Topic: Looked down on.
bedlum1's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:17 PM
Edited by bedlum1 on Thu 05/13/10 10:27 PM
im not promoting anything...i do give everyone a chance.....you are missing the point.....duh.......
i said judge them on current actions not their past ones....listen.......
and your case in point is flawed.....attempts to make someone feel better being confused with me passing judgement and never giving the person that cheated on her a fair chance is very presumptuous on your part...........
like i said...i never said i didnt judge...i said i dont judge peoples pasts ,,,specialy when i wasnt in it.....
so try again..laugh

kc0003's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:23 PM

im not promoting anything...i do give everyone a chance.....you are missing the point.....duh.......
i said judge them on current actions not their past one....listen


you're right...his current actions have landed him in prison for armed robbery and attempted murder.

when he is finished serving his time and can prove himself worth of joining the human race again then he may have a second chance.

bedlum1's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:31 PM
here let me quote my OWN words for you

so pesonsaly i dont judge someone by their past record i judge them on the amount of respect they show and on their current actions...if they are acting a fool it shows they dont want to change and dont care...then i write them off

bedlum1's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:35 PM

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like i said before i give EVERYONE a chance, and i pay attention to peoples behavior, if they are Any of these---->(negative, spitefull,
lying, greedy,selfish,angry, unthoughtful,manipulating etc etc) then i make my judgment...not of them but for myself/sanity...i write them off and move on..

bedlum1's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:38 PM
Edited by bedlum1 on Thu 05/13/10 10:41 PM

there are both types out there...those who change and those who pretend..
noone said throw caution to the wind...
i personaly wont go around distrusting someone because of their record...
when i say act a fool i mean they did their time... but they are lying here and there displaying questionable behavior...etc etc....that tells me they are full of it....so until i catch them in say "a little white lie" or they act selfish and dont try to lend a friendly hand or any other red flag material, i will treat them like i do anyone else...

i think these pretty much say that i do judge....but on a current behavior basis....like i've been saying not on their past....thats all...(takes a bow)laugh :wink:

kc0003's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:39 PM
hey, you are allowed to change your post once i have answered it...laugh

spinning it will not help your cause!

kc0003's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:45 PM
and where do you find this guy in question, at the moment?

bedlum1's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:46 PM

hey, you are allowed to change your post once i have answered it...laugh

spinning it will not help your cause!
no clue what your saying...nothing has changed its all there.....and i have to post like this because i do it from my phone.slaphead

kc0003's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:47 PM
Edited by kc0003 on Thu 05/13/10 10:50 PM


i think these pretty much say that i do judge....but on a current behavior basis....like i've been saying not on their past....thats all...(takes a bow)laugh :wink:







and where do you find this guy in question, at the moment?

kc0003's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:48 PM
Edited by kc0003 on Thu 05/13/10 10:51 PM


hey, you are allowed to change your post once i have answered it...laugh

spinning it will not help your cause!
no clue what your saying...nothing has changed its all there.....and i have to post like this because i do it from my phone.slaphead



i'm talking about you first post to mine tonight...i answered you and then your went and changed it...it was a JOKE!

kc0003's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:48 PM
Edited by kc0003 on Thu 05/13/10 11:02 PM
so everyone of the people i listed before gets a second chance from you? honestly?

bedlum1's photo
Thu 05/13/10 10:54 PM

and where do you find this guy in question, at the moment?
he's doin his time, if hes doing it right he is reflecting on what led him to armed robbery and will change that part of his life, the only part i didnt like was his seemingly lack of responsibility over the shooting part...but red could have left somethings out on accident(its easy to do)he coulda told her he was upset and sorry for the shooting and his intent wasnt to shoot just to show it...does that make it better?....no.......but that would show that his intent was just to rob ,not kill someone to

bedlum1's photo
Thu 05/13/10 11:00 PM



hey, you are allowed to change your post once i have answered it...laugh

spinning it will not help your cause!
no clue what your saying...nothing has changed its all there.....and i have to post like this because i do it from my phone.slaphead



i'm talking about you first post to mine tonight...i answered you and then your went and changed it...it was a JOKE!
i know its a joke just didnt know what about...its hard enough keeping up from my phonehappy

EquusDancer's photo
Thu 05/13/10 11:02 PM

he coulda told her he was upset and sorry for the shooting and his intent wasnt to shoot just to show it...does that make it better?....no.......but that would show that his intent was just to rob ,not kill someone to


Methinks, someone watches Hollywood movies too much

When you threaten with guns, someone gets hurt.

