If you are in the "friend's zone" with members of the opposite sex, does this mean all or most of that sex would see you only as a friend?

*edit* does this imply you are undateable?

(insert disclaimer here)

Up until about a year ago, most of my friends have always been of the opposite sex. I don't know if that has to do with how they see me, per se, or just the fact that I've never had much interest in typical "guy stuff" and have always enjoyed hanging out with women more.

Now, they just see me as intimidating and complicated, which doesn't really help, either.

Hummm are ya bored today hehehe.......

Well for me it is very clear with the person I talk to if we are just friends or if there is more that it could be or on the verge of more.

Actually my best friend for 23 years is a guy and everyone that knows us know that. I enjoy talking to men more then I do women actually don't mean I don't talk to women I just relate to guys easier. Men are different as friends...

And when I first talk to guys it is on a friendship bases but now there are at times that I'm thinking eww la la he is sweet. heheheh Then of course the conversation turns out different.

I don't think that all of them will only see u as a friend.The best way to found someone is to be friends first.When u are friends with your love its the best feeling in the world.

so because you are in the "friend zone" with the opposite sex, do you think others assume that you won't get a date or whatever?

Most of my friends are guys.

You and me both Lex on that first part. But for me it has become even more so rather than having few female friends I have more.

I think some people watch too much Sienfield and have this distorted notion about friends of the opposite sex. Me personally more often than not I'm the one saying "friends" but more often than that it's mutual, I have some friends I really really like, but I can't imagine myself actually dating them. I also have a number of ex's that are friends, I just don't see the problem myself once it's over.

And as for getting dates, my female friends are probably my best source so who am I to complain.

I sure hope not--most of my friends are guys too! I really don't know whether it is or isn't the case. But I do think that on sites such as this, if you have mostly members of the opposite sex on your friends list, some people will think so. I admit that I would feel that way about someone who had only females on their friends lists unless I knew them.

as time goes by the friendship with some of my friends that are women is deteriorating,cause most have found jealous BFs,husbands or "out of respect for their SO" they won't keep in touch with me.

I assume I won't get a date, period, but it has nothing to do with "friend" status, etc. It has more to do with the complete non-existence of anyone compatible.

In fact, pretty much everyone I've ever been involved with was someone I met through one female friend or another.

Hmm dang Cherbear, now you got me wondering. I haven't looked at my friends list in a while. I know I've had some guys on there not sure any of them are still around LOL.

Actually even when I have been with my male friends I have still had other guys talk to me. I mean if they even open their eyes they will be able to see that your not being lovey dovey and all that stuff. But just joking around guys pick up on that faster then most think they do.

friend zone usually means: it won't develop, but not always...
once upon a time i had a friend and she became my exceptional lover...

and though it did not last, it was strong and fine
and through it all she was and is my friend.

so am I correct in the replies that if someone sees you are in the zone with others, that doesn't mean you are undateable?

don't forget inscrutable, jaded, cynical and guarded!
and impossibly selective!

I've actually had guys tell me I had guys chasing me all over the place. They apparently made assumptions based on the number of male friends I have.

(Oops miss read your statement correcting my response ...)
Yes I would agree with that though I think there are some who might make that assumption... I don't think most girls really want those guys anyway though

All right who told you I was chasing you? I want names!!!

I'll never tell...

Naw if they take the time and watch they should be able to pick up your not with the ones your sitting with in that manner.... Some just assume way too quick and don't take the time to really look hey their loss.

I was called a slut once because of all of my guy friends....wouldn't a slut imply I was getting some?