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Topic: Why is it that the men...
TheShadow's photo
Tue 02/23/10 09:33 AM
Edited by TheShadow on Tue 02/23/10 09:42 AM
Have to make the first move, whether it be the net or not.

This and many other questions like this have been posted on the forums many times.

In reality, it's harder for a man to get a reply from a women then it is the other way around. Now knowing I been on the net for a few years. My experense in reading profiles. Many of them say i'm looking for friends. Now to me, this means looking for people to chat with and pass time. So being a man and i'm expected to make the first move.

Question, does attraction have to do with anything in looking for a friend?

My personal thoughts on this. A lot of people lie to themselves or on their profile being on the net, and use the friend thing as a way to hide what there actually looking for.



OK, let me have itlaugh laugh

Gossipmpm's photo
Tue 02/23/10 09:43 AM
Well for me

if someone interest me as a person I'd like to get to know
I have no problem shooting them some mail

looks have nothing to do with it for me when looking to chat

but their personalities have to mesh with mine and I can usually tell by reading their posts if they will or not

and yes

I have found some people who are lying to themselves
and others. Ya know using some kinda fake persona it might help them to hide behind somthing that is not true rather than be real. And on a dating site that seems so easy for someone to do that

It always comes out at the end though!:heart:

skydancingA's photo
Tue 02/23/10 09:43 AM
Well.
Since you asked :-)

Men can look at a girl and fall in love.
Girls need to know more.
We use the friendship angle to get there.

We don't ask first because the first ask is
part of the mating ritual.
We like that one :-)

Shadow_Sektor's photo
Tue 02/23/10 09:44 AM
Well, this website is dead. If you had of posted this on plentyoffish or one of those more active dating websites lol they would "let you have it". Well you just have to get use to it, people are always lying online more than they do in actual life. Its a pain in the *** to deal with fakes all the time but hell, that's the internet for you and reality as well.

TheShadow's photo
Tue 02/23/10 09:51 AM

Well for me

if someone interest me as a person I'd like to get to know
I have no problem shooting them some mail

looks have nothing to do with it for me when looking to chat

but their personalities have to mesh with mine and I can usually tell by reading their posts if they will or not

and yes

I have found some people who are lying to themselves
and others. Ya know using some kinda fake persona it might help them to hide behind somthing that is not true rather than be real. And on a dating site that seems so easy for someone to do that

It always comes out at the end though!:heart:


Ya, it does alway come out at the end. I think this is part of the problem for some meeting somone, among others :smile:

no photo
Tue 02/23/10 09:56 AM

Well, this website is dead. If you had of posted this on plentyoffish or one of those more active dating websites lol they would "let you have it". Well you just have to get use to it, people are always lying online more than they do in actual life. Its a pain in the *** to deal with fakes all the time but hell, that's the internet for you and reality as well.
well this site will NEVER be dead cause the best people in the world are on here!!! We for the most part respect each other thats why many of us have been in here for Years!!! Those other sites are for players and THIS one isnt!!

TheShadow's photo
Tue 02/23/10 09:59 AM

Well, this website is dead. If you had of posted this on plentyoffish or one of those more active dating websites lol they would "let you have it". Well you just have to get use to it, people are always lying online more than they do in actual life. Its a pain in the *** to deal with fakes all the time but hell, that's the internet for you and reality as well.


To much Drama on those sites laugh

Half the time I don't expect a reply when sending an emails. I know a few people on this site, so some days the forum is active and other days it's dead like you said. But I found more people to be real on this site on the forum then most sits I been to.

TheShadow's photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:01 AM

Well.
Since you asked :-)

Men can look at a girl and fall in love.
Girls need to know more.
We use the friendship angle to get there.

We don't ask first because the first ask is
part of the mating ritual.
We like that one :-)


If I ever look at a girl on the net and fall in love.


Shoot melaugh

writer_gurl's photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:09 AM

Have to make the first move, whether it be the net or not.

This and many other questions like this have been posted on the forums many times.

In reality, it's harder for a man to get a reply from a women then it is the other way around. Now knowing I been on the net for a few years. My experense in reading profiles. Many of them say i'm looking for friends. Now to me, this means looking for people to chat with and pass time. So being a man and i'm expected to make the first move.

Question, does attraction have to do with anything in looking for a friend?

My personal thoughts on this. A lot of people lie to themselves or on their profile being on the net, and use the friend thing as a way to hide what there actually looking for.



