a suicidal friend?

I'm the last person in the world to judge my friend for wanting to...but
what she said...fantasizing about her death for 5 years? Not knowing
exactly why? I've never had that...ever. So I want to know do any of you
know how I can help her? She can't afford professional help...I'm
worried.

support her in all the ways you are able...she may be on her way home.


it is a difficult place for you...to hold with open arms and allow her
her process....no matter what you are not responsible for her choices
and what is important, is to find out how much of her choice is
conscious and how much is from dissappointment...many hospitals will
take patients for psycological and psychiatric counselling when they
have written a letter asking for specific help. and when it is urgent
she will be seen regardless of her financial status.


(in an ideal world?)...it used to be so when i was there in the
US...good luck and music helps alot....too simple but it
does.

please be worried and take it seriously..... talk to her and be there
for her but dont tell her its stupid or act like its no big deal, if she
loses interest in things and tries to give things away you need to call
someone immediately, a mad friend is better than a dead friend...... ask
her why she feels this way and to take each day as it comes that
tomorrow will be better and the next will be better and that u are her
friend and will be there to talk or mainly to listen without judgement..
dont act like its frivalous because to her its a serious matter and help
her see her good points and that the future can hold great things....
just listen and dont judge.. i have been there and if u need help just
ask as i have been in this situation many times and good luck to ya and
God bless! she is lucky to have someone who cares

Thank You guys

Hello Beth

Take this friend in your arms and hold her while she cries. Sometimes
it is the only thing we can do but it means more than we can ever know.
She may be feeling that she is not worth anyone's time or care, and just
that simple act of showing you care for her is enough to get her thru
another day.

She does need help but that is something only she can decide to go for.

Song , first of all it is not a job you take on if your not willing to
see it through it is a hard one to swallow at times. Myself have been
there for few one lately has turned away from me and there is nothing I
can do for they live so far away. At times it can be a heartbreaker. But
in the end the rewards is knowing you made a differnce. But... what
Kntrygal1964 says are very good words to follow by. One of the main
things is to help build there respect for themselves. Low self esteem
will take one down quick.

As far as medical help look and call a local hospital to see if there is
a county hospital in the area. If so call the county hospital most have
clinics that are associated with them either in house or outside that
the pay scale goes on a sliding scale. Which in turn if one quilifies
what one has to pay is according to there income. Also might want to
pull up depression clinics close by also. A lot of these places do have
means of payements through donations and other sources for those that
need the medical help but don't have the money.

(((((Beth)))))
Sweetie you have been given some really good advice here and All I can
say is I love you and if ya need to talk you know where I am,,,, Hugs
sweetie,,, My prayers for you and your girlfriend

Help her find professional help right away. There are resources for
those in financial distress. Call around locally. Do it NOW.
Try NAMI - www.nami.org

If it is an emergency, contact someone yourself.
Pay for a visit or two yourself if you have to.
You will never regret it.
Depression can be treated very successfully.