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Topic: Waiting patiently....
Unkn0vv17's photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:00 PM
Hey guys,

First of all, I admit that I don't go out on dates much. Infact, last night was my first date in probably 4 years...lol. Well, I'm not sure if it went well and being on a Sunday night, there was nothing open that we can have fun. Why that late you ask? I had to work till 6:30pm.

Well, I debated whether I should take her to a nice restaurant or a laid back place for our first date. My decision was a laid back restaurant (wished I chose the other) so we can talk and get to know more of each other. She decided to meet up since it was our first date. Well, I ended up waiting for her for 2 hours. I almost thought that I was being stood up, then got a text saying shes on her way.

So, she finally gets there and we met outside the restaurant. Gave her a single rose since I thought it would be nice. We sat in the restaurant and talked most of the time. After we left the rest. walked her to her car and asked if she wanted to go to Dave & Busters. She said that she has to work 8:30 in the morning so we didn't go, but were talking outside the restaurant for another 50 mins. She gave me a hug and we parted. Told her to give me a text when she gets home.

She texted "Home safe. I had a fun night thx"

I texted back "Glad you're home, wish it was earlier in the day so we could of done something more fun."

She texted "It's ok. I still have fun"

Today is a new day and I haven't heard from her since. My friends told me not to text her, and act like i don't care. Is that the right thing to do? I honestly don't know how the date went...

What are some of your perspectives?

Phuque2's photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:01 PM
Flip a coin and call it in the air.....

FearandLoathing's photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:02 PM

Flip a coin and call it in the air.....


Yes, I knew you would join me eventually, Phuque2.smokin

Peccy's photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:05 PM
I wouldn't, but I'm not you

Atlantis75's photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:07 PM
Edited by Atlantis75 on Mon 05/24/10 08:09 PM

Hey guys,

First of all, I admit that I don't go out on dates much. Infact, last night was my first date in probably 4 years...lol. Well, I'm not sure if it went well and being on a Sunday night, there was nothing open that we can have fun. Why that late you ask? I had to work till 6:30pm.

Well, I debated whether I should take her to a nice restaurant or a laid back place for our first date. My decision was a laid back restaurant (wished I chose the other) so we can talk and get to know more of each other. She decided to meet up since it was our first date. Well, I ended up waiting for her for 2 hours. I almost thought that I was being stood up, then got a text saying shes on her way.

So, she finally gets there and we met outside the restaurant. Gave her a single rose since I thought it would be nice. We sat in the restaurant and talked most of the time. After we left the rest. walked her to her car and asked if she wanted to go to Dave & Busters. She said that she has to work 8:30 in the morning so we didn't go, but were talking outside the restaurant for another 50 mins. She gave me a hug and we parted. Told her to give me a text when she gets home.

She texted "Home safe. I had a fun night thx"

I texted back "Glad you're home, wish it was earlier in the day so we could of done something more fun."

She texted "It's ok. I still have fun"

Today is a new day and I haven't heard from her since. My friends told me not to text her, and act like i don't care. Is that the right thing to do? I honestly don't know how the date went...

What are some of your perspectives?


Been there done that a few dozen times. Give her more time. Don't send more text messages today or tomorrow. You gonna come off too desperate. If there is still no response, forget the whole thing..she isn't interested. If she messages you out of the blue in the next few days then reply or give her a call instead of just texting.
Ask her about the upcoming weekend if she is doing something or if she is interested doing something.

If she gives half answers, then go along but by friday, demand a yes/no if she wants to go anywhere. If she is still half/half then the hell with her, it's not worth to kill off your nerve system after a woman who couldn't make up her mind. (been there done that too).

no photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:09 PM

Hey guys,

First of all, I admit that I don't go out on dates much. Infact, last night was my first date in probably 4 years...lol. Well, I'm not sure if it went well and being on a Sunday night, there was nothing open that we can have fun. Why that late you ask? I had to work till 6:30pm.

Well, I debated whether I should take her to a nice restaurant or a laid back place for our first date. My decision was a laid back restaurant (wished I chose the other) so we can talk and get to know more of each other. She decided to meet up since it was our first date. Well, I ended up waiting for her for 2 hours. I almost thought that I was being stood up, then got a text saying shes on her way.

So, she finally gets there and we met outside the restaurant. Gave her a single rose since I thought it would be nice. We sat in the restaurant and talked most of the time. After we left the rest. walked her to her car and asked if she wanted to go to Dave & Busters. She said that she has to work 8:30 in the morning so we didn't go, but were talking outside the restaurant for another 50 mins. She gave me a hug and we parted. Told her to give me a text when she gets home.

She texted "Home safe. I had a fun night thx"

I texted back "Glad you're home, wish it was earlier in the day so we could of done something more fun."

