what are all the signs of cheating?

Usually when this question comes up...you are already suspecting it, best to get out rather than constantly question your partner. Either that or you already know.

All the signs?????

One of the biggest ones is when he comes home packs his bags and says

"C YAH"

If a guy doesn't want sex from you, something is WRONG.

there are many
i can tell you when the male usually accuses you on cheating its actually them that is doing the cheating...

for my ex husband did that all the time.. and he cheated before during and after we got married... proof he has a son that is 3months older than our son...

but you know also i had lack of trust in many of my relationships because of my ex hubby... so if you get into another relationship you have to try and trust that person for that doesnt mean that other person is going to be like the other... i have learned that many times over

You know the best thing about ending a relationship over cheating. Is when they come up to you afterwards and tell you how hot you look. You get to say yes I do thank you, what a shame you'll never get the chance to see it again and walk away laughing. Now that, is true ironic justice.

Does he smell like woman's perfume?

Lipstick traces anywhere?

Now this depends on how well you know him, does the soap he uses to shower with smell different from what he normally uses that you know of?

Also does he touch you physically a lot less than when he used to? When he does touch you does it seem like he doesn't want to?

Also does his sexual performance seem like it is less enthusiastic as in you got to drag him into bed and then he just does not seem all that into it?

Does he seem suddenly evasive around you or even jucier, is he avoiding you?

Is he suddenly pulling a lot of overtime? (Guys use that excuse a LOT!)

When he is with other women in a social situation does he jump when he sees you AND when you catch him alone with other women does he act surprised? "What are you doing here?" Love that question.

Now I can say that it is one thing for me to "window shop" if I am involved. If I didn't look I would be gay and we don't want that do we? I mean seriously, I can't see myself on fire that way! But now comes the trick question, does he flirt with them and do you catch him getting phone numbers from other women?

Men will also project their sins on you as well. If he is accusing you of cheating he is/has as well 95% of the time. The other 5% you got stuck with a head case! No matter what if you are facing that one RUN AS FAR AWAY AS YOU CAN!

In his car do you find a lot of phone numbers scribbled on whatever? A man's car is his 'office.'

Cheaters 99% of the time pride themselves on being "Slick." Now if caught in the act what do you do? (Mace him and kick him in the nads REAL hard wearing combat boots? Then tell him it is over???? Then drive his car into a river, lake, whatever as long as it sinks???????? Girl, if these ideas had appeal you, you got game! )

In all reality your intuition can be jaded if you are coming into another relationship. You are just going to work your issues out with your BF if that is the case unless something is really giving you the "NOT AGAIN!!!" feeling. If you said "Not Again!" to yourself then something might be up. Never overlook intuition.

All men are dogs. Even me! You offer me raw meat I will snap at it like a wolf! NOM NOM NOM NOM!

But seriously, all men are genetically programed to be dogs. Some are bad dogs, some are good dogs, and some of us people wish we were good! But when you are THAT Bad! I mean Bad azzed FUNKY!

Then you are THE DAWG!

If he comes home wearing womens underwear........

It's not only the guy who cheats. And the best part would be her seeing me with 22 year old Shea?

What signs are you getting?

Why? Why? please share why?

It is called DIVERTING THE BLAME!


In psychology it is called projecting. He projects his actions on another to divert blame and guilt from himself.

It is a low (How low is whale seat?) trick people use against one another to walk away without any feelings of guilt for what they themselves did.

People that try this with me make me want to hit them HARD!

Thank you for the response. Can I pay you to hit someone HARD for me? LOL

I never could understand the "why" of the projecting. It truly is a cowards way out. But from what I have seen in people that use this behavior, they might act like they got away " guilt free", but I do not think they do. Otherwise they would not hold so much anger towards the person they projected on to and are supposedly happy to be away from.

Comes home smelling like another brand of soap than you use at home.

Gets secretive about his phone or starts to act differently about it.

Starts accusing you of doing something, there is some kind of understanding in their minds of the fact "if they can do it so easily so could you"

Their friends start to act and look at you differently.

Their family starts to act and look at you differently.

If it is close to your home, your neighbors will start to act differently.


Oh man is this painful to relive

If he's popping viagra and you are not getting any action from him...yeah......cheating.

What does displaying any type of anger or extreme behavior as "hitting someone hard" prove? Especially from a psycholigical aspect of anger and control going together. How can one treat someone for projection when they exhibit anger and control of the situational factors in their own statements? Just trying to understand, and feel I have a valid question for your aspects.

or doesn't come home at all...

try having someone blame you openly for doing something felony level criminal on you to everyone you know when you didn't...

Also some people deserve a good pinch on the nose!

Passive aggressive begets active aggressive.

I mean seriously, there are some screwed up people out there that make me look very well adjusted!

I don't buy that doctor Spock crap. I also don't buy into peace too much. Peace first, war when necessary!

Humans are not as evolved as you would like to think.

I am not advocating blind violence. And there is a difference from having the impulse verses actually slapping someone around for being a childish shart head!

A sure sign of cheating is when you have to ask strangers in a web forum their opinion ... just sayin

Well I guess my psycholgical aspects definitely took a different direction, and I do not buy into the Dr. Spock bull **** either. But until you walk in another person shoes which would take you alot longer than I, I believe, then you can not understand the aspect of the individual despite agreement/disagreement or institute behavioral modifications without trust between you and the client. I Believe in positive and negative consequences for every action. I, also, believe like Pavlov's dogs through conditioning any animal will either turn away from the conditioning, turn towards examples and conditioning of thoughts or behaviors, or compromise their position, to make their determinations of actions like, cheating. Then use whatever manner, to either eliminate guilt of said situation, or use something such as projection to misplace his/her blame.