OK, let me have itlaugh laugh


You looked at my profile & didn't say hi...So, doesn't that defeat the purpose for this...Or you were waiting for me to say hi...is that is?

RKISIT's photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:16 AM

Have to make the first move, whether it be the net or not.

This and many other questions like this have been posted on the forums many times.

In reality, it's harder for a man to get a reply from a women then it is the other way around. Now knowing I been on the net for a few years. My experense in reading profiles. Many of them say i'm looking for friends. Now to me, this means looking for people to chat with and pass time. So being a man and i'm expected to make the first move.

Question, does attraction have to do with anything in looking for a friend?

My personal thoughts on this. A lot of people lie to themselves or on their profile being on the net, and use the friend thing as a way to hide what there actually looking for.



OK, let me have itlaugh laugh
to be honest i was actually surprised at how many women will respond first if they are interested,but some still live by that tradition the man should show interest first,even though the 17th century ended along time ago....as for the friends thing some state on their profiles thats all they are looking for,although some get out of control with the friends thingy and wanna chat and chat and chat and chat,lead you to think they maybe interested,then continue to chat and chat and chat and chat and chat....get my point

no photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:34 AM

Have to make the first move, whether it be the net or not.



Some sort of antiquated tradition/mindset. They can keep it.

I don't make the first move.




luv2roknroll's photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:35 AM
Men are suppose to make the first move?what

Really?surprised

Not with me!

If I see something I want, I dont wait for it to get away....noway

I GO FOR IT!love :banana:

luv2roknroll's photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:37 AM
Edited by luv2roknroll on Tue 02/23/10 10:41 AM


Well, this website is dead. If you had of posted this on plentyoffish or one of those more active dating websites lol they would "let you have it". Well you just have to get use to it, people are always lying online more than they do in actual life. Its a pain in the *** to deal with fakes all the time but hell, that's the internet for you and reality as well.
well this site will NEVER be dead cause the best people in the world are on here!!! We for the most part respect each other thats why many of us have been in here for Years!!! Those other sites are for players and THIS one isnt!!

I guess Mikey let you have it!

You go baby!

Never go on a site and than talk chit about it.

If its so dead here, why are you posting here?

evian001's photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:45 AM
Men have to make the first move beCause whn a woman does- men wonder if she is a supersl.Ut who pics up men all the time.

Even if a guy plays it cool he still wonders

Thus us women have to play a lost deer in the headlights or lose our glass slipper to allow mens ego to be boosted. Resulting in him feeling like the grand "hero " he is nOt.

The truth hurts - dont it :)

luv2roknroll's photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:50 AM
Edited by luv2roknroll on Tue 02/23/10 10:51 AM

Men have to make the first move beCause whn a woman does- men wonder if she is a supersl.Ut who pics up men all the time.

Even if a guy plays it cool he still wonders

Thus us women have to play a lost deer in the headlights or lose our glass slipper to allow mens ego to be boosted. Resulting in him feeling like the grand "hero " he is nOt.

The truth hurts - dont it :)
Superslut!!!scared

Hey!!!

I resemble that remark!!!!rofl

justme659's photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:56 AM
I use to make a first move. After a while it dawned on me that those first moves (ie. wrote to) seemed to be a sign to the fellas I that I would put out on a first date. So... I quit writing and making the first move. I don't even perv profiles anymore.

Shasta1's photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:58 AM
Because they make more money than us, they have to earn somethinglaugh laugh laugh (okay, now I'm in for it)waving

evian001's photo
Tue 02/23/10 10:59 AM
Ery1 has or had a lil supersl.Ut in them @ sum point...... Even me hehe

Sum ppl dont grow out of it. Thts whn it turns sad.

luv2roknroll's photo
Tue 02/23/10 11:01 AM
Edited by luv2roknroll on Tue 02/23/10 11:02 AM

Ery1 has or had a lil supersl.Ut in them @ sum point...... Even me hehe

Sum ppl dont grow out of it. Thts whn it turns sad.
I totally agree with that...flowerforyou

but I still want you to call me a Superslut!

Makes me feel like a superhero of sorts!:banana:

"Its a bird
its a plane...

no....

its Superslut"!!!!

mscherbear's photo
Tue 02/23/10 11:08 AM
All a matter of individual preference as to who makes the first move. I'm a little bit old-fashioned in that sense, although I think I've missed out on some opportunities by waiting frown

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