Can you talk to your child?

For seven years I lived next door to two little girls.
Their parents would often make them go outside to play
and lock the door on them. While they got high and drank.
I would be sitting out on my porch when this happened.
Eventually the girls would wander over to my house to talk.
They did'nt have anyone else to really play with, and my
children were older, some were adults by then.

So I took to talking with them on a regular basis. We would play out
in the yard (cause at that time I still had toys around).
Sometimes we would sit out in the yard on the picnic
table and do arts and crafts. They would take their projects
back home to their parents. The youngest one always walked
to school, many times alone. I took to giving her a ride
to the elementary in the mornings as I was taking my
daughter to high school. I grew to love these girls as if
they were my own and they loved me too.

I had thought about busting their parents, but thought it
none of my business that they got high. As long as they were'nt
abusing the girls. They never beat them or anything like that.
They always put them out when ever they were getting high.
I eventually moved away. They cried when I told them I was
moving and so did I. Over the next few years I thought of
them often and wondered how they were. Then last night I got
the horrible news...

Last year the youngest one comitted suicide at the age of
fifteen. She hung herself with an exstention cord while her
sister and mom went to go get pizza for dinner. They were only
gone tweenty minutes when they came back and found her.
It was later discovered on her myspace profile that she
was pregnant and afraid to tell her parents. The father of
the baby- her boyfriend was older and very abusive to her.

I cried and was devastated when I heard. It saddens me that
she felt so helpless, afraid and alone that she took that route.




So Folks...

Can you talk to your child?

Can your child talk to you?

Have you hugged your child today?

Have you told your child you love them today?

Do you know where your child is this very moment, do you know
what they are doing?

Do you do activities with your child, or do you just not have the time?

Do you realize everyone makes mistakes, or do you criticize
them when they do something wrong?


How can you exspect your child to face this world, if you
can't even face it straight and/or sober?

Do you know someone that is down and feeling hopeless,
are you there for them?


*This is NOT directed to the good parents out there. If by
posting this I can save one child/persons life... *

My baby Chelsea and I are a pair!!

It's weird we are like me and my twin!!

We know what each other is thinking at any given time
we finish each others sentences
if we are seperated we call each other immed when we have that weird feeling

we never stop talking

about anything

I love you chelly belly!!!

That's very sad. I have seen it before, a few times. A few lost adults who checked themselves out also...a bit of compassion goes a very long way.
Grateful to know my boys know they are loved and safe with me...

What is sad it does not matter if the parents are on drugs or not look at the kids that commit suicide every day that we have no idea there is a problem.

Even those kids that seem to have it all but in reality they are all missing the same thing that parent that is a friend as well.


Hummm even at the age my kids are now 25 & 27 I can pretty much tell you where they are most of the time. But............that does not mean I have not dealt with a child that wanted to commit suicide it just means I got lucky or blessed and was at the right place at the right time........

... ..sorry for your loss....

that's so terrible. I'm sorry

sometimes its hard to talk to your own parent
im 46yrs old and i find myself where i cant communicate with my mom
when i was going through my bankruptcy last yr
i confined in my sister and she called my other sister and that one sister called me and she ask me if it was ok if she talked to mom
to find out she wasent mad just worried
she even helped me finsih paying off my lawyer and went with me to my bankrupty court.

when my daughter found out she was pg the first time at 14
she was very scared for she didnt know how my mom would react
for when my mom had ask her why didnt she sign up for baseball again
my daughter told her she couldnt slide and she came out and told her
my mom gave her a 5min lecture and then called my sister and brother nlaw and they gave her a 5hour lecture
(my daughter is now 27) with 3kids