If you was to meet someone and you find them mentioning the things they
would not ever do in another relationship would that turn you off
towards them making you feel that hell they should give me the same
respect and love as they did the ones before me. Like you hear guys that
when they were married before and they lived in a real nice brick home
and now he is only willing to live in something half that nice saying I
did that before and got taken and not gonna do it again? Or a woman that
use to pamper the men she dated and now refuses to do that more it's all
about her or nothing and out for the material things. Or she want date
anyone that don't make a certain amount of money?




This is only things I have heard others say and has nothing to do with anything I'm going through. Just wonder what others thought if they heard this from someone else as soon as they started talking to them....

Would ya hang around or back away thinking they had too many issues with the past and it has damaged what they could give in the future?

naaa, I wouldn't date anyone with too many past relationship issues. We all have baggage and preferences and I'm pretty open..... there are some key phrases, attitudes or mindsets that would make me run for the hills...

I HAVE dated people with these kinds of attitudes. Thats probably why I have never married! I think everyone deserves a clean slate. Past relationships should not affect present ones. Or at least not negatively. I dont want to suffer for what another woman has done but I have. I always try to make a strong effort not to do that to anyone

As for the women who expect men to make a certain amount of money....I say MAKE YOUR OWN!! I love being an independent woman. I need nothing from a man. I am proud of that and myself.

I wouldn't date anyone that talks about alot of there past issues, especially if they start talking negative about the ex, makes me wonder what kind of emotional issues there would be.

I try to treat each relationship as unique but damn if I don't see patterns of behavior sometimes!

Predisposed notions suck. What is worst is when they come up at odd times like when a woman starts asking cryptic questions trying to hit at something that winds up being about their past relationships and then suddenly there is the Equating me to the sins of others. Talk about a mood and relationship killer.

I'm not a big money person anyway. I prefer the small type houses, myself, so I would probably not be comfortable with someone with a lot of money

men do it too

Well for myself those that I have met in the past and they started off with I want do this again or that again for another person I tend to back away from them.

I believe that each person you meet should have the same opportunity to be treated the way you treated others in the past. As far as doing things for them if only the little things...It does not have to be extravagant things at times just the little things mean a lot more then some ever think they do.

I have heard men/women say they did this or that for others in the past but they will never do them again for someone else..... Is that not being a bit selfish?

If they can't get over their past, it's a problem. It will taint everything they do, even unknowingly.

YES WE DO!