Ah, I posted before I read all the comments. Okay, you emailed her first and then blew her a kiss. Next time, if your email goes ignored, it means she's not interested. Following up with a kiss isn't going to help anyway, it'll just make her think you're desperate and not taking her hints. Good way to get blocked- I have a pretty long list of men who thought it was necessary to nudge me....

Also think about the kind of emails you're sending out. Are you telling her she's "hot" or "pretty" or just saying "hi?" If so, that's a good way to go ignored. Try addressing something you read on a profile, "Hey, I see you like bike riding, so do I! What's the furthest you've ridden in a day?" Or something. Just something to peak her interest and get a conversation going. Skip the "you're hot" remarks. They're cliche and boring. Again, welcome and good luck to you.

Well, I think the kiss nudge should be reserved for someone you really like- and who really likes you back. The plain nudges are okay, I guess. The winks are a bit more personal than the plain nudges. The hugs are more friend-type nudges I think. The kicks in the butt should only be used by people who you really consider friends. Yeah, I have a nudge hierarchy, I'm just that weird. There's only one guy on here who's ever allowed to blow me kisses and not get blocked, anyone else, buh-bye, to the block list you go....

Thank You. Too true. I appreciate your response. Perfect grammar no less.

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I only gave her like 5 minutes to respond to my e-mail, before I blew a kiss. And I didn't make any lewd comments, or anything like that. I just said I read her profile, and she seemed cool.

But Melody is right. Even if I said everything perfect, and she thought I looked nice, sometimes people just arent going to reply back for whatever reason. She said she's only gotten positive feedback from 20% of her contacts. Shes very pretty, seems nice enough, uses perfect grammar, and only gets 20%. That doesn't bode well for the rest of us.

True, sometimes people just aren't interested no matter what. Next time give her a couple days to answer the email. I usually answer mails right away, but some people take longer, especially if they get lots of them.

A sure fire way to increase the chances of replies to your emails is to keep posting in the forums, and get to know people here. That way if you decide to email someone you've seen around, they won't consider you a stranger. And even if you don't meet someone to date, you'll make some friends, which isn't too bad of a trade off....

I forgot to mention -- eek!

Read the member's profile before you contact her. If you are not what she is looking for then don't waste your time.

My profile is pretty freak'n clear but I still have contact from guys that seem to think I am their perfect match even though they are the polar opposite of what I stated in my profile.

Enjoy the site SUGAR!

I appreciate your comments. I feel as though I'm surrounded by friends. This is a positive bonfire.

... and now you understand the Mingle family!

There are so many of us who have met outside of the site for parties, traveling, dating, and friendships. We also have Christmas Card Clubs and other close-knit causes.

That's good news! My best friend moved away in February after accepting a new job, and I havent had a meaningful conversation in weeks. So I googled Chat Rooms, and here I am. Good to see google is wise.

I Google.

Wow thanks for all the good advice....i will put it to good use!!! funny how fast people reply to a question on here thats GREAT!!

just join in. There are some great people here to meet

Join in....thats not a problem lol I see a few interesting profiles already. I am sure there is alot of great people here to meet and i look forward to makeing some new friends.

For me personally, being fairly new myself...I got a bit intimidated getting nudges and emails right away...and no I didn't respond either...in fact, I even blocked some who were "stalking me" like! LOL
So what I did was come in the forums and play..I like to think I have a good sense of humor, so that comes naturally for me, although my sarcasm seems to get a few riled up, so I'm working on that! It comes off as rude or insensitive at times. In the forums, you learn who you can cut up with and who is more sensitive, shy, withdrawn, insecure, freaky...lmao (you know what I mean)
with all that said...I started getting more comfortable talking with some of the regulars and have gradually added friends and will nudge only the ones I have come to know a little.
Some aren't even here to meet that special someone, believe it or not, some folks just enjoy the forums and chatting with friends...so in realizing this, I read posts and get to know who they are...research so to say. Anyway, hope that helps! Have fun and yes, it's addictive!!

Ya i can understand that....some people just like to chat and have fun with others thay build a friendship with over time....I am away from home alot with my job so conversation is a plus for me ;) I travel all over the Country alone most of the time and love to meet people and just talk. I like hearing about how others live and diffrent cultures around the country...and i love taking in the sites our country has some breath taking sites in it. I take lots of picture as i travel with my phone lol.

Welcome.