THE DRAMA STOPS HERE!!

QUIT IT, AND LETS GET NAKED TO JUMP IN THE POOL!!

yaaaaaa
MOrenaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Long beach it is!!!!

is not a gossip!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!is a lover

Cheers to all the Daddies and let's be happy.

"when i was younger i admired those who were very clever,
now i admire those who are very kind"

Hi folks,

I just wanted to comment quickly on this topic. I think both iam4u and
txsgal3333 are right. iam4u posted with the best of intentions - he's
always been someone who has tried to keep the community together and
drama free. There are few people who can claim to have tried harder, in
my opinion.

But txsgal3333 is also right, and was just reiterating what Vanchau and
myself had asked - to keep the drama off the forums. She's also someone
who has always tried to keep the community together, with as much effort
as iam4u. Her efforts, though, were directed in a different way, by
asking folks not to highlight or revisit issues that have already
passed. And although iam4u's post had great intentions, it did have the
unintended effect of revisiting old issues and perhaps even creating
some new drama.

I have mixed feelings about these types of topics. On the one hand, I
think they can be a fantastic way for the community to pull tighter
together - to air some of the issues that we face in the open, to
discuss them, and hopefully to come to some resolution. On the other
hand, they often, unfortunately, provide at best short-term help, and
usually just cause more issues than they cure. They can be kind of a
superficial band-aid, where everyone says they want to come together,
but underneath, the real issues still remain unresolved.

I am inclined to say that, unfortunately, to truly keep the forums drama
free, we may have to delete these types of topics. Because to keep the
rules simple, we'd like to ban all drama, good or bad, and consequently
may have to throw out some good topics with the bad. We may also end up
deleting all "good bye" posts for the same reason.

We always want to keep the forums as open as possible, but we also need
to make sure the forums stay a friendly, drama-free place to meet new
people. And we have to do it in a way which requires very very little
time from the moderators (Vanchau and I), because we simply don't have
time to heavily moderate the forums. In a perfect world, we'd be able
to read every topic, know the background of every user's relationship
with every other one, work with all users to work out their issues, and
make the right decision every time about each post or topic. But
instead, we're able to read about 1% of the topics and have to make a
snap decision each time on what to delete. Keeping the rules simple and
clear helps us make sure the decisions we make are also simple.

But what do you guys think? Let us know what your opinion is about
these issues. I've already indicated which direction we're leaning, but
we always love to hear what you think.

And many thanks to both iam4u and txsgal3333 for their ongoing efforts
to keep JustSayHi the best site on the net.

Thanks all,
Mike

Also, please make sure to keep all comments 100% constructive folks.
Let this topic be an example of how we as a community can debate issues
in a mature fashion.

Thanks,
Mike

P.S. I'll be gone for a couple of hours but will read all responses when I get back.

Personally after being on other sites where the drama is four times
worse, I think your doing an excellent job as is... The drama, and the
meanness is why I left the other sites....Im here to make friends, have
fun, and destress by participating in fun silly threads....I also enjoy
the intellectual threads...just keep disposing of the drama ones please

I agree with you 100% Mike thank you for your response. Lets keep it
drama free and fun for all.

Do whatcha gotta do Dude to keep it all copasetic and chill...

iam4u, do you want to borrow my penlight?? It works really
good!!

"Too many chef's spoil the stew"
Van & Mike, you do a great job, Don't think you need me to tell you
what to do, or anybody else. Might just create mors drama. COMMAND
DECISION, you do great.

Life's too short, Let's just party people!

Deep breath

Hold

Release the tension







Did I hear something about a pool party?

This is a wonderful site.
It gives everyone what they need-
whether it be friendship or something more!
Thank you Mike for the awesome job!

Thanks Mike,,WOW, I feel better as to YOU knowing and READING my meaning
of this thread, and lending your time to explain.

Both YOU and Van have built a fantastic site to be shared by the world.
This being the ONLY site I have ever been involved with, I am a little
behind of what other sites have to offer or what they do there.
But I do know that this site has always been a place to attract new
members, because of the FEEL here, the respect and compassions of the
people who share life on the posts and
try to make life as simple and fun as it can be for everyone.

As life is NEVER perfect, you two have tried to keep the DRAMAS
off the posts and to keep our lives here free of the everyday stress we
ALL share in the outside world, daily.
With the volume of new members, and change to this place in size, we
need to always keep in mind that although we GROW,.
We do not have to compromise what we have all had here,
we just need to stay more focused on this sites willingness
to expand but asertiveness to not lose its HEART!!
Peace,Love,and be Real. Three words used to show this sites passion to
be ABOVE the other single sites on the NET!
Thank You Both, and thank all the members here for caring.

Drama Free & Peace Always

Mike, if the children can't play nice, then maybe give them their own
sandbox.

Suggestion: How about a sub topic on this forum that all those who want
to gripe can? Let it be a fight to the "death" and perhaps only the good
will survive. Spectators can check in from time to time to see how
things are going and be entertained at the same time. You would have to
remove threads (as long as they follow the basic rules) and never have
to ban anyone because they will "kill" each other off.

Suggested Title: The Island of Misfit Toys."

What do you think?

Mike,

Thanks for soliciting feedback, it shows respect for your community.
You (and Van) are the only ones with a bird's eye view of the situation,
and I agree with OldSage:

"Too many chef's spoil the stew"
Van & Mike, you do a great job, Don't think you need me to tell you
what to do, or anybody else. Might just create mors drama. COMMAND
DECISION, you do great.


As far as communicating your policy: we have a constant influx of
new comers - could we use more threads as learning opportunities?
Instead of being pulled, maybe you could leave a final comment in the
thread and then lock it. That comment could explain why the thread was
in violation, so we can all learn whats appropriate and not appropriate
on this site.