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to me your child is the first most important person you should be with.. for a child needs both parents and as much time possible with both of the parents.. hence if i was on here and had children not of age yet i would refuse to leave... if the other person did not like that and could not come to where i was, i would say forget it!.. also anyone that would be willing to leave where their minor children were would be quite a turn off for me.
my answer is i have met a couple people that live far from me. that i would be interested in. however i have learned from my mistakes to get "attached" seems to me that a lot play games just to get attention and don't really want a relationship.. but they want attention so bad that they are willing to chance at breaking someones heart for it... not the thing for me.. i can get that locally without the wait.  or without the time to get attached as well.
remember everyone has different ideas on here..its when the ideas don't match each others and they both sink so much time into something that they have totally different ideas on that one gets hurt. so id make it clear to them once more if they continue, i would definitely back off the relationship you have with them. not because u don't care but because u do care for your friend. |
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im confused.. didnt u live in california, and move to idaho for someone u met on the internet? thought it was your sons mother? Yes this did happen, but I moved to UT and i'm still here taking care of my son. We actually met and spent time together. I'm talking about people that you will never meet expecting you to get attached to them. I don't lead women on, and I can't control how someone might feel. But, I can control how I treat them and it is with respect. This might give Sky a little insite on being a Tomcat. Sky 
No, my first post I explaind that some people expect you to get attached to them knowing neither will ever be able to meet. I can't do that and I wont. Now if we can meet whether it be me going to see them or them coming to me. Then and only then I can see myself letting myself get close to somone if it looks like both of us ar will to work for this. Pissing in the wind don't work for me Thats like saying smell, but you can't touch.
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I guess the key is to not talk too often in the beginning, or to make an effort to hold back and not share so much, so when it ends, as it usually does, it doesn't hurt quite as bad. and....maybe the much talking, not holding back, sharing all is the key to a strong foundation of friendship that all relationships should be based on. Then the pull and feelings aren't superficial and it doesn't end..it's a beginning. |
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im confused.. didnt u live in california, and move to idaho for someone u met on the internet? thought it was your sons mother? Yes this did happen, but I moved to UT and i'm still here taking care of my son. We actually met and spent time together. I'm talking about people that you will never meet expecting you to get attached to them. I don't lead women on, and I can't control how someone might feel. But, I can control how I treat them and it is with respect. This might give Sky a little insite on being a Tomcat. Sky
No, my first post I explaind that some people expect you to get attached to them knowing neither will ever be able to meet. I can't do that and I wont. Now if we can meet whether it be me going to see them or them coming to me. Then and only then I can see myself letting myself get close to somone if it looks like both of us ar will to work for this. Pissing in the wind don't work for me Thats like saying smell, but you can't touch.
well some actually think they can live happily ever after in virtual world perhaps they could who knows? lmao! tell them its not your thing you desire touch
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I guess the key is to not talk too often in the beginning, or to make an effort to hold back and not share so much, so when it ends, as it usually does, it doesn't hurt quite as bad. and....maybe the much talking, not holding back, sharing all is the key to a strong foundation of friendship that all relationships should be based on. Then the pull and feelings aren't superficial and it doesn't end..it's a beginning. I meant when they send you away, it hurts when they send you away. |
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I guess the key is to not talk too often in the beginning, or to make an effort to hold back and not share so much, so when it ends, as it usually does, it doesn't hurt quite as bad. and....maybe the much talking, not holding back, sharing all is the key to a strong foundation of friendship that all relationships should be based on. Then the pull and feelings aren't superficial and it doesn't end..it's a beginning. I meant when they send you away, it hurts when they send you away. Yeah it does 
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Yes this did happen, but I moved to UT and i'm still here taking care of my son. We actually met and spent time together. I'm talking about people that you will never meet expecting you to get attached to them. I don't lead women on, and I can't control how someone might feel. But, I can control how I treat them and it is with respect. This might give Sky a little insite on being a Tomcat. Sky
