself, a single independent person, before she can ever be ready to
commit to another long term relationship with another.

Any influence you wave over her now, is just a crutch for her and will
stop her from becoming whole, all on her own.

If you love her, as much as you say you do, you will be willing to give
her the time she needs, without interference, to become whole. That is
the only way two people can ever come together in a relationship and
expect it to work.

Countryboy
I delt with a lot of stuff from my ex and had feelings like you as well.
My best advice is to run from her. She doesn't know what she wants and
you can't help her make that decision. My ex was the love of my life and
we were together for almost nine years. Since we broke up over three
years ago she has been with three of my friends "or at least they said
they were my friends" and my step dad fell in love with her. Yet she
still says she loves me and wants me back. I tried three weeks ago to
make it happen and all that did happen is I got hurt again. I would go
see her and all she talked about was him. He would come home and she
would act like nothing was up. She never told him that we were getting
back together and I had to see him touch her, hold her hand, rub her
back, and call her babe. Your heart has several doors but only one with
a key. That key is for only one person to possess and when you give it
to that someone all the other doors lock by them selves. Put this girl
behind one of the doors and look for the one that will lock it up
forever. It’s not a bad thing to keep her in your heart but it is bad
to let her break it again, and she will.

If the guy she's with is such an ass he may have threatened her somehow
to get her to stay. And to the guy who reemed him.. shut up, nobody
cares.

I'm sure her face does light up.. but she probably thinks she can 'fix'
her 'man'. She's probably been with him for a while and doesnt' know
how to let someone treat her well. I know, cus I'm the same way. When
someone does treat me right I get scared that there's a hidden agenda.

Well, she had one great fling and many more if she marries him.

Good to see you talk about it, but act on it, foolhearted. She is not
one you can decide a future with. Agree to give her some air, would be
best for you both. Try to look, focus outside yourself.

I say leave it go if she wants you as you seem to think she does then
she'll come around on her own. If you try to influence the situation one
of two things will happen she'll come running to you expecting things to
be perfect or nothing will change. Either way it goes you'll never know
if it was because of your "meddling" so to speak or because it was what
she truly decided for her. I personally think your better off without
her as she did develop a realtionship with you based on a lie mayby not
to you but a lie to someone she is supposed to be willing to comott the
rest of her life to for better or worse.

ps. you may want to change what your looking for on your profile i think
you want a WO in front of that man. but i could be wrong.LOL