dont sweat it. I want my friends to date who makes them happy , within certain moral(totally subjective, I know) standards.

If my friend were choosing partners BASED in race,, then I might have a problem with it, but if they were choosing partners REGARDLESS of race,, ,thats a different issue. Either way, although I would speak my mind, it wouldnt affect our friendship.

wow

i thought we were trying to get rid of racial prejudice. it's great to see we've come so far.


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Ok i ask this question .and my friend keisha says she wanna try this too

On a lighter note,, there are several charming movies about adapting to 'cultural' differences in interracial relationships,,,,

just last night , I went to see 'my familys wedding' about a hispanic woman and a black man who are getting married to the surprise of their families. It was a really cute film.

I also suggest 'Something Different" with Sanaa Lathan about a professional black woman who goes out on a blind date(reluctantly) with a landscaper who is a white male. It really covers all the objections that this girls friends have over her choice and how it affects her.

IN the end, I find, that when people love you they will be happy with someone who makes you happy(unless there are moral issues,,,) regardless of race or creed or color or nationality. My father hit the roof the first time I dated a white guy, but he loved me enough to come around to being happy for us when he saw I was treated well.

Give your friends time, if they are really friends, they may come around to your choices.

then count them out

just because you know them doesn't make them friends

Date who you want. Do what you choose. And surround yourself with good people that DON'T judge you and love you for who you are.

friends are very important. like i said. don't tell them what u r doing.
go someplace where they "your so called good friends from kindieland" won't c or catch u.

I don't think she should have to sneak around and hide what she's doing. JMO.

Very well said!

I can't blame your friends for hating white people. I hate white people too. You can't open a polka club in a white neighborhood. The whites will be shooting all the accordians on opening night.....

Thank you Mscherbear! I try to keep my life simple. I really don't like being judged, so I really try hard not to judge others. I'm much happier with a smaller circle of people who truly respect me for who I am; good and bad.

haa,,
too funny,

I dont think she said they hated white people though,,

I know. No offense to anyone....

Never did

Date who you want, if you follow the path of what your friends or family wants you to do you will be miserable. Do what makes you happy and if you lose friends over it...they weren't very good friends in the first place.

as i said before. friends r important.

some guy from NY just sent me a scathing email about hitting on this woman who is complaining about liking certain types and her friends are against it. futhermore he called me a biach.

as i said. friends are important. don't tell them what you are doing, and keep your cards close to your chest.

I agree that some things should remain private, my intimate life is one of them. If I have intimate things people dont like, I just dont share them with those people,,but I dont hide either.

Don't tell them what you are doing. Keep your cards close 2 ur chest.
This is not hiding. It is being a little less available for friends 2 criticize.

I have all kinds of friends that tell me what I should be doing. Now I don't tell, I just go do.

However, I live in WA state, and we don't have any polka clubs up here with the boys shooting accordians all night. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

signing off as the biach...duffy

Grow a spine and be yourself. If you let your so-called "friends" manipulate you like that then how good of a friend could they really be? Decide who to date based on the persons character, not how much pigment melanin they have.....

It's a hard situation to be in.. I won't hide things from anyone but at the same time getting flack can be hard to handle at times... Years ago I had friends and family that didn't like who I was dating but it was more about them not liking the way I was being treated.. They still supported me b/c that's what friends do.. Thankfully dating losers is not part of my MO as I've gotten older...

If my friendships were/are so fragile that I can't be me or they them then we aren't really friends anyway...

Now my sons, that is a different story, I am careful about whom I would date b/c of my sons...

Hide? Why? If you have to hide then you shouldn't be doing it...