I was in a relationship for 6 months with this girl and I lied to her about what I wanted. All the while, I was in love with her, but because my ex girlfriend took advantage of me, I had a wall up. I was afraid to believe that the love this girl was showing me was real. I showed her that I really loved her at times and she saw it, but my wall kept going up to protect myself because I knew I was falling hard. She left me and I'm so heartbroken. I do love her. I'm in love with her and she doesn't believe me. She started seeing someone else. She said she did that so she could get over the feelings she has for me. I don't know what to do with myself. I'm hurting so bad and I know it's my fault. She was everything that I ever wanted in a girl and in a relationship and I messed up.

Hi, that is pretty sad. Is there no way back for you two? I mean, if it IS love we are talking about here...

She doesn't want to talk to me. She won't answer my calls. She says that we're done. Some of her friends tell me that if I really do love her to fight for her, but I don't want to push and seem
"weird." My friends say give her time and she'll be back. I'm just so devestated.

you already blew it this time. Now you know that dishonesty will bite you in the azz

learn from it

and use the lesson for the next time

Stalk her...they like it

Write her & accept what happens.

I'm not going to stalk her. I've had that happen to me. No way. I guess time will tell what's going to happen here. I'm just really sad. I've cried, kicked, screamed, everything. If I get the chance again with her, I would make it up to her for the rest of my life. I will love her and tell her that everyday.

I have written her letters and sent her cards.

Honestly you can write letters and talk till your blue in the face. But until you fix yourself it will never work. You say you have put up walls. Well the only one that can knock those walls down is you and until you do they will remain......

Seems to me you need to admit not only to her but yourself as well that you need to fix you first and be willing to do so......

Just maybe if you admit that to her she may be willing to give it some time to see if you will hold to your word or not.

When one tries to fool themselves on what is wrong and as well as those around them sooner or later it will come back and bite ya in the azz..........honesty is a much better bed partner then deceit.

I know that now. I feel lost. Nothing looks the same. I was happiest when I was her. And I should have shown her that. I have apologized to her. But only time will tell what's going to happen.

I can only hope that one day she will give me that chance. I find myself crying at night, but I'm sure that will stop over time. It took me three years to get over the last one. Not sure what's going to happen here.

It looks like you've done all you can do. I lost the love of my life 27 years ago because of the walls I'd built around me. I still have those walls up & can't seem to chip away at the concrete to get to the other side.