You never get out of a knife fight without cutting cut yourself. Really now.

The minute he pulled the gun out, he ran the risk of shooting someone. That was the intent. THAT'S what it wrong with society today, and why kids are "accidentally" blowing each others brains out, because they are playing with the gun and not taking it seriously.

A gun is not a toy or an idle threat.

kc0003's photo
Thu 05/13/10 11:05 PM


and where do you find this guy in question, at the moment?
he's doin his time, if hes doing it right he is reflecting on what led him to armed robbery and will change that part of his life, the only part i didnt like was his seemingly lack of responsibility over the shooting part...but red could have left somethings out on accident(its easy to do)he coulda told her he was upset and sorry for the shooting and his intent wasnt to shoot just to show it...does that make it better?....no.......but that would show that his intent was just to rob ,not kill someone to


ok i'll give you that, (though i do not believe it) but do you really feel like this is the best type of situation for her to pursue?

kc0003's photo
Fri 05/14/10 12:49 AM

im not promoting anything...i do give everyone a chance.....you are missing the point.....duh.......
i said judge them on current actions not their past ones....listen.......
and your case in point is flawed.....attempts to make someone feel better being confused with me passing judgement and never giving the person that cheated on her a fair chance is very presumptuous on your part...........
like i said...i never said i didnt judge...i said i dont judge peoples pasts ,,,specialy when i wasnt in it.....
so try again..laugh


presumptuous? nothing you posted afterward or in the days to follow suggest you were trying to "make her feel better" you were hitting on her. can you not be honest about that?


kc0003's photo
Fri 05/14/10 02:02 AM
Ok I'll try again....

People can and do turn their lives around, this has not been disputed by anyone here. That said, don’t you think the world has enough evil in it without having to search for it? When we invite trouble, trouble usually shows up. When we make poor decisions poor results tend to follow.

Wouldn’t you rather see this girl pursue a more functional, healthy relationship?

Do you remember her first post on this? She said she would NOT go visit him or send him anything other than letters. In the month since, she has changed her status from being single to “involved” she has gone to see him and plans on doing it again. She is developing an emotional attachment to him and now all bets are off. He is in control.

I truly hope this doesn’t turn out bad, I do, but I can’t believe anyone would condone and encourage a child of a person not too far removed from high school to engage in this sort of behavior.


kemp4's photo
Fri 05/14/10 12:41 PM

This is the only thing he has ever done. They throw the book at him..he got 22 years!! He robbed a store at gun point an the gun went off, he didn't mean for it to go off. The female was shot but did not get hurt bad. She is still alive. I just don't understand why he got so much time, that's crazy! I did all of my research on him an there is nothing else in his past. He has been locked up for 11 years in November. An he is going to try to file to get out in 2 years. 22 years is a little much for first time offense. I know a lot about him, his past an his plans for when he gets out.

Ah.....no he took a gun into a high risk situation of his own creation and did not take the welfare of the poor person who was only trying to get through their work day without some sorry SOB sticking a gun in their face or I don"t know........SHOOTING them!!!!!!
Feel sorry for some working slob who takes care of his family on three minimum wage jobs and goes without so his kids might have more.
DO NOT feel sorry for this hazard to society that laid every brick in the road that got him where he is.

no photo
Fri 05/14/10 12:48 PM
The main thing her is we support Red in what ever she wants to do cause she is a VERY precious lady on here and we will be her for her no matter what!!

cottonelle's photo
Fri 05/14/10 12:51 PM
this thread is still going? awsome!! lol