Topic: Interesting quotes about love.
DBR70's photo
Mon 05/10/10 06:53 AM
Edited by DBR70 on Mon 05/10/10 06:55 AM
One other reason why i was never able to have a wife was because of a certain belief system that tends to think that if a man CAN not (not "WILL not")provide for himself and live on his own, even with a disability, then he is not capable of have a romantic relationship with a woman. I dont really agree with that, but the enviroment i was always in does. I brought this subject on a Christian message board and id like to quote some of things they said agreeing or dissagreeing. Id like a few responses from yall too, if thats OK.

"You can say you truely love but when you truely love, you lay your life down for the one you love. Part of laying down your life is doing whatever becomes necessary to support the relationship. You have to eat, have shelter and have whatever other necessities we need to survive. These things are the unspoken expressions of love that are essential to the relationship. You may feel the feelings of love, but I feel the feelings of love for a lot of things I cannot have because of whatever limitations I have in my life to pay for them. Living is not free and we do not have the moral right to presume upon the labor of others to meet our needs. Having a relationship is, in a sense, a luxury. If you have no way to make an equitable contribution then you may have to forget the experience of that kind of relationship. As far as finding a proof text in the Bible, you can't always find an exact scripture to nail it for you.If you cannot care for yourself, even for a valid reason then you would certainly not have the emotional or physical resources to contribute to a relationship with someone else. "

"I believe even if you can't work a professional or fulltime job, you can still be mature enough for marriage. That is not the end all, be all of being a husband. You may find a wife who earns plenty and doesn't really care if you can earn as much as she does."

"You can truly love someone and still not be mature enough or capable of handling the emotional and social demands of a marital relationship. In fact, sometimes true love demands that we recognize that the one we love is not equal to the challenges of marriage. Marriage takes more than love. It takes equal partnership, commitment, like-mindedness and forgiveness and a lot of hard work."

Do yall really agree with some of these statements?

StillLooking29's photo
Mon 05/10/10 07:29 AM
I think TRUE love is hard to find......I feel like Debbie Downer saying that.....ohwell

AndyBgood's photo
Mon 05/10/10 09:04 AM
Love is chaotic and confusing. Love does not make any sense. The quotes are sort of right but also not right at all. Love is different with each person like Fingerprints. Likewise love is imperfect and also requires compromise. Worst is people try to pin love down to a monogamous commitment when that unto itself is an illusion. A truly awesome woman can make me not think at all of the other woman.

The same thing can be said of women thinking of men. One woman like men with a lot of fire and passion. Others need an Endicott, (please refer to this video! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-c2CuV8ipo)


Apples and Oranges and Mangoes, Oh my!

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Mon 05/10/10 09:55 AM
Edited by wolfchic on Mon 05/10/10 09:58 AM


One other reason why i was never able to have a wife was because of a certain belief system that tends to think that if a man CAN not (not "WILL not")provide for himself and live on his own, even with a disability, then he is not capable of have a romantic relationship with a woman. I dont really agree with that, but the enviroment i was always in does. I brought this subject on a Christian message board and id like to quote some of things they said agreeing or dissagreeing. Id like a few responses from yall too, if thats OK.

"You can say you truely love but when you truely love, you lay your life down for the one you love. Part of laying down your life is doing whatever becomes necessary to support the relationship. You have to eat, have shelter and have whatever other necessities we need to survive. These things are the unspoken expressions of love that are essential to the relationship. You may feel the feelings of love, but I feel the feelings of love for a lot of things I cannot have because of whatever limitations I have in my life to pay for them. Living is not free and we do not have the moral right to presume upon the labor of others to meet our needs. Having a relationship is, in a sense, a luxury. If you have no way to make an equitable contribution then you may have to forget the experience of that kind of relationship. As far as finding a proof text in the Bible, you can't always find an exact scripture to nail it for you.If you cannot care for yourself, even for a valid reason then you would certainly not have the emotional or physical resources to contribute to a relationship with someone else. "

"I believe even if you can't work a professional or fulltime job, you can still be mature enough for marriage. That is not the end all, be all of being a husband. You may find a wife who earns plenty and doesn't really care if you can earn as much as she does."

"You can truly love someone and still not be mature enough or capable of handling the emotional and social demands of a marital relationship. In fact, sometimes true love demands that we recognize that the one we love is not equal to the challenges of marriage. Marriage takes more than love. It takes equal partnership, commitment, like-mindedness and forgiveness and a lot of hard work."

Do yall really agree with some of these statements?



I am so sorry you have been made to feel that you were not
capable or deserving of a wife or family.
Love is from the heart!!! That's where it starts and ends.Please realize you are as entitled to happiness as anyone else.Never let someone tell you different.The Good Lord created us all.We all have our disabilities,They are not all the same.But they are there.Wishing you all the best in your search.Never give up.flowerforyou flowerforyou

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Mon 05/10/10 10:02 AM
The Bible has the best one:

The Heart is deceitful above ALL others ...


shades ... Word!

imsingle951's photo
Tue 05/11/10 02:35 AM

The Bible has the best one:

The Heart is deceitful above ALL others ...


shades ... Word!
oh, so true

imsingle951's photo
Tue 05/11/10 02:35 AM

The Bible has the best one:

The Heart is deceitful above ALL others ...


shades ... Word!
oh, so true