A guy begs you for a month for your phone number... last night you
finally give it to him. He and I talk for an hour - even discuss the
chance of he and I meeting someday. Then today there is an away message
and he won't talk to me. I haven't been pestering him - sent two
messages - never even called him. He loved my southern accent so I
thought. He and I talked forever and ever. Does it turn a guy off that
a woman stands on her own two feet and doesn't need a guy to support
her? I came out of an abusive relationship... even before the abuse I
was really independent, then somehow my exhusband wore me down -now I am
back in full force. I am not like b*tchy nor demanding. I am honest
about my feelings as long it doesn't offend somone... does a guy not
like a girl for independence? I really need some help right now. There
are so many guys that I am so interested in and so many that is
interested in me so I thought until they realize I fish, I play sports,
I can talk basketball, and i know all that kind of lingo. Do guys not
like that kind of stuff? I know when they look at my pic they think she
is all goody goody, feminine, etc... but when I open my mouth and start
talking about stuff they shut up!

calm down and give him a couple days, hes probably just as excited as
you! ever heard of the 3 day rule?....lol

some guys just don't like competition, i like the fact tht ur
independent and all tht jazz, nuthin's wrong with it......

ur right part time, he's probably had a csae of bad nerves

If your half as attractive and nice as you seem to be, he will be
back!!!!!

I just feel like guys are totally turned off that a girl has
independence - who likes a girl that can change her flat tire - or do an
oil change etc....??????? Looking at my pic you wouldn't be able to
tell that I am great at basketball and football... you would think I am
at a tea party!

I think independence is a big turn on. It's something I look for in a
woman. When Im in a relationship I look for someone that I can depend
on, just as much as they can depend on me. It's a 2-way thing, who wants
to have to take care of someone all the time.

look for the confidence in guys and you will find it. Guys like girls
who are independent. They just aren't so sure about women who wear their
indepenence like a badge, or a chip daring somone to try to knock it
off, if you get my meaning

ur both right

So you like it that I qualified for college when I was 13? That I can
change a flat tire and change my own oil. That I can argue basketball?

When a Woman can stand up too her self, and do most things a man can
do!!! Damn those are the kind of women I respect... There's nothing
wrong with a woman being smarter then the guy in a relationship..

kinda proud of them badges aren't ya?............... my point was, ok
so you can do it. time to talk about something else, cause its starting
to sound like a challenge of some kind.

if you were talking like that to the poor guy for hours, imagine what he
has to look forward to the next time you talk. More about what
youuuuuuu can do, and did????

Caddie in most guys eyes you would be considered a dream girl with all
that going for you. That's what I "look" for in a girl. I want a friend
as well as a lover. Someone who can physically and mentally meet any
challenge and have fun doing it with me. If he does not come back..there
are better ones out there for ya. You are a sweetheart and don't let him
get you down.

it isn't about me boasting at all... it is not like i advertise what my
capabilities are. I don't start a conversation as in I do this and
that. but as the conversation goes on I feel that a guy is intimitated
by what I do know how to do. They start talking sports and I start
talking sports, if they start talking cars I can tell them the ends and
out of my car. I kinda hate it b/c I am that independent. I don't
intiate the converation and advertise that I know all of this stuff. I
don't wear a badge nor do I want to. I want to be accepted for myself.
For who I am... w/o all the beauty or what I do know... but who I am
inside. Trust me if I wanted to wear a badge you will find me in shorts
and a tank holding a bass fish or covered in oil.

do you think he was intimidated by you?

why even worry about it? He will either call in a couple of days or it
wasnt a match for him... Its not like you had a long term
relationship

I have no idea - he sent me a message and we got on the same level of
music... he wanted me to play the piano for him. But if I start talking
about my car and I think the timer is off etc... he kinda becomes like
non responsive. I feel like it is a curse that I know this stuff. I
almost want to keep my mouth shut and not bother with it all. If I talk
to him about my car maybe I should be oblivious to the answer when I
know my spedometer is off b/c of the timer and it isn't shifting gears
until is 5 rpms other than 3.5 rpms. He was really cool talking
earlier but how comes it seems guys are intimadated?

ok if all that is correct, then what I have said is wrong, sorry! The
guy, among what seems to be many, has not the courage to meet you head
on. Good luck to you. The man you seek will be as highly unusual as you
are.

i donot know
male ego i guess.