I have some pretty strong feelings for a friend of mine, and I was wondering if anyone has any advice because I'm very torn over whether or not I should tell her.

We've known each other a little under a year, and I've always liked her, but there were too many other people in our lives for me to even think about trying to date her. She finally got rid of the dirtbag she was dating, and she's hinted that she's at least ready to explore the dating world again.

I'm not sure if I'm in the dreaded "friend zone" or not, but I do know she flirts a little with me. The problem is she flirts with a lot of other people too, it's just how she is. However, she has given me a few kisses on the cheek that I don't see her doing with anyone else. We talk about 4 times a week and we usually see each other at least once a week. Sometimes we're in a group, sometimes it's just the two of us.

If anyone has been through anything like this I'd really like to hear your experience and advice! Thanks!!

Honestly dude, you are in a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. The question you have to ask yourself is..."Is she worth it?" Worth risking a potential bf/gf relationship with? Worth risking losing her friendship over because you asked her for more? It's hard to say what is the way to go. Me, I had a chance long ago and chose to pursue it. Didn't end up well for either of us. I hated myself for a long time for risking it. However, I am past it and look back at it and can at least say that I did risk it. I tried. And while it didn't work out, I moved on.

Anyways, is she worth it? Figure that out and move along.

If you strongly believe that the relationship will work out between the two of you, then I say go for it. If not, then well that decision is totally up to you.

Go ahead, tell her how you feel. How could she possibly write you off ? You look kinda like Doogie Houser. Go for it !

i've done it. i was the one who was not initially attracted to her.
but she grew on me and what do you know? it turned out to be a
wonderful year and a half. many pleasant memories.

we are still friends.

i did it as well...we spent 9 years together

Thanks for the advice everyone. I especially enjoy the Doogie Houser and lame remarks. LOL, I needed that laugh today.

No harshness at all! I appreciate bluntness and I kinda agree with you.

Dude, listen here... I'm gonna tell you how to make this happen.

Next time just the two of you are hanging out and in a place where you aren't surrounded by people.... you pull her in close like for a hug but one hand goes on the small of her back and the other on the side of her face/ neck... look into her eyes and then plant one on her.


Thats how you handle business!

I did exactly that with a "friend" a couple of years ago... wound up in one of the most beautiful relationships I ever had, and the worst heart-breaking parting of the ways as well... I guess that just goes hand-in-hand, but there it is for what it's worth.