She texted "It's ok. I still have fun"

Today is a new day and I haven't heard from her since. My friends told me not to text her, and act like i don't care. Is that the right thing to do? I honestly don't know how the date went...

What are some of your perspectives?
she was TWO HOURS late for a FIRST date. unless there's a really REALLY good excuse for the whole lateness thing - - - -it was pretty disrespectful - if a guy did that to me I prolly wouldn't have been there when he got there -

Goofball73's photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:09 PM
Stalk her, send her flowers, send her 100 text messages every hour, hire a plane to write her name in the air, dedicate a song to her over the radio........With this strategy, you cannot lose!:thumbsup: tongue2 tongue2 :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

Phuque2's photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:15 PM


Flip a coin and call it in the air.....


Yes, I knew you would join me eventually, Phuque2.smokin


It had to happen. It just took me longer to figure the internet out smokin

FearandLoathing's photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:17 PM



Flip a coin and call it in the air.....


Yes, I knew you would join me eventually, Phuque2.smokin


It had to happen. It just took me longer to figure the internet out smokin


You can't rush these kinds of things, mate, just takes time.smokin

Winx's photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:30 PM
she was TWO HOURS late for a FIRST date. unless there's a really REALLY good excuse for the whole lateness thing - - - -it was pretty disrespectful - if a guy did that to me I prolly wouldn't have been there when he got there -

I agree. I would not have sat there for two hours waiting for somebody.

Winx's photo
Mon 05/24/10 08:31 PM

Today is a new day and I haven't heard from her since. My friends told me not to text her, and act like i don't care. Is that the right thing to do? I honestly don't know how the date went...

What are some of your perspectives?


Phone calls are nicer, IMO.

skydancingA's photo
Mon 05/24/10 09:11 PM




Flip a coin and call it in the air.....

Yes, I knew you would join me eventually, Phuque2.smokin

It had to happen. It just took me longer to figure the internet out smokin

You can't rush these kinds of things, mate, just takes time.smokin

He's like a cult leader.

Unkn0vv17's photo
Mon 05/24/10 09:16 PM
ha, NO STALKING. Well, i guess it was kind of my fault for waiting 2 hours. I didn't really give her a specific time to meet me there. She was getting ready when I was getting off work, and told her to not rush...lol Probably won't get a hold of her till she gets a hold of me. Kinda nerve wrecking...

Winx's photo
Mon 05/24/10 09:17 PM

ha, NO STALKING. Well, i guess it was kind of my fault for waiting 2 hours. I didn't really give her a specific time to meet me there. She was getting ready when I was getting off work, and told her to not rush...lol Probably won't get a hold of her till she gets a hold of me. Kinda nerve wrecking...


Why don't you just give her a phone call in a couple of days? Isn't that the normal thing to do?

no photo
Mon 05/24/10 09:34 PM
Hi,dear..Who is first..we holding classical style as base,all of rest it is our individuality...that make the wordl so different.Just be your self,do not"hide",let her see who you are...with highest respect you can...(my son wos talking to me about all and still they do,now about them kids..and im glad,they honest,open young generation - progressive.Good wishes to you.

sherry4382's photo
Mon 05/24/10 09:54 PM
I would just send her a txt saying that you thought you might have got off on the wrong foot and ask if she would like to have another date with a specific time to meet and plan it out better. If she doesn't respond to your text than she is not interested. I am sure she is waiting for you to txt her...I always wait for the guy to get ahold of me if he is interested. Hope this helps.

Atlantis75's photo
Mon 05/24/10 10:14 PM

she was TWO HOURS late for a FIRST date. unless there's a really REALLY good excuse for the whole lateness thing - - - -it was pretty disrespectful - if a guy did that to me I prolly wouldn't have been there when he got there -

I agree. I would not have sat there for two hours waiting for somebody.


Something tells me she was trying his patience and hoping he would just go home, or she completely forgot the whole thing and she got herself together in the last minute.

cottonelle's photo
Mon 05/24/10 10:30 PM
you waited two hours for her while she was probably on another date getting laid? wow, i guess nice guys really do finish last...lol

no photo
Mon 05/24/10 10:36 PM
Edited by Jeanniebean on Mon 05/24/10 10:37 PM
Okay, not that I 'know it all' but I'm going to tell you to forget everything these other people have said here.

She just is not into you. Do not waste another minute of your time or spend another dime on her. Move on to the next one.

Oh, and do a search on google and purchase David DeAngelo's ebook called "double your dating."

You won't regret it.:smile:



IndnPrncs's photo
Mon 05/24/10 10:38 PM

Okay, not that I 'know it all' but I'm going to tell you to forget everything these other people have said here.

She just is not into you. Do not waste another minute of your time or spend another dime on her. Move on to the next one.

Oh, and do a search on google and purchase David DeAngelo's ebook called "double your dating."

You won't regret it.:smile:





Forget everything everyone else said? Interesting....

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