When the b.s.gets too thick I generally go to the serious hardware and then ask questions later.But hey! that's just me.

On a first post I might take it as such.?

On many posts there after,,YES I JUDGE THEM AS PEOPLE.

And if their HATERS,(racists, gay bashes, gender haters,)

and if their throwing out their DISLIKES all the time.

THAN YES I JUDGE THEIR HEART,,their integrity, honesty, to OTHERS.

POSTS allow ALL OF US to do this!

When WE as readers only have WORDS to give US this person's TRUTH,,or to even THINK we might know their minds thoughts through their choice in words to use and speak through, THATS ALL WE HAVE to come and KNOW THEM as people or THAT PERSON...

I have NEVER intentionally NOT POSTED in someones thread, BECAUSE I didn't like them. I will STILL post to their questions if they interests me.
Unless it gets personal, and they would find my post argumentative to be there?

I can only say that many who I feel carry attitudes to hurt others
through their words, or ones I feel are FAKE PROFILES,,I try to let readers know that through my words here,,wink,
which is wrong,,but its a me on here three years now kind-of thing,,lol
I'm working on letting THEM BE,,but its hard,,,


I accept all friends requests and answer all emails,,,,,,
no-matter my personal THOUGHTS of them,,,
I can only try and be open, even if I THINK diff. EVERYONE CAN THINK WRONG ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE,,FALSELY...

Hmm.. This may be one of your best threads yet, Rob.

Part of my job, is making judgment calls. If you would be so kind, as to indulge me here.

Terry makes a good point, above, but i do have to say this...

I see a lot of new members, post, and get off on the wrong foot with the regulars, just from making an off the wall comment. We really need to be more receptive of new members. All of us were new at some point.

Clearly, those who come here for no reason, other than to upset the community, will not last long. Just hit the report button. We will try a reasonable approach, and if that doesn't work..well..

To answer the question, as far as the regular posters, i have to keep an open mind, and everyone should. What we need to realize here is, it is a broad community, with folks from all different backgrounds. We are all not going to agree all the time, but we can be adults, and agree to disagree, with respect for the persons views/ideas, just as we want to be respected for our own opinions.

I'll sum this up, as i know i'm probably boring you guys to tears, lol..

You can't judge a person, based on a few ideas and the typed word....Well, maybe you can, but is it a fair assessment? Experience tells me it isn't.

To me it doesn't make a difference who post it's the topic.

Some i'm interested and some i'm not. Then there are the post that I have nothing to share on about it so I don't post.

It's like the sex forum. I find it stupid that you have literally 50 post that are the same, just worded a little differently.

I will go the other way on this, I have met a couple of guys here on Mingle before I even knew about the forums section. They each came off as a nice guy when emailing and phone calls and even after meeting them once or twice, but after reading some to their posts they came off as totally different then they did in person. If I had read their postings first, I most likely would not have ever agreed to see them in person.

sex forums are a trip,they are actually the easiest one to answer

yes
no
tap it
pass
oh hell yeah

thanks Mark this was my point and you verified it

That's why I don't subscribe to it

tap it

Ya, they are knowing you can use those same words on every topic.

Unless or until I meet them in person, what other choice do I have? Though I try not to "judge" people, as in classify them as "good" or "bad". I more just form an impression of them based on their words.



Absolutely.

A long time ago on here, I had opened my search up to cover ANYWHERE here in the states,,as I had went to my home page, I noticed a half naked lady showing at the bottom of my account page,,in my search I had running,lol
She had on a man's suit jacket and a top hat,,very classy and naked under it,,SO
for shlt and giggles I looked to see where she was as she was not a poster on here. She was in Cali. I sent her an email just saying my wow's and how cute she was,,thinking she wouldn't even come back to me,,with-in a minute,,she wrote me back,,THANKING me and going ON to say from ME THATS a GREAT compliment and she thanked me again,,I was thinking WTF?????
So with my mouth still opened in awwwwwww
I asked her how she knew me,,,she said she had read many of my posts and felt me to be a real nice intelligent gentlemen and ON and ON,,,,
It took me about five emails to have her know she lived to far for us to really try to meet each other or date....lol and she was like way to young for me,,wink,BUT,,,THE POINT HERE is SHE felt she KNEW ME ALREADY
just through what I had written on posts....THAT was just to cool..