And all I am saying Shadow, is that you have severely limited yourself to your own backyard. And it seems to be very small. What you want might be somewhere out there. But you say "Someone I will never meet." Who says so? The tomcat Oracle? Have you seen the # of couples on here who started out thousands of miles apart? They probably made all the statements you are making. Until they took the blinders off. And fell in love. You know, that emotional attachment chit 
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well some actually think they can live happily ever after in virtual world perhaps they could who knows? lmao! tell them its not your thing you desire touch
That's the thing i'm looking at. A lot of people live in this fantasy world on the net. Now I don't want any of the people that posted on here thinking I mean them. Just reality has made it's place on here for me. |
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Yes this did happen, but I moved to UT and i'm still here taking care of my son. We actually met and spent time together. I'm talking about people that you will never meet expecting you to get attached to them. I don't lead women on, and I can't control how someone might feel. But, I can control how I treat them and it is with respect. This might give Sky a little insite on being a Tomcat. Sky
And all I am saying Shadow, is that you have severely limited yourself to your own backyard. And it seems to be very small. What you want might be somewhere out there. But you say "Someone I will never meet." Who says so? The tomcat Oracle? Have you seen the # of couples on here who started out thousands of miles apart? They probably made all the statements you are making. Until they took the blinders off. And fell in love. You know, that emotional attachment chit
I understand what your saying 
But, I have a two year old son and the law says I can't move with my son. I can move when ever I want and take a chance on somone else out of state. But what would that be saying to my son, and to think about that. How much of his life would I miss. So yes, my limits are set. I will never leave my son for some women. Nothing personal, just my son is my life right now. Besides all that. it would be nice to meet somone that is willing to put as much effert into a relationship as I am. That means meet me half way on things and see where it goes from there. As far as getting attached to somone and I stated this already. Why get attached to somone that neither of you will be able to make the effert to meet? What would anyone get out of that alone other then pain? Don't take me wrong. I'm just sharing here
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One thing I have come to grips with through the years is I have learned never say never. I have talked to those online and the phone and said it would never work we could never meet anyway and tried to keep it friends. But found out I was wrong and we did meet and at times it did work out if the chemistry was there.
One must never say never just because your across the miles. But as far as being attached to them well sure it can happen and yeah I'm guilty of it as well. Wear my feelings on my sleeves at times sure I do. Has it crashed and failed at times sure it has I'm only human I have feelings and I tend to open my heart before I should at times. Life is life live it while you can and never think that something is impossible.......... 
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One thing I have come to grips with through the years is I have learned never say never. I have talked to those online and the phone and said it would never work we could never meet anyway and tried to keep it friends. But found out I was wrong and we did meet and at times it did work out if the chemistry was there. One must never say never just because your across the miles. But as far as being attached to them well sure it can happen and yeah I'm guilty of it as well. Wear my feelings on my sleeves at times sure I do. Has it crashed and failed at times sure it has I'm only human I have feelings and I tend to open my heart before I should at times. Life is life live it while you can and never think that something is impossible..........
KUDOS Kristi
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Well I have become very emotionally attacthed to someone in another state. Been writting and flirting for 8 going on 9 months. Matter of fact, I fell in love with him. I had hopes and dreams of meeting him come spring. Talked about meeting someday. Who says you can't ever meet? Perhaps its not for you and thats ok. I sure wish I lived in the same state as him though. It would be so much easier. If love and mutual feelings exsist, then travel is worth the risk. If a person has no intentions of ever meeting someone from another state- then they should be up front and honest about it. Woman get emotionally attached and men sometimes don't understand that. If a person is'nt up front about it and continues the flirting- well that can be considered leading them on. Just recently he has backed away all the sudden, leaving the site and deactivating. Said he did'nt have time for the computor anymore. He wrote me back on yahoo, but I get the feeling he is saying goodbye without saying it. Perhaps he can't see a relationship through long distance either and just wants to stay friends. I am crushed. I had gotton used to his letters and nudges coming in very regularly and now its empty and gone. Flirting and conversating over a long time can lead to feelings, and unless you make it perfectly clear that you just want to remain friends from the start. Things will happen. This is a dating site. Sorry for the long response, this post just hit a nerve in me. This may be the net but we are still real people behind these screens with real feelings. Some of us are looking for that someone special. JMO Oh and  Shadow good to see you.
