I was speaking with this guy, a normal guy, young, handsome, not too bright about relationships. He thinks he's a catch because he's good looking, as in Tom Cruise-like good looking. There's a girl who likes him and she has thrown all kinds of clues at him. So I say, "talk to her, she likes you," and he says, "I don't go to girls, they come to me". So what comes to mind is the phrase "love is kind, is does not seek its own, it does not boast" etc. And I automatically know (due to the wisdom of the scriptures) that this guy does not know what love is. He does not understand that love seeks the happiness of others, not one's self. I think (on her part) she's gonna see him as a "project" some guy she's going to try and "fix" or "change". It happens all the time, people getting involved with people who are of a type they want to change, and it usually ends in absolute failure. She wants to love him, but he's in love with someone else -- himself. At least she knows who it is!

I agree , not only he is ego-centric, he also doesn't understand the role of man as initiator and pursuer of a relationship. Hie approacjhis too passive for a man. What hapenned to men, it feels sometimes that men want to exchange roles with women...