I'd say some things are a stigma. Sometimes that's a bad thing, and stereotyping. Other times it can be a representation of the truth. One example is a woman who is a prostitute. Sure she might just be doing it for the money, but hey, she's still messing around. So you might assume she enjoys that. That's an exaggerated example but you get my drift. Or maybe I've just had too much to drink

I have never met a truly happy hooker.

I FEEL I am a Stigma....of right-ness, truth, and kindness..on here.

And THATS,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,NOT a good thing to MANY....


Where as i FEEL,,,maybe I to should just be a man of no morals and no princibles,,,THEN,,,,,,,,I would have all the RIGHT ONES see me.

hahah...nor a happy stripper...

roko

This is why I'm such a big fan of obfuscation....!



"Little Sister" is more interesting, for sure. "Big Brother" is so....eh, Eric Blair. For lack of a better pseudonym.

Just wait till my next "nice guy" thread....

I don't think it has to do with a stigma... do be a writer (at least from my perspective, that is a good thing)... but may have more to do with assumptions. Maybe they have assumptions of what a writer is and isn't?

I really don't know, because I normally get it second-hand: "My friend likes you, but she finds your writing intimidating." What does that even mean? Plus, they will never tell me who the friend is. The whole thing is a bit obstructionist.

BTW, nice to see the curler pic again!

Lex, if you start a 'nice guy' thread.... I'll start a 'why do I make bad choices thread, but I really don't make bad choices, I swear!'

Don't worry about it.... if they feel intimidated.... then they aren't worth it.

[Just the mood I am in to put up the curler pic.... I am about ready to let off a naplam bomb here.... you know 'bad choices' Leaping into the water without knowing if there is rocks..... sticking your finger in the cage and not knowing if the bird with bite!]

I might as well start a "Why does Hitler love fluffy bunnies?" thread.

But when I've tried to do the satirical "Arrogant Narcissistic Conceited Jerk" threads, nobody gets that's it's a parody of the "nice guy" threads.

It's like when I did that thread making fun of people's age restrictions, most of the replies were from people telling what THEIR age restrictions were. They were doing the very thing that the thread was intended to poke fun at.

I don't know....

Well, if we were closer.... I wouldn't say screw starting threads.... lets go get coffee and make fun of people in person.

That's how I see it. Hey, if she's intimidated by the fact that I know where apostrophes go, how is that MY problem?



Bad choices, yeah, I get that. But you know what's also a bad choice? Beating yourself up over it. We all make mistakes, we all get fooled. This stuff happens. You learn from it, you add some things to the "red flags to watch for" page.

I always tell people "Better you find out NOW than 5 years down the read," you know?

Always here for you if you need to vent....!

I know.... and I don't even know if it's the bad choices... or what at this point.... could just be me doing the 'pushing away'.... I'll know more in the morning. Really should get to bed.

Toodles! Good night!

Ummm ... 'stigma' ... 'stigmata' ... kinda like the bargain-basement version of 'the mark of the beast' ... ? Interesting concept. I agree with not dating political types ... doesn't matter which 'party' - all of 'em seem mighty short on (1) having principles they stand on, and (b) living up to them in day-to-day life. Expediency seems to be their stock in trade ... well, that, and 'how can we fool 'em today?' ... But I digest ...

Perhaps your being a published author and writer isn't the real source of the 'stigma' (which is probably illusional in real life). The perception (and we all know that 'perception is reality', right?) may simply be that you're the wrong KIND of author / writer / scribe, etc. Maybe they expect an 'Alan Alda'-ish squishy-senstive type when they hear 'writer'. They might think you're a 'Kerouac'-ian clone or even a 'gonzo' type like Hunter S. Thompson. I'd think that the problem (if it really exists) with being a writer is that each person brings their own perception and interpretation of that term to the party.

I have to agree that, when people know how to use language and punctuation properly, others tend to be 'intimidated' because they're suddenly acutely aware of those naps they took during English 101 (or 'Remedial English 101') ... not knowing what a dangling participle is may never enter their mind on the conscious level, but being in the presence of 'a writer!' brings the light to bear on their perceived linguistic 'inadequacies'.

Perform a test: Don't tell 'em you're a writer. Tell 'em you're a long-haul truck driver and you really like the truck stops along the I-40 corridor 'cuz they have the best fried possum in the whole dang South - and they make a killer white gravy, too. Complain about how your Kenworth just doesn't stack up against those fancy Volvo trucks with the cab-overs and the built-in showers. Or, you could cloak your 'occupation' in mystery and respond to questions with answers like "I'm not permitted to discuss that" or "I could tell you, but then I'd have to arrest you" ... people love a 'mystery man' ... remember the 'Mystery Man' from Frank Zappa's 'Kozmik Debris' ... ?

I don't think this is a life-altering problem, tho' ... a li'l creativity and a few well-selected 'occupations' for conversation starters should be all that's needed to make this a most interesting lab experiment in real life ...