Good to see you to MsTeddyBear
Your right about being up front and I always have been, especially with somone I know I will never meet. For me it is hard to understand how some get so close to others and never meet. I can see being close as friends. I'm sorry about what happen to you, but that is why I don't allow myself to get attached to someone on the net. No I did meet someone and we did spend time as you did on the net. We did meet and I ended up having a beautiful little boy with her. that was the only time I allowed myself to get attached. Thats because we were able to meet and spend some time with each other. The thing about your situation. There are people don't think about the other and look at this as just being the net and nothing more. That it's self leads back to when I said, things like this will set a path for some in a unhealthy matter. And the next person has no idea whats coming. |
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I just super glue myself, firstly to the keyboard ...
Then the phone ... Then my mouth to their arse ...  ... Why? Is that a bad thang?
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I just super glue myself, firstly to the keyboard ... Then the phone ... Then my mouth to their arse ... ... Why? Is that a bad thang?
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I just super glue myself, firstly to the keyboard ... Then the phone ... Then my mouth to their arse ... ... Why? Is that a bad thang?
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I just super glue myself, firstly to the keyboard ... Then the phone ... Then my mouth to their arse ... ... Why? Is that a bad thang?
 Ms. Kate 
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I just super glue myself, firstly to the keyboard ... Then the phone ... Then my mouth to their arse ... ... Why? Is that a bad thang?
Ms. Kate
... Yeah, just take it from me ...
Sex while super~glued gets old fast...  ... Not to mention it is quite 'sticky' in the that is just sooooo wrong way!
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Yes this did happen, but I moved to UT and i'm still here taking care of my son. We actually met and spent time together. I'm talking about people that you will never meet expecting you to get attached to them. I don't lead women on, and I can't control how someone might feel. But, I can control how I treat them and it is with respect. This might give Sky a little insite on being a Tomcat. Sky
And all I am saying Shadow, is that you have severely limited yourself to your own backyard. And it seems to be very small. What you want might be somewhere out there. But you say "Someone I will never meet." Who says so? The tomcat Oracle? Have you seen the # of couples on here who started out thousands of miles apart? They probably made all the statements you are making. Until they took the blinders off. And fell in love. You know, that emotional attachment chit :hear I understand what your saying
But,I have a two year old sonand the law says I can't move with my son. I can move when ever I want and take a chance on somone else out of state. But what would that be saying to my son, and to think about that. How much of his life would I miss. So yes, my limits are set. I will never leave my son for some women. Nothing personal, just my son is my life right now. Besides all that. it would be nice to meet somone that is willing to put as much effert into a relationship as I am. That means meet me half way on things and see where it goes from there. As far as getting attached to somone and I stated this already. Why get attached to somone that neither of you will be able to make the effert to meet?What would anyone get out of that alone other then pain? Don't take me wrong. I'm just sharing here
That is new info about your child. Of course you want to avoid a situation where you have to choose. You already have. But hun, there are two people involved. Maybe she would move to where you are. I'm just saying, no one gets through a closed door. |
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I just super glue myself, firstly to the keyboard ... Then the phone ... Then my mouth to their arse ... ... Why? Is that a bad thang?
Ms. Kate
... Yeah, just take it from me ...
Sex while super~glued gets old fast... ... Not to mention it is quite 'sticky' in the that is just sooooo wrong way!
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I cringe to imagine trying to get it off.....oh hell, that came out entirely wrong